bad morning......

[JodyLynC]

I think it might benefit him- but it's a decision I can't make on my own. His school work is going pretty well- it's the stress of getting there and staying there.

I understand. I would do some research on the virtual schools that are available for your state. See what would be pros and what would be cons for your situation with each school. Then sit down with your son and your DH and open the discussion.

If it sounds like something your family wants to try you can always enroll him for next Fall and try it out for a year or even half a year. Your DS will either thrive or he will beg to go back to regular school (and hopefully be more cooperative when getting up in the a.m.).

Good Luck!!

 

[Crystal0608]

Mermaid, I'm sorry you had a bad morning. My son is 8 and also adhd and school mornings suck here too. School starts at 7:30 and he usually wets the bed which means I have to wake him up earlier. After 10 hours sleep its like its not enough. An alarm clock won't wake him, he starts yelling & crying if loud sounds are used ie my singing, picking him up and trying to carry him to the tub is getting difficult as me makes himself dead weight, etc.. Breakfast is served at school, but I actually had a good morning today by walking in their room and saying "Pancakes" at 6am. He hopped out in a sec and wanted to help, told him to put the bedding in the washer, take a bath, & get dressed. Eventually it was done with no fussing, the power of maple syrup, lol. Is your son on Vyvanse by chance? My son was VERY emotional on that.

 

[bluesaturn]

The first thing I thought when reading your post was anxiety, which several posters mentioned. That could be what's making getting to school so difficult. Does he have a therapist or psychologist? Maybe you could collaborate with a professional to make a plan that works for the family. I agree with you, I really doubt any punishments or restrictions will make a difference. Besides, you are trying to teach him ways to deal with the world, and he needs to be able to do it even when you aren't there to reinforce.

 

[dicar123]

I have no advice, but a ton of empathy. My son was very similar to yours. Luckily for me, the child was so rule-bound that the idea of being late or absent without a valid excuse was as anxiety-provoking as school was.

Helpful, certainly, but it was rather like watching someone utterly compelled to march to the gallows each day.