Bad In Laws

[crisi]

This is being driven from a thread over on the Disney for Families board. Rather than hi jack that over there, I thought people might want to vent a little about their in laws.

My own mother in law is a doll. I don't think I would be quite so fond of her however, if my previous mother in law hadn't been spawned from the deepest pits......

So I was married to my first husband and he wanted to go on a family vacation with his parents. A long weekend, just him, his sister and his parents. Sounded fine to me - I firmly believe everyone needs time with their family of origin without their spouse hanging over them. I found out after our divorce that his girlfriend (the woman he left for, whom I didn't know existed at the time) went with him. Yep, my ex-mother-in-law took my husband's mistress on a family vacation with them and left me behind (not that I would have wanted to go along - that would have been awkward!).

 

[MAC3]

HOLY CRAP!

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

Lori

 

[kaabost]

Gee-whiz! Some people! I'm sure that was tough news! At least you know where your ex-husband got his "charming" values. I feel sorry for the next woman that gets involved with him!

 

[Pebblszzz]

Yikes!!!

I'm speechless!!!

 

[olena]

That's dreadful!

 

[caitycaity]

 

[nativetxn]

YIKES! How lucky you are to be rid of both of those devious people.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

That is pretty bad and I bet you felt really betrayed.

 

[sha_lyn]

A friends uncle showed up at her house for a visit (several days) with his mistress. I told her I would have slammed the door in his face. Her mother lives with her (the uncle is hte mothers brother) and she did have a problem with it. What really bothered me is that now they have told my friends 5 yr old to not tell her aunt about the other "aunt".

 

[snoopy]

Sounds like an episode of the Jerry Springer show. Bet you are glad to be rid of that family!

 

[RUDisney]

Gee, and I thought my MIL was bad... at least I got her one good son. I've got lots of stories, but I think this one wins.

 

[crisi]

Betrayed, nah, by the time I found out it was another mark in the "Good Riddance" column. I always knew she didn't like me, guess I underestimated the amount. But it was "whatever it took to make her baby happy." I remember that she got a bigger vote on what color we were painting our bedroom than I did - should have been a clue.

I'm sure there is worse (although, I admit I haven't heard worse where actual abuse wasn't occuring). Anyone else got any good ones.....I know I've set the bar pretty high......


My grandmother has been a real winner toward my mother. She will invite them over for a family dinner - and have the whole family on Saturday and tell my mother it is on Sunday. She's done it more than once and we are all past the point of believing its an honest mistake. She is nearly consistant in her praise to any daughter in law not currently in the room in ways that can only be hurtful to her current audience ("oh, Julie is so good to me, when I visited them they treated me like a queen and took me out to dinner at the fanciest places" in the direction of the poor daughter in law. Or "oh, Pam is so wonderful, she takes me out shopping every week and if I need help around the house, she drops by" to the one that lives out of town.) She also likes to bring up "Marilyn" - my father's date to the prom - my parents have been married forty years and my father hasn't seen "Marilyn" in forty three years. "How is Marilyn doing? Do you still see her? She was such a nice girl."

 

[tkd lisa]

Can't top either of those stories.

My in-laws are GREAT, but MY mom isn't terribly nice. I've been married for 14 years, and she still sends letters to my maiden name! She pretty much hates all men except one of her brothers. She just can't believe that I'm happily married.

I just correct her whenever she does that kind of thing, and she acts all surprised. DH has pretty thick skin, but I make it clear that I don't support the behavior.

 

[WeirdEyes]

Well, my M-I-L for the most part is great to me, but there have been times when I'd like to tell her a thing or two. I remember when my DH and I were first married (my DH had been married previously and had a small child), I went into his old room and my M-I-L had placed pictures of his first wife around the room. I didn't have to say anything then because my DH straightened that one out. Last Thanksgiving, the whole family was over at her house and she had placed pictures in her living room of various family, etc. My B-I-L comes in the kitchen holding a picture and asked his Mom who that was. I looked at the picture and said that's Lisa (my DH's girlfriend from HIGH SCHOOL). I didn't care about that picture because the old girlfriend and my M-I-L have remained friends and she is a lovely person. What I got upset about was that everybody started acting funny around me because they thought I was upset. I finally had to tell everybody to chill out because I was fine. And she claims I'm her favorite.

 

[2MuchOhana]

Glad to have inspired starting this thread. Not sure I can top yours; but will tell my story anyway.

DH and I have been married for thirteen years. Due to the tremendous amount of stress and meddling IL's we miscarried three times before finally being blessed with DD after almost eleven years of marriage.

Here are just a few examples of what kind of IL's I was cursed with.

MIL went to the dress shop to pick up SIL dress for our wedding. She planned to do the alterations herself; whicg would have been major. We explained we weren't comfortable with that. So, she complained at how much the dress cost (they knew this well in advance). SIL decides to back out of the wedding party almost last minute. FIL gets everyone's hair pieces from the bridal shop and holds them hostage until we pay them for the dress. They were refusing to come to our wedding. They told all the friends and relatives no to either. We didn't even know until a week before if they were coing to our wedding. The entire day was so stressful I couldn't enjoy my own wedding. I kept waiting for them to stand up and object. It was awful.

A few months later we went to their house for a visit. Right in plain site there was a copy of a very nasty letter about me and my family that MIL sent to all her friends. My husband found it and I did, too. She never thought our marriage was never going to last but we are still proving her wrong to this day.

They try bossing us around in our own home. Have tried to force us to join a different church because they like that one better. Hello, we live 700 miles apart! They expect us to change our schedules to accomodate them; but are never willing to change their plans in return.

They refused an all expense paid trip to WDW to celebrate DD 2nd birthday in July. Instead they went camping with their other granddaughter. They see her everyday after school and she spends the entire weekend at their house. SIL has a 9 to 5 M-F job. They spend their time traveling and doing what they want; but complain that they haven't seen DD in almost 9 months now

Now, I am stuck spending a week with these miserable people at WDW in December. Heaven Help us all! PLease Send Pixie Dust! They invited themselves.

Sorry this is so long. I really need this! Thanks Crisi! You were right I did need to vent a little.

 

[MAC3]

Originally posted by Soltwisch Family
Hello, we live 700 miles apart!

Not far enough IMHO!

Runaway!!!!!! Far Far away!

I think you & Crisi should go out drinking someday

Good luck with that WDW trip!



Lisa

 

[crisi]

Lots and lots of pixie dust. (Although the hair pieces being held hostage made me laugh out loud.)

The nice thing about my mother out law is that when I got rid of her son, I got rid of her as well. Since you actually seem to like your spouse, that isn't a good option. You get to put up with yours for as long as you and hubby can keep from throwing your halos at them.

(BTW, my ex is still married to the bimbo they took on vacation with. And since I married a guy that is my best friend and soulmate and is absolutely wonderful, it seems to have worked out best for everyone. And I get to shock people with my mother in law story).

 

[CamColt]

Originally posted by Soltwisch Family

They try bossing us around in our own home.

I can relate to this one. Ive been kicked out of my own kitchen by MIL. She also came to our Christmas Eve party, wanted her friends invited(we obliged), and then sat in the kitchen all night, bad mouthing me. ...even to my own mother! Oh and once she caught me at home alone so while we chatted she "nicely" mentioned that I should give our grandfather clock to her other son because he liked it. In fairness she did sell it to DH when she sold him the house so it was once hers, but it was a prominent part of our home by this point.

 

[Cruisin]

About 1 1/2 years ago now my mother in law went off the deep end and said lots of "lovely" things about me after I have been married to her son for 22 yrs and have her only 2 grandchildren.
She said the I was immoral, my children were immoral and all of my family was also.
She also said when people would come to visit from the "old" country and we would have them over, she would feel it was necessary to warn them about my lack of housekeeping skills.
I think it is quite sad for both of them because now my husband no longer welcomes them into our house and we used to have them over very often. So now they hardly see their grandchildren and are living a lonely life.