Bad Childhood Good Life-PARENTING

[miss missy]

You are looking to an unqualified person to do this for you. I would never allow a person with a degree in physiology do psychology on me. She is a glorified gym teacher IMO.

To state that those who dislike Laura are not open to delving into their heads is absurd. Laura is not a doc of psychiatry and should not be claiming to be a therapist.

Delve any way you want. But most people who listen, are looking for understanding in something. I am not stating anything.

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

No apologies nessessary PDT..... The thing is the old fashioned way of dealing with children with disabilities was to instituionalize and pretend they never happened.

In my sons situation he will either live with us till we pass away or he will be in a group home. I am not sure he will ever have the life skills to live independantly. So because of that should I call Laura and see what she thinks? Should I put him in a home now since that is probably where he is going to go when he is older? I figure that would be her answer.

It is just that things are not so black and white like she makes them. One size doesn't fit all. So the whole notion that she "tells it like it is" is absurd. A better description is biased blanket statements that get her ratings.

Her show is more similar to Howard Sterns than it is to say Dr. Joy Browne. Half the people listen to her that seek help and the rest are in it for the train wreck. It is hard to change the station because you are thinking what comes next. Exactly like Howard.

 

[cardaway]

I swear she picks a subject for the day and stages a call around it, probably from one of her show's producers.

As much as I think the woman is trash, I seriously doubt that happens often or at all. She gets more calls than the system can handle (most callers get busy signals) and it isn't hard for the well trained producers to screen (interview) the callers and find exactly the ones Laura wants to snap at.

I know I did my job well when I did that for a local talk show host.

 

[miss missy]

Wow! I stopped listening to Dr. Laura ages ago and yes I am very interested in interpersonal relationships and how our minds and emotions work.

I am also the mother of a child with an autism spectrum disorder, who also has very poor fine and gross motor skills. These are brain based problems and not something that he can help. He was one of those kids on the baseball team that one of our coaches continually benched. You cannot imagine the hurt that caused him and me. Seeing a kid sooo young and so eager to play like the rest of the kids. To this day he remembers that. IF I called in and someone gave me such cruel advice I'd be livid! My son has a very high I.Q. and autism problems are very complicated. To say that you should put your own child in a home, and go party is again cruel and ill informed! I cannot believe any professional would give such harmful advice.

Her responses lack empathy. In fact people who are self aggrandizing and lack empathy are said to have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The more I see about Dr. Laura the more I think she has NPD!

There are sooo many good "reparenting" programs out there if you have childhood issues to deal with ( and who doesn't LOL!) that I really think I'd steer clear of a person such as Dr. Laura. I'm glad to know she has helped some people though I do think people like her are truly dangerous and would be best taken with a grain of salt.

Sorry to get carried away but, her responses really struck a personal nerve with me. Most kids with autism are perfectly fine and better off with their own loving family. If it gets to the point that someone NEEDS a different solution that is NOT the type of advice that someone who does not know you at all and who has heard you talk about a problem for five minutes should be offering over the radio. Dr. Laura should have advised the woman who called in to discuss her options with a local professional who was familiar with autism. She could have even had the woman call her back and get a referral to such services. It is very unprofessional to give such advice over the radio. And harmful and exploits people with very real problems. Some people believe she has their best interests at heart when clearly she is only all about ratings! ug! Sad, sad, sad.

Even if her book was really good I would not buy it after some of the cold, ill informed, and out right harmful statements she has made for all the world to hear.

*steps off soapbox and apologises* I don't usually discuss such things online but, wow! what a mean thing to advise to this mom with an autistic child!!

I can not say how I would feel if I were you. I am not in your shoes. If I were, I may feel the same way as you do about her.

I just take what I can relate to and decide it it fits is all.

 

[cardaway]

Delve any way you want. But most people who listen, are looking for understanding in something. I am not stating anything.

Call it whatever you want but you definitely implied that people who don't listen to her are closed to her ideas. The fact is we simply know she isn't qualified to give the advice she is giving or we don't like the way she gives it.

She gives free advice on the radio and you get what you pay for.

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

I believe there are people who need to hear what she says, yes. People are so messed up from their parents that yes they are blind to reality. You think because someone went to school to be a shrink that makes them the best in the field? I know plenty of DRs and dentists and such that stink at what they do. I believe she knows her stuff in most cases. She is not 100% all the time, who is?

She isn't exploiting, people are calling her remember. They know they are gonna be on the radio with their problem. Their stuff is probably the same for someone else. I think the truth hurts and I think people need to hear it. I also think if you don't like her, don't listen. Its a free world.

I completely disagree. She is exploiting situations. The mom with the autistic child is a fine example. The caller called about taking the child to a party and if it was morally correct to go or stay home. Laura diverted the topic into recommending institutionalizing the child. Every parent I have met with a disabled child has worried about how they are going to survive as adults. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that out. To turn the call into a discussion about placing the child when she never met the family or the child is reprehensible. But it would have been boring if she answered the original question of whether to take the child or stay home. So she exploited that mom and her child for ratings. It is naive to think otherwise. It definitely wasn't to 'help'.

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

There are a lot of you that don't like her, I excepted that.



If you don't like her fine, but you may not like to delve into your own head either. I just love the human psyche and love to understand people myself.

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She clearly stated this then is saying she didn't.

 

[miss missy]

I completely disagree. She is exploiting situations. The mom with the autistic child is a fine example. The caller called about taking the child to a party and if it was morally correct to go or stay home. Laura diverted the topic into recommending institutionalizing the child. Every parent I have met with a disabled child has worried about how they are going to survive as adults. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that out. To turn the call into a discussion about placing the child when she never met the family or the child is reprehensible. But it would have been boring if she answered the original question of whether to take the child or stay home. So she exploited that mom and her child for ratings. It is naive to think otherwise. It definitely wasn't to 'help'.

Since I can not relate to a Mom in that postition, I can not comment. I am sure I would feel differently. I take what I can relate to, and disregard the rest. I never said she is the be all-know all. She gets it right on sometimes.

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

Since I can not relate to a Mom in that postition, I can not comment. I am sure I would feel differently. I take what I can relate to, and disregard the rest. I never said she is the be all-know all. She gets it right on sometimes.

But so would you or I. We could get it right just from life experience but as responsible people I wouldn't start a self help talk show taking every topic under the sun and give advice just to be famous.

Empathy is putting yourself in anothers shoes. It is something that Doc Laura doesn't possess at all.

 

[miss missy]

She clearly stated this then is saying she didn't.

It is clear you want to go on and on with me on this. I am saying, not everyone cares to dig into head stuff is all. Nuff said.

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

It is clear you want to go on and on with me on this. I am saying, not everyone cares to dig into head stuff is all. Nuff said.

But because they don't like Laura....those who do clearly want to work on themselves right? It is what she preaches it is her black and white mentality. There is only one right way....hers.

 

[miss missy]

But because they don't like Laura....those who do clearly want to work on themselves right? It is what she preaches it is her black and white mentality. There is only one right way....hers.

I am having a hard time getting what you are saying I said. I dont know where you are getting this... you are putting words in my mouth.

I said "If you don't like her fine, but you may not like to delve into your own head either. I just love the human psyche and love to understand people myself."

Do you think I meant that if you do not listen to DL, than you do not like delving into your head? I said may not, as in it MAY be because you dont like to delve.Some people do not care to,therefor, they don't like her. If I dont like sports, I don't listen to sports radio.

I would hope no one would take one person/book or anything else as a know all-be all. You take the parts you agree with and discard the rest.

Delve away...

 

[mickeysgal]

Come on! Credentials or no credentials, how much stock can you put into anyone's advice when that person only hears a snipet of an event or circumstance? Any real professional would never give life advice based on a two minute or less description coming from only one source (the caller). What you're hearing is not real. Dr. Laura's show is 100% entertainment, pure and simple.

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

I am having a hard time getting what you are saying I said. I dont know where you are getting this... you are putting words in my mouth.

I said "If you don't like her fine, but you may not like to delve into your own head either. I just love the human psyche and love to understand people myself."

Do you think I meant that if you do not listen to DL, than you do not like delving into your head? I said may not, as in it MAY be because you dont like to delve.Some people do not care to,therefor, they don't like her. If I dont like sports, I don't listen to sports radio.

I would hope no one would take one person/book or anything else as a know all-be all. You take the parts you agree with and discard the rest.

Delve away...

What is with the sarcasm? I thought we are having a discussion and if you are into getting into your head than wouldn't you be interested in other peoples point of view to expand your knowledge of the human psyche?

I completely don't understand how people can respect Laura so much. She isn't what she is practicing and through talking to her followers I get an idea about others opinions and how they think. I don't think I have been sarcastic so why the sacrasm? "delve away...."

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

Come on! Credentials or no credentials, how much stock can you put into anyone's advice when that person only hears a snipet of an event or circumstance? Any real professional would never give life advice based on a two minute or less description coming from only one source (the caller). What you're hearing is not real. Dr. Laura's show is 100% entertainment, pure and simple.

good point.

 

[miss missy]

What is with the sarcasm? I thought we are having a discussion and if you are into getting into your head than wouldn't you be interested in other peoples point of view to expand your knowledge of the human psyche?

I completely don't understand how people can respect Laura so much. She isn't what she is practicing and through talking to her followers I get an idea about others opinions and how they think. I don't think I have been sarcastic so why the sacrasm? "delve away...."

Who is being sarcastic? You are just keeping this same point going on and on. I agree to disagree, do you?

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

Missy whatever you want is fine. I am discussing the same point since the this is the topic of the thread. It seemed interesting and I haven't thought of her since she was cancelled from daytime what 6 years ago because of her views on homosexuality. So it was a new topic to rediscover but it is fine if you wish not to discuss it anymore.

 

[momof2inPA]

As much as I think the woman is trash, I seriously doubt that happens often or at all. She gets more calls than the system can handle (most callers get busy signals) and it isn't hard for the well trained producers to screen (interview) the callers and find exactly the ones Laura wants to snap at.

I know I did my job well when I did that for a local talk show host.

Well, you say you don't listen to her. I do. I am completely convinced that she stages calls. Most of her answers are so short and off-the-cuff, but once or twice a day she answers with long, in-depth, rehearsed-sounding responses. She cajoles and convinces and brings the person around to a final, "Thank-you Dr. Laura" that just doesn't sound right. I'm serious.

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

Well, you say you don't listen to her. I do. I am completely convinced that she stages calls. Most of her answers are so short and off-the-cuff, but once or twice a day she answers with long, in-depth, rehearsed-sounding responses. She cajoles and convinces and brings the person around to a final, "Thank-you Dr. Laura" that just doesn't sound right. I'm serious.

WOW I am going to download off her sight and see if it is still the same like the past. I am sure her site selections make her come off in a positive light but I am interested again to see if she has changed.

I don't even know if she is still carried here on Long island NY anyone know?

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

You can choose Dr. Laura's StreamLink for just $6.95 each month, $29.95 for 6 months, or $54.95 for 12 months.


WOW she is sure in it to help people ....... clean their wallets out.