Bad Childhood Good Life-PARENTING

[3DisneyNUTS]

True. People don't think about how the calls are carefully screened and hand picked so she can go on one of her female dog like rants.

She's a complete joke. People would get more better advice from the homeless person downtown. At least their experiences would be genuine rather than the re-written history Laura has made for herself over the years.

But at least she'll likely never touch on the topic of nude photos and the women who pose for them.

Exactly!

 

[Keli]

I would not consider myself a fan of Dr. Laura's by a long shot since when she was on the radio here I would turn her off in disgust on a regular basis. But I will fully admit that many times I've heard her address subjects others wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole and tell it exactly like it is!

 

[miss missy]

There are a lot of you that don't like her, I excepted that.

This post is meant to tell people about the book and maybe it will help someone. Sorry but there are some parents out there that really screwed up there children and this book CAN possibly help them. If you haven't read it, you can't say whether it is helpful or not.

The truth is hard to hear and she usually is right on. There are some pathetic people out there and they need to hear the truth. I think of the women who call and are so being abused and do not see it. Those are the ones she points it out to and they are like, oh, wow, I never saw it that way. They are helped. I do not care about what she did or didn't do, no one is perfect. I don't care what degree she has or doesn't have. Some people just can speak the truth in what they see.

ie. You tell me, if a mother stays with a Dad that sexually abused the child and didn't get the child outta there, is that right? It happens a lot and these kids grow up still trying to find that love from the mother. They end up in a spiral of trying to get something they will never get from her. They then go on to mess up their DH and kids, all because of their childhood. She tells them the truth and helps them SEE that! She knows her stuff and helps people help themselves. That is the bottom line.

If you don't like her fine, but you may not like to delve into your own head either. I just love the human psyche and love to understand people myself.

I am sure there are a lot of people that can learn something from this book. See all the posts about the stuff families are doing to eachother, just on the board, it exists and there are answers out there, this/she is just one source.

 

[miss missy]

I love, love, love Dr. Laura. Yes I read that book and finishing Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.

I know alot of people hate her. She is tough and is all about kids.

As far as her new book, it really, really helped me release all the blame I put on myself as a child. She was the first person to say your parents did wrong and you were just a kid. Everything is clear now.
Instead of "complaining"...I fix it and move on.
That is where my tag came from..."Just stay out of the mud", Dr. Laura.

I am 100% happy now.

I just want to say that we are probably the only ones who like her here or her advice.

The truth hurts, so yes you are correct. Most do not want to hear it.

 

[Keli]

I would not consider myself a fan of Dr. Laura's by a long shot since when she was on the radio here I would turn her off in disgust on a regular basis. But I will fully admit that many times I've heard her address subjects others wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole and tell it exactly like it is!

 

[disykat]

I read the transcript of DR. Laura and the autistic boy - and I agree with her. I know several people with severely handicapped children. Two have had to institutionalize when the children got too large to physically handle, another still lives at home with some respite care help for the parents, and the other lived at home until he was having rage issues as a teen and now lives in a home only a few blocks away. Using respite care or even a "placement" doesn't mean you are abandoning your child. The kids I know that have been placed have a happier life, more appropriate care, and a better relationship with their families because of it. It was a tough decision, but I believe that over the long term, their relationships with family will remain more stable because the rest of the family has been able to thrive as well.

 

[miss missy]

I would not consider myself a fan of Dr. Laura's by a long shot since when she was on the radio here I would turn her off in disgust on a regular basis. But I will fully admit that many times I've heard her address subjects others wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole and tell it exactly like it is!

he he you already said that lol

 

[cardaway]

IBut I will fully admit that many times I've heard her address subjects others wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole and tell it exactly like it is!

But on many subjects that's because there is no one right answer and only a quack would pretend there is.

 

[DVC Sadie]

I love, love, love Dr. Laura. Yes I read that book and finishing Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.

I know alot of people hate her. She is tough and is all about kids.


I just want to say that we are probably the only ones who like her here or her advice.

No, you are not the only one here on the dis boards that like and respect her advice. We like her no nonsense style and her tough but fair attitude.

 

[miss missy]

No, you are not the only one here on the dis boards that like and respect her advice. We like her no nonsense style and her tough but fair attitude.

so there is 3 of us now

 

[goofy's friends]

I thought I liked Dr. Laura until I read her book Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and much of the advise was old-fashioned and unhealthy.

On the radio, she can carry that tough attitude a bit far at times and come off as mean spirited. Alot of the times, she may be right, but she shows such little respect that if the person is in the least vulnerable or even rebellious, they aren't going to listen to her.

There are some calls that she handles with just the right amount of concern and toughness. These are the ones that I like and feel that she might have done some good.

 

[momof2inPA]

True. People don't think about how the calls are carefully screened and hand picked so she can go on one of her female dog like rants.

I swear she picks a subject for the day and stages a call around it, probably from one of her show's producers.

Add to her hypocrisies- pre-marital sex, posing for nude pictures, neglecting her aged mom (who had been found dead near Dr. Laura's radio studio after decomposing for months). I didn't realize she used daycare. That one takes the cake.

Her show is like a train wreck- it's tough to look away, but she's truly not very bright. She often misses the whole point of a call, while she's berating the caller, and then abruptly hangs up on them in her embarrassment.

 

[momof2inPA]

I read the transcript of DR. Laura and the autistic boy - and I agree with her. I know several people with severely handicapped children. Two have had to institutionalize when the children got too large to physically handle, another still lives at home with some respite care help for the parents, and the other lived at home until he was having rage issues as a teen and now lives in a home only a few blocks away. Using respite care or even a "placement" doesn't mean you are abandoning your child. The kids I know that have been placed have a happier life, more appropriate care, and a better relationship with their families because of it. It was a tough decision, but I believe that over the long term, their relationships with family will remain more stable because the rest of the family has been able to thrive as well.

Unless you have pursued every single avenue to deal with issues, IT IS ABANDONMENT! Of course, life is easier if you dump your handicapped relative on someone else, but that doesn't make it right. Many disabled people who reach puberty have a difficult time dealing with their physical and mental changes and need the parents to help them cope. I couldn't imagine sending my child to an institution because he or she was going through a rough time, and it's wrong to endorse the mentality that taking the easy way out is o.k.

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

There are a lot of you that don't like her, I excepted that.

This post is meant to tell people about the book and maybe it will help someone. Sorry but there are some parents out there that really screwed up there children and this book CAN possibly help them. If you haven't read it, you can't say whether it is helpful or not.

The truth is hard to hear and she usually is right on. There are some pathetic people out there and they need to hear the truth. I think of the women who call and are so being abused and do not see it. Those are the ones she points it out to and they are like, oh, wow, I never saw it that way. They are helped. I do not care about what she did or didn't do, no one is perfect. I don't care what degree she has or doesn't have. Some people just can speak the truth in what they see.

ie. You tell me, if a mother stays with a Dad that sexually abused the child and didn't get the child outta there, is that right? It happens a lot and these kids grow up still trying to find that love from the mother. They end up in a spiral of trying to get something they will never get from her. They then go on to mess up their DH and kids, all because of their childhood. She tells them the truth and helps them SEE that! She knows her stuff and helps people help themselves. That is the bottom line.
If you don't like her fine, but you may not like to delve into your own head either. I just love the human psyche and love to understand people myself.

I am sure there are a lot of people that can learn something from this book. See all the posts about the stuff families are doing to eachother, just on the board, it exists and there are answers out there, this/she is just one source.

But you mean to tell me you think she is the right person to be councelling this person and her family in this situation? She doesn't have the qualifications. She is there just to exploit their problem for her show. It is an entertainment show in disguise.

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

There are a lot of you that don't like her, I excepted that.

This post is meant to tell people about the book and maybe it will help someone. Sorry but there are some parents out there that really screwed up there children and this book CAN possibly help them. If you haven't read it, you can't say whether it is helpful or not.

The truth is hard to hear and she usually is right on. There are some pathetic people out there and they need to hear the truth. I think of the women who call and are so being abused and do not see it. Those are the ones she points it out to and they are like, oh, wow, I never saw it that way. They are helped. I do not care about what she did or didn't do, no one is perfect. I don't care what degree she has or doesn't have. Some people just can speak the truth in what they see.

ie. You tell me, if a mother stays with a Dad that sexually abused the child and didn't get the child outta there, is that right? It happens a lot and these kids grow up still trying to find that love from the mother. They end up in a spiral of trying to get something they will never get from her. They then go on to mess up their DH and kids, all because of their childhood. She tells them the truth and helps them SEE that! She knows her stuff and helps people help themselves. That is the bottom line.

If you don't like her fine, but you may not like to delve into your own head either. I just love the human psyche and love to understand people myself.I am sure there are a lot of people that can learn something from this book. See all the posts about the stuff families are doing to eachother, just on the board, it exists and there are answers out there, this/she is just one source.

You are looking to an unqualified person to do this for you. I would never allow a person with a degree in physiology do psychology on me. She is a glorified gym teacher IMO.

To state that those who dislike Laura are not open to delving into their heads is absurd. Laura is not a doc of psychiatry and should not be claiming to be a therapist.

 

[MrsPete]

I have to agree with this majority here: Dr. Laura is evil.

She passes herself off as a champion of traditional, conservative, moral values while hiding skeletons in her closet. She does not treat callers respectfully, and she proposes unrealistic ideas. I think she enjoys hurting people. Her blather is far from original or deep-thinking.

I agree that sometimes the truth hurts, but I see very little truth in Dr. Laura.

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

I read the transcript of DR. Laura and the autistic boy - and I agree with her. I know several people with severely handicapped children. Two have had to institutionalize when the children got too large to physically handle, another still lives at home with some respite care help for the parents, and the other lived at home until he was having rage issues as a teen and now lives in a home only a few blocks away. Using respite care or even a "placement" doesn't mean you are abandoning your child. The kids I know that have been placed have a happier life, more appropriate care, and a better relationship with their families because of it. It was a tough decision, but I believe that over the long term, their relationships with family will remain more stable because the rest of the family has been able to thrive as well.

No it doesn't mean abandonment but to give a caller advice on such a serious subject such as this when that is not what the caller was calling about is completely unresponsible on Lauras part. Same is said about victims of sex abuse and all the other major topics she delves unqualified into.

 

[PixieDustTink]

Wow! I stopped listening to Dr. Laura ages ago and yes I am very interested in interpersonal relationships and how our minds and emotions work.

I am also the mother of a child with an autism spectrum disorder, who also has very poor fine and gross motor skills. These are brain based problems and not something that he can help. He was one of those kids on the baseball team that one of our coaches continually benched. You cannot imagine the hurt that caused him and me. Seeing a kid sooo young and so eager to play like the rest of the kids. To this day he remembers that. IF I called in and someone gave me such cruel advice I'd be livid! My son has a very high I.Q. and autism problems are very complicated. To say that you should put your own child in a home, and go party is again cruel and ill informed! I cannot believe any professional would give such harmful advice.

Her responses lack empathy. In fact people who are self aggrandizing and lack empathy are said to have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The more I see about Dr. Laura the more I think she has NPD!

There are sooo many good "reparenting" programs out there if you have childhood issues to deal with ( and who doesn't LOL!) that I really think I'd steer clear of a person such as Dr. Laura. I'm glad to know she has helped some people though I do think people like her are truly dangerous and would be best taken with a grain of salt.

Sorry to get carried away but, her responses really struck a personal nerve with me. Most kids with autism are perfectly fine and better off with their own loving family. If it gets to the point that someone NEEDS a different solution that is NOT the type of advice that someone who does not know you at all and who has heard you talk about a problem for five minutes should be offering over the radio. Dr. Laura should have advised the woman who called in to discuss her options with a local professional who was familiar with autism. She could have even had the woman call her back and get a referral to such services. It is very unprofessional to give such advice over the radio. And harmful and exploits people with very real problems. Some people believe she has their best interests at heart when clearly she is only all about ratings! ug! Sad, sad, sad.

Even if her book was really good I would not buy it after some of the cold, ill informed, and out right harmful statements she has made for all the world to hear.

*steps off soapbox and apologises* I don't usually discuss such things online but, wow! what a mean thing to advise to this mom with an autistic child!!

 

[swilphil]

You are looking to an unqualified person to do this for you. I would never allow a person with a degree in physiology do psychology on me. She is a glorified gym teacher IMO.

To state that those who dislike Laura are not open to delving into their heads is absurd. Laura is not a doc of psychiatry and should not be claiming to be a therapist.

I agree. True, there are many of us who have had horrible childhoods and could greatly benefit from a book that would help us be better parents ourselves considering the situation. Luckily there are lots and lots of other books out there.

 

[miss missy]

But you mean to tell me you think she is the right person to be councelling this person and her family in this situation? She doesn't have the qualifications. She is there just to exploit their problem for her show. It is an entertainment show in disguise.

I believe there are people who need to hear what she says, yes. People are so messed up from their parents that yes they are blind to reality. You think because someone went to school to be a shrink that makes them the best in the field? I know plenty of DRs and dentists and such that stink at what they do. I believe she knows her stuff in most cases. She is not 100% all the time, who is?

She isn't exploiting, people are calling her remember. They know they are gonna be on the radio with their problem. Their stuff is probably the same for someone else. I think the truth hurts and I think people need to hear it. I also think if you don't like her, don't listen. Its a free world.