Baby gift question

[ohiominnie]

Ok, here's the situation....
A good friend of ours is having her third child. The first was a still born baby, the second died about 3 yrs ago (at the age of 13) of a very rare blood disorder. She is now due to deliver next month.

I wanted to cross stitch something for her, but didn't want it too baby-ish so she wouldn't have to pack it away when the child got "too old" for baby-ish things. So I pulled out a bunch of patterns and had my dh choose one.

He picked one that had flowers and the saying "Praise Your Children and they will Bloom." I'm 1/2 done stitching it and realized that by referring to children in the plural sense (and she's lost two) that may not be the best thing. Dh now wonders about it too....said he hadn't thought about her previous kids when he picked it.

Switching it to "Praise your child and IT will bloom" just doesn't sound good (and I stink at altering patterns anyway)

Would you scrap it and find another design?

Thanks for any help!!!

 

[lynxstch]

I would go with the pattern just as it is..in her heart and mind she does/will have 3 children..even though 2 have passed on..they were still her children..if you altered it.. might she feel that you weren't acknowledging the first 2 children?..best of luck on your project and the best of luck to your friend with her new baby!
Lynn

 

[PigletsPal]

If you know the sex of the child how about: Praise your child and (she or he) will bloom. Our praise your daughter or son and she or he will bloom.

HTH

Good Luck

 

[Kermit]

I wouldn't worry about keeping it the way it is. Most mothers who have lost children actually like it when people acknowledge their loss. She's not going to forget, no matter what, so she'll feel comforted to know that others remember, too.

 

[LuvTigger]

My first thought was to change it, but after reading the previous posts, I remembered an old co-worker who lost her son (she also has a daughter) who was around 20 years-old. Her daughter always sends gifts and flowers with her name and her brothers name on them, and my friend really appreciates that. I guess it depends on the person, but it seems that enough time has passed where she can deal with the thoughts of the children she lost and would appreciate your thoughts. (Who knows, she might not even really think about the saying that much?)

 

[browneyes]

I think keeping it as is would make it more special for her.