Baby Fever

[Disneylover79]

I am having baby fever... am I crazy?????

I am almost done with school..hopefully I will be getting married soon...

Is it wrong of me to want to buy baby clothes when I am out shopping and put it in my closet until the day comes....

Anyone else get this feeling....

 

[DanzP]

school? baby? marrage? how old are you

 

[Kit'smommy]

Well, her post says she is 29, so I think she is plenty old enough.

I got (and stayed!) PG at 29 after 4 years of trying. I understand the way you feel. Does your DBF want a baby too? Are you financially stable enough to be able to take care of a baby in the near future?

Good luck to you.

 

[LaurenLC]

Not my place to tell someone if they should or shouldn't have a baby, but I will comment on the buying of baby clothes... I have been buying cotton baby clothes in all sizes and colors whenever I see it on sale (I am also an executive for a large, well known retailer, so I also get everything DIRT CHEAP!). I buy very "season neutral" things and things that are timeless (lots of Ralph Lauren) My husband and I both want children, so we're hoping to get lots of use of the items, but if not, we can always give them away to family, friends and charities.... I probably have about 4 large Rubbermaid containers full of beautiful, brand new baby and toddler clothes.

 

[JessicaR]

I had those same feelings. It took me a long time to conceive so I felt that way for a very long time. Not wrong at ALL to want to buy things. You're feeling it how can that be wrong. Best of luck with your future plans.

 

[alexandria674]

I felt that once. I didn't feel the need to buy baby stuff, but to actually have one. Sometimes I get that weird maternal inkling but I make up for it by taking care of my nephews.

 

[laurie31]

OH I did this! Only instead of clothes, I bought books - lol.

I started buying books for my kids before I even finished college (a couple of years before I ever met DH! LOL) I did buy some clothes too, now that I think about it. It's as much fun to dream about children as it is to dream about the wedding

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

Oh, I had that feeling for many years and yes I did buy it all, including books, clothes, the crib and very expensive stroller with matching carrier and it is now all going to waste in my attic, as we are infertile and will NEVER (yeah I've heard it all, it is NEVER) have children. Some of my things were stolen from my storage unit in Oct 2006 and I felt like I had lost a baby, those items meant so much to me, I mourned them. I have considered giving them away, but I just can't let them go, I think it would make me have to let go of my dream, although mentally I have done that.

I say don't do it, I felt like it jinxed me (I know it didn't). If you feel like you should, go ahead, you aren't hurting anyone.

Suzanne

 

[laurie31]

Oh, I had that feeling for many years and yes I did buy it all, including books, clothes, the crib and very expensive stroller with matching carrier and it is now all going to waste in my attic, as we are infertile and will NEVER (yeah I've heard it all, it is NEVER) have children. Some of my things were stolen from my storage unit in Oct 2006 and I felt like I had lost a baby, those items meant so much to me, I mourned them. I have considered giving them away, but I just can't let them go, I think it would make me have to let go of my dream, although mentally I have done that.

I say don't do it, I felt like it jinxed me (I know it didn't). If you feel like you should, go ahead, you aren't hurting anyone.

Suzanne

 

[HunnyPots]

Oh, I had that feeling for many years and yes I did buy it all, including books, clothes, the crib and very expensive stroller with matching carrier and it is now all going to waste in my attic, as we are infertile and will NEVER (yeah I've heard it all, it is NEVER) have children. Some of my things were stolen from my storage unit in Oct 2006 and I felt like I had lost a baby, those items meant so much to me, I mourned them. I have considered giving them away, but I just can't let them go, I think it would make me have to let go of my dream, although mentally I have done that.

I say don't do it, I felt like it jinxed me (I know it didn't). If you feel like you should, go ahead, you aren't hurting anyone.

Suzanne

My friend went through something very similar. As soon as she was married, she started "planning" for a baby. She found a beautiful crib in a second hand store and bought it. She set up a nursery and went all out with the Winnie the Pooh theme. She bought children's books, movies, etc. The problem was, the baby never came. And after a few years, they discovered that it never would. Medically speaking, there was no baby in their future. Even harder to deal with while watching her perfect nursery collect dust...

Personally, I'd wait till there was an actual baby on the way to buy things for. Besides, if you start buying now, what will you do for those nine months?

 

[MoniqueU]

I am very sorry for infertile couples. My mom and my MIL both had 1 child then had hysterectomies. My DH and I are only chilftrrn and we both feel the loss of no siblings and mieces and nephews. I don't know why that bothers me so much but I would love a clse extended family. I have to settle for my cousins kids.
So anyway I got pregnant berore I was even married. My DH is quite a bit older then me and he was ready. I went for it mostly out of love for him and because I had monthly female problems that I was worried would lead to the same fate my mom and MIL had. I had four kids by th time I was 24. Sadly an horrible accident happend and my second son passed away whil I was pregnant with my oldst dd. I got pregnant as soon as I could after my oldest DD was born hoping for another boy. I cried so hard when I found out it was a girl. Things seem to happen for me for a reason though. Overall it was the best thing for me. I was so busy with girls 13 months apart that I didn't even think of having another!!

Fasr forwar 10l.5 years and my oldes is driving and the other 2 are in school all day. I feel the incredible loss of my son and totally want another baby. I am 35 and time is ticking for me. I mention it to my DH who says I have to be kidding. This goes on for a goo 6 months but I finally snap out of it.

I say if you want a baby and your S/O wants a baby go for it!! You never know what life has in store for you. My kids are the light of my life. I love their ages now. I always say give me a teenager over a toddler LOL.

I don't think it is weird to buy baby clothes or even set up nursery if you keep it gender neutral.. Whatever floats your boat.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

My friend went through something very similar. As soon as she was married, she started "planning" for a baby. She found a beautiful crib in a second hand store and bought it. She set up a nursery and went all out with the Winnie the Pooh theme. She bought children's books, movies, etc. The problem was, the baby never came. And after a few years, they discovered that it never would. Medically speaking, there was no baby in their future. Even harder to deal with while watching her perfect nursery collect dust...

Personally, I'd wait till there was an actual baby on the way to buy things for. Besides, if you start buying now, what will you do for those nine months?

Well, we started trying right away, because I was 28 when we married and I knew what kind of female trouble my mom, grandmother, and aunt had and knew I probably only had a short window of opportunity and well here we are 7.5 years later and I am about to be 36, my mom passed away last August, so I have no reason to continue to think about having children of my own, besides not being able to. I have made peace with it now, though.

I have a cousin that has 3 children that are 11, 7, and 4 and they are the light of my life . The 11 year old and I are very close and she tells me all the time that I an't have a baby now, she would be jealous, and knowing her she might quit talking to me if I brought a baby home (not really).

I am very sorry for infertile couples. My mom and my MIL both had 1 child then had hysterectomies. My DH and I are only chilftrrn and we both feel the loss of no siblings and mieces and nephews. I don't know why that bothers me so much but I would love a clse extended family. I have to settle for my cousins kids.
So anyway I got pregnant berore I was even married. My DH is quite a bit older then me and he was ready. I went for it mostly out of love for him and because I had monthly female problems that I was worried would lead to the same fate my mom and MIL had. I had four kids by th time I was 24. Sadly an horrible accident happend and my second son passed away whil I was pregnant with my oldst dd. I got pregnant as soon as I could after my oldest DD was born hoping for another boy. I cried so hard when I found out it was a girl. Things seem to happen for me for a reason though. Overall it was the best thing for me. I was so busy with girls 13 months apart that I didn't even think of having another!!

Fasr forwar 10l.5 years and my oldes is driving and the other 2 are in school all day. I feel the incredible loss of my son and totally want another baby. I am 35 and time is ticking for me. I mention it to my DH who says I have to be kidding. This goes on for a goo 6 months but I finally snap out of it.

I say if you want a baby and your S/O wants a baby go for it!! You never know what life has in store for you. My kids are the light of my life. I love their ages now. I always say give me a teenager over a toddler LOL.

I don't think it is weird to buy baby clothes or even set up nursery if you keep it gender neutral.. Whatever floats your boat.

I am an only child and sometimes I hated it, but I am glad I was an only child and have no regrets about it to this day, neither did my mom, who is no longer with me, and that was really difficult going through as an only child. I really feel like an orphan sometimes, as my father was never in my life (his choice).

Suzanne

 

[ZephyrHawk]

You're not crazy, but I don't sympathize. I'll be turning 30 next month, the age my mom was when she conceived me. I know I need to start trying in the next year or so (hey, I've got a life-plan to follow!), but I just can't get into the idea. I do want kids...just...not so soon.

 

[DMickey28]

I felt that way a good two or three years before we starting trying for DS. It took us 8 months to concieve him and we are on month 9th now TTC #2. Getting scared it won't happen but we will see. I bought a few cute things but nothing crazy. Honestly, my son never wore anything I did buy because I went and bought stuff specifically for HIM.

A great friend of mine is 43 years old and her son just turned 2. They started TTC in their early 20's just as soon as they got married. 18 years later and they had given up. Her husband took her to the ER one Sunday in August 2006 because she was sooo sick with the flu and he was scared. In the ER she got the shock of her life with a positive pregnancy test. They were told it was NEVER going to happen. Her baby boy is just the brightest, cutest little boy in the world. He is amazing ... she is hoping for a second but her DH is all set with their one miracle!!

 

[Piecey]

I bought stuff before I was pregnant.... I didn't have baby fever AT ALL but I'm a major bargain shopper so when I saw cute stuff, I bought it and put it in a tote.

I mostly did it because DH is 5 years 9 months older than me and wanted to be a dad before he was 30, but I was still young and not really ready yet. DH grew up dirt poor. I grew up with money so I couldn't relate to his worries. He wanted more for his family than he had. I couldn't seriously sit down and talk about a family when I was only 21, and I couldn't get myself into his state of mind either.

Two days after his dad died, DH got accepted into a student employment program with the Federal Government.
A month after his dad died, with one birth control screwup, we got a +.
Three months later, we bought our first house.
Four months after that, DH got hired permanently with the Federal Government.

...in 4 days, my DH will be a daddy and he is overjoyed. Things fell into place for us AFTER I was already pregnant so I can't be one of those people who say to make sure you are prepared before you do it. We got very lucky. DH is making enough money, and has major job security, so that I won't have to go back to work.

I turned 22 in April and I'm still scared but feel blessed for everything that I have in my life.

If you want a baby, and he wants a baby, have a baby. I am amazed at how much I love my son and I haven't even met him yet.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

I'm really feeling the urge lately! I know my DBF wants kids and he's been making comments about "us" having kids...I said something about getting rid of my huge car that I'd bought years ago in anticipation of having a family, but it never happened (I was married at the time and divorced now), and he said, "Don't count out the possibility..." We're both going to be 35 this year, so maybe our clocks are ticking!

We also have a slightly different idea of what we like as far as baby things. I've seen a few websites with "alternative" baby clothes...bibs with pirates and black roses and skulls, onesies with guitars that say "My Daddy Rocks," stuff like that, and I'm so tempted to buy them! Our friends would probably give them, knowing that we prefer those, but family, forget it