It breaks my heart to read about kids not getting decent services. States that spend more $ on children with disabilites early in their lives statistically spend less for them as adults as they have better developed and learned to be more independent, are ready for a vocation, etc.
Wow! I thought VA was bad with the medicaid waiver list! We've been waiting 4 years and will wait who knows how long. But, our list isn't that long. We get nothing from the state except a social worker who tells us we are on the list.

We do get a tiny bit of help from County Community Services, which is listed as a non-profit. 24 hours of respite care payment per quarter. Their payment is less than what we actually have to pay, but it's better than nothing. They are giving us an extra 50 hours this summer to help with the cost of respite/tutoring. It will pay about 1/3 of our cost. Our local ARC is paying for a camp.
As far as school goes, and this is back to the thread topic, in theory you should be able to get whatever your child needs from the school regardless of where you are. They all must comply with the federal laws. Easier said than done. Here our son gets a lot in our County compared to most other kids, but it is because we have fought endlessly and have paid thousands of dollars for private help. The school system knows that we are reasonable and will try to work with them, but we will get what our son needs and have the money to hire an attorney and take it all the way (isn't it sad, that it has to be like that). There is another child in DS's class who got an accomodation that the school said was structurally impossible to us. I guess his parents had bigger guns. My point, if you must move to FL, you might want to not only look at the school but check into having advocates, doctors, possibly a special ed. attorney ready to go to be sure the IEP is implemented.
BTW, someone here may correct me if I am mistaken. But my understanding of IDEA changes makes it even more clear that the school district that you move to follow the IEP your child has from the old school. If you are at a helpful school now, you can work hard on an ironclad IEP that gives no wiggle room. Be sure words are defined and not left for interpretation. Everything is super precise. Specific and lots of accomodations. That would buy you some time at the new school to get your ducks in a row before the next IEP.