Yesterday I went with my DD an 3.5 yr old Gson to a very well known clinic where he was tested for speech, OT, an phsyological testing.
Gson has already been dx'd with PVL a very mild case of that, he does have a speech impairment. No one is arguing that... DD is getting her masters in special ed so she has studied different disaiblities and she had talked to several doctors an parents that has asperger kids. She really thought that gson had aspergers. WHY?
1. He is already very OCD over certain things an things has to be in order or he looses it.
2.He hates strange places an strangers...has to go at it on his level. As a baby cried more screamed for 30 mins or so till he adjusted. Recently we had him at my aunts house which was new an there was about 10 ppl there he did not know 1st he'd come look in the door, then he'd open door look inside, then step inside an go right back out, then he'd stay in till someone noticed him then he'd run back out the door. 3 hours into the visit he finally was able to come in an be socialable.
3. Does not play with other kids often bites, hits, or kicks them when they try to play with him......this is getting better with behavoir therapy an preschool.
4. When not getting his way he is in my words a holy terror. Screaming, throwing things, hitting, kicking, biting till he gets his way.
This morning I had the displeasure of listening to DD get the boys up for preschool. Knowing 1 is a very difficult child who needs lots of her attention she started waking the older 1 who is going to be 5 next month up 10 minutes before she had to be out the door with him to take him to school on her way to work.
Meaning the younger 1 woke up too an is demanding attention, she is screaming at him that she has to get brother dressed an to school so she can go to work. Of course the child screams louder. In the meantime she is screaming at the older one to get up an get dressed that they only have 10 mins...Knowing her younger 1 needs attention when he 1st wakes up an that he crys every AM for her to take him to school not to go to work etc WHY does she not get up earlier allow more time for the boys to get ready an some time to spend with the needy son? Maybe set the timer for 10 min that when it goes off she has to go? Aspergers or not he'd eventually learn that when the buzzer sounds he has to tell mommy byebye.
Then there was the issue of walking mommy to the car...something I myself would never have taken the time to start but she has. They just moved into my house an going outside to tell mommy bye now involves a full flight of 12 steps for a child who often falls over his own feet. Of course in hurrying down the last few steps he fell down the bottom 2 steps thankfully was OK but now DD is held up another 5 mins calming the boy down again. (The boys go to 2 different schools 1 has to be at school by 8an the other at 8:30) Dad takes the younger 1 to school.
Yesterday Gson was on his very best behavior so no one seen how is is most of the time. we was told that since Gson has speech impairment he cannot have aspergers. That DD has been blessed for all he could have wrong for him to have came out as well as he has that she was truely blessed the PVL could be so so much worse.....
Did the testers take in consideration that with the PVL an the soeech impairment that the boy could possibly have aspergers too or did they over look that possiblity or is the boy just used to getting his own way an the older he gets the more he demands to get his own way?
IMHO DD is setting herself up for more work with him by giving into him all the time. Yes aspergers is difficult I fully agree but would you butter another piece of bread because the child wanted his butter on the other side of bread? DD did. Maybe I'm expecting to much myself I think I'd have sent mine even with aspergers to room to throw their fit an when it was over they could come back an eat their bread the way it was buttered or done without the bread an ate the rest of their food.
As a kid myself I would not have gotten anything else to eat till I ate that bread along with being sent to room to throw my fit.
I have seen DD stand there for 10 mins while she asked 3 yr old which spoon he wanted an let him finger all the spoons in drawer till he found the 1 he wanted. I've seen her let him get up in middle of meal an get another spoon or fork because the 1 he was using he did not like anymore. Of course then he's fingering an handling all the spoons in drawer with dirty food covered hands.
I've seem this kid sit at 4 different chairs while eating a meal.....seen DD trade with him midmeal because he wanted to sit in her chair. The list goes on an on.....so he it aspergers or is he just spoiled or a little of both?
At what point does a parent with aspergers say OK enough of this we are going to pick from 3 spoons, sit down eat in our chair the whole meal, including the bread no matter which side the butter is on? I realize to do all 3 at once could overwhelm any young child.
Oh of course by only getting the older 1 up 10 mins before having to leave he went out the door without breakfast. As did the younger 1 because dad did not think to give him any. Neither child brushed teeth or got face washed. I combed the younger 1's hair or it would not have been done. His hair is half way down his back he doesn't want it cut another 1 of his issues. His daddy wants to just run comb thru his hair starting at top an pulling tangles out me I've had long very curly tangled hair all my life an know how to do his hair pain free.
Thankfully I moving in a couple of days I would not be able to live with DD an her family for long.... DD buying my house I'm moving just waiting to close on house before I leave town.
Gson has already been dx'd with PVL a very mild case of that, he does have a speech impairment. No one is arguing that... DD is getting her masters in special ed so she has studied different disaiblities and she had talked to several doctors an parents that has asperger kids. She really thought that gson had aspergers. WHY?
1. He is already very OCD over certain things an things has to be in order or he looses it.
2.He hates strange places an strangers...has to go at it on his level. As a baby cried more screamed for 30 mins or so till he adjusted. Recently we had him at my aunts house which was new an there was about 10 ppl there he did not know 1st he'd come look in the door, then he'd open door look inside, then step inside an go right back out, then he'd stay in till someone noticed him then he'd run back out the door. 3 hours into the visit he finally was able to come in an be socialable.
3. Does not play with other kids often bites, hits, or kicks them when they try to play with him......this is getting better with behavoir therapy an preschool.
4. When not getting his way he is in my words a holy terror. Screaming, throwing things, hitting, kicking, biting till he gets his way.
This morning I had the displeasure of listening to DD get the boys up for preschool. Knowing 1 is a very difficult child who needs lots of her attention she started waking the older 1 who is going to be 5 next month up 10 minutes before she had to be out the door with him to take him to school on her way to work.
Meaning the younger 1 woke up too an is demanding attention, she is screaming at him that she has to get brother dressed an to school so she can go to work. Of course the child screams louder. In the meantime she is screaming at the older one to get up an get dressed that they only have 10 mins...Knowing her younger 1 needs attention when he 1st wakes up an that he crys every AM for her to take him to school not to go to work etc WHY does she not get up earlier allow more time for the boys to get ready an some time to spend with the needy son? Maybe set the timer for 10 min that when it goes off she has to go? Aspergers or not he'd eventually learn that when the buzzer sounds he has to tell mommy byebye.
Then there was the issue of walking mommy to the car...something I myself would never have taken the time to start but she has. They just moved into my house an going outside to tell mommy bye now involves a full flight of 12 steps for a child who often falls over his own feet. Of course in hurrying down the last few steps he fell down the bottom 2 steps thankfully was OK but now DD is held up another 5 mins calming the boy down again. (The boys go to 2 different schools 1 has to be at school by 8an the other at 8:30) Dad takes the younger 1 to school.
Yesterday Gson was on his very best behavior so no one seen how is is most of the time. we was told that since Gson has speech impairment he cannot have aspergers. That DD has been blessed for all he could have wrong for him to have came out as well as he has that she was truely blessed the PVL could be so so much worse.....
Did the testers take in consideration that with the PVL an the soeech impairment that the boy could possibly have aspergers too or did they over look that possiblity or is the boy just used to getting his own way an the older he gets the more he demands to get his own way?
IMHO DD is setting herself up for more work with him by giving into him all the time. Yes aspergers is difficult I fully agree but would you butter another piece of bread because the child wanted his butter on the other side of bread? DD did. Maybe I'm expecting to much myself I think I'd have sent mine even with aspergers to room to throw their fit an when it was over they could come back an eat their bread the way it was buttered or done without the bread an ate the rest of their food.
As a kid myself I would not have gotten anything else to eat till I ate that bread along with being sent to room to throw my fit.
I have seen DD stand there for 10 mins while she asked 3 yr old which spoon he wanted an let him finger all the spoons in drawer till he found the 1 he wanted. I've seen her let him get up in middle of meal an get another spoon or fork because the 1 he was using he did not like anymore. Of course then he's fingering an handling all the spoons in drawer with dirty food covered hands.
I've seem this kid sit at 4 different chairs while eating a meal.....seen DD trade with him midmeal because he wanted to sit in her chair. The list goes on an on.....so he it aspergers or is he just spoiled or a little of both?
At what point does a parent with aspergers say OK enough of this we are going to pick from 3 spoons, sit down eat in our chair the whole meal, including the bread no matter which side the butter is on? I realize to do all 3 at once could overwhelm any young child.
Oh of course by only getting the older 1 up 10 mins before having to leave he went out the door without breakfast. As did the younger 1 because dad did not think to give him any. Neither child brushed teeth or got face washed. I combed the younger 1's hair or it would not have been done. His hair is half way down his back he doesn't want it cut another 1 of his issues. His daddy wants to just run comb thru his hair starting at top an pulling tangles out me I've had long very curly tangled hair all my life an know how to do his hair pain free.
Thankfully I moving in a couple of days I would not be able to live with DD an her family for long.... DD buying my house I'm moving just waiting to close on house before I leave town.
Same is true with many of my students. (I teach Special Education - 1st and 2nd grade) They are so well behaved for me at school and give their parents a run for their money. Combine all this with the lack of consistent schedules like the PP mentioned and I would say most kids save their worst behaviors for their parents. I know all mine do. 
