Asking a girl to be friends?

[VampHeartless]

I know, the Dis is always a great place to get advice from a wide variety of people...so here is my story for today:

Okay, so, there's this girl at work I've been hanging out with and she's really fun. Outside of work we have a great time...but, the problem is we work together, and the people at work are starting to make fun of us, and talk crap and whatever. Now, she's freaked out that I like her or something, and acts very standoffish in front of people at work...

But...this is one of those few times I'm not trying to hook up! She's pregnant and has a lot other stuff going on...and it's well known I'm a basketcase. I've just been going out more lately, trying to find more friends, and I was hoping to have her as one as well.

Now, I have this urge to call her and be like..."don't be scared of the people at work...I'm not trying to hook up with you. I just like hanging out with you." Does this sound like the right way to do things? Or maybe I should just be quiet, and let things blow over? I'm HORRIBLE at this type of thing...so I always ask others what to do...'cause I seem to do it all wrong!

 

[Pop Daddy]

The baby is yours anit it

 

[olena]

Originally posted by Pop Daddy
The baby is yours anit it

 

[ilovepcot]

OMG.....I'm dying here!!!!!!

 

[minniepumpernickel]

Oh, for the love a...... . (above post)

There comes a point in your life where you should just not worry about what the gossipers are saying. Maybe they are just jealous of your friendship with her. Just live your own life, and try to be her friend Hopefully she won't worry too much about the rubberneckers either.

good luck!

 

[VampHeartless]

NOOOOO!!! The baby is not mine!!! lol!!

I forgot that one very important detail!!!

 

[ilovepcot]

Oh no!!!! Jokes on me. I thought VampHeartless was a WOMAN!!!

 

[Lewski709]

For the love of Pete, can't you just tell her with a Hallmark Card? They solve issues like these!

 

[teh fish]

don't care about what other people say.

I'd prolly still tell her that you're just staying friends and that's how it's going to be. You don't want any wrong impressions.

 

[mommytotwo]

If you are not interested in her and just want to have her as a friend, and she is starting to feel uncomfortable. I would say give her a call since you are willing to do so and talk things over with her personally so that she knows where you are coming from. Other people will say what they want but if she knows exactly how things are between the two of you, I think it will make your friendship stronger.

 

[onecoolmama]

Is she married? Are you sure she doesnt like you?

 

[VampHeartless]

No, she's not married. But, being pregnant, she's got a lot going on in her life right now...

She acts really interested, especially when we're out alone....but I think the stuff at work really bugs her. Which, I don't blame her, 'cause you really don't want that stuff floating around when your working.

But...I dunno...this is type of relationship my counsellor says I kepe forcing myself into. I need to work on building friendships more often...which is what I've been doing lately.

 

[onecoolmama]

Originally posted by VampHeartless
She acts really interested, especially when we're out alone

If you are not interested...you do need to tell her. For the both of you.

 

[piglet too]

First of all Vamp, I am so glad you are posting again! I have really missed seeing you here!

Now, I would tell her this "Let's not let all the gossiping at work affect our friendship. Being freinds with you is important to me and I don't want to lose that just because "they" can't accept a guy and a girl just being friends."

 

[EsmeraldaX]

VH - Check your PMs.

 

[VampHeartless]

Oh my gosh!!! A PM from Esmeralda!!!



What other girl was I talking about? Never mind her...let's talk to Esmeralda!!!


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