As A Parent... Would This Upset You? Halloween Candy...

[JerseyJanice]

I would just make sure they knew the cookies came from you. I throw away any random homemade treats I find in DS's ToT bag. Most people have good intentions, but the possibility of something "naughty" being put into a homemade treat is great.

I was never allowed to eat anything that was homemade or unwrapped when I was growing up and ToT'ing, and I'm following the same rules with my own child.

 

[weewuvvdisney]

OP I would have no problem with someone doing that for my child!



They get plenty of full sized bars while trick or treating, even we are giving out full sized bars this year--much easier.

OMG - we get between 250 and 300 kiddos each year. I couldn't imagine giving out fullsize chocolate bars. I would have to cancel Christmas to pay for Hallowe'en.

Last night we made 180 bags that have one mini chocolate, one bite size puzzy peach candies, 1 lollipop and 1 eyeball gum along with 5 pennies (we save them all year - actually a few of us do). Then we have loose to give out to the rest.

Every year we run out by 7:30. We usually put up a sign that says no more candy...but some still ring. We turn all the lights off and take down all the decorations and stuff....I would love to give to all but there are just sooooo
many kids living here.

As for the OP, I wouldn't worry. The parents will probably just dish out the bars as they would normally do. If they are not happy, they may say something about next year and then you just go with the flow.

Happy Hallowe'en Everyone!!!

 

[Magpie]

If I was your neighbour, I would say thank you very nicely, and then either ration the candy or make it disappear a few days later. I wouldn't hold it against you, unless I thought you were deliberately trying to undermine my parenting.

My son is hypoglycemic and Halloween has been a real PIA for years. Almost everyone *insists* on giving him candy - even his teachers! - because they feel "sorry" for him. I smile, thank them and then I just get rid of it discretely. What else can you do, right? People can think what they like, and I won't judge them for it. But it's not fun when your kid is too sick to go to school the day after Halloween, and then "hungover" for the rest of the week.

I DO have one neighbour I consider a really gracious lady, though. When she organized a party for the kids with Freezie Pops, she went out of her way to pick up some sugar free ones for my son. When she gave out Halloween loot bags, my son's had little plastic toys and a couple diabetic hard candies. I didn't ask her to do any of this - she thought of it all by herself after she found out about my son's diagnosis. I think she's incredibly thoughtful.

 

[aprilgail2]

OMG - we get between 250 and 300 kiddos each year. I couldn't imagine giving out fullsize chocolate bars. I would have to cancel Christmas to pay for Hallowe'en.

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Ours vary- some years 100 some years 250....the full sized bars are really not that much- I got a 28 pack for 14.99----so 9 boxes was 134.91...by the time you buy all those bags of mini bars etc its not really that much of a difference...plus I can return any unopened packs of the candy so I could be getting 50.00 back if we don't use them!

 

[PatsGirl]

Would I be upset? Not in a personal way. I wouldn't say anything and I wouldn't let it get to me but...

The kids are going to get candy and sweets from lots of people. If you really wanted your Halloween treat to be special there are many other better ways to do that ~

Fast food gift certificates, cash, homemade coupons for fun things in the future, with a cute card...I know my kids would much rather have that than ANOTHER candy even if it is bigger

 

[ICF]

no, but we're not over proctective helicopter parents either.

 

[CaliforniaDreamin]

I would not be upset in the least. It is so rare that people stop and take the time to do something special for anyone, I would certainly appreciate you really making an effort to show my kids how much you care.
The parents can let them have the cookie first, before it gets stale, and the candy bars one a week. No problem.
You are a good person. You went out of your way and that is sweeter than any candy you could give (corny, I know...but true!).

Happy Halloween!

 

[pyrxtc]

well, I ration out candy and sweets at my house, but when they go somewhere else, it is their rules not mine. We don't go places that often and the occasional splurge on constant junk food will not hurt them in the long run.

 

[PollyannaMom]

I wouldn't worry about it. If they're letting the kids go trick-or-treating, I'm sure they have a plan. (I would let them know the cookies are from you, though, so they know they're safe.)

I know some kids who have allergies to a lot of candy, who simply love to dress up and go out anyway. Their parents let them choose 10 pieces out of the things they can have, and then "buy" the rest from them by trading it for a toy. (I think they donate the candy to a fire station.) It allows the kids to still participate in the fun, and they're not upset about not getting to keep all the candy.

 

[CarmenPeteron]

If the parents were that obsessed about sweets they wouldn't allow the kids to go trick or treating. They do make exceptions and they probably ration the amount that the kids can eat. I doubt that they would have any problem with a kind neighbor giving their kids treats.

 

[ajk912]

no, but we're not over proctective helicopter parents either.

Seriously, if the parents get upset you need to update. Actually, I would love to see the flipside post:

So my kids went TOTing, I don't let them eat a lot of sugar because (insert reason here). Well, we got home from TOTing, and we opened the bag, and there was nothing but candy and sugar! Don't the the neighbors know we don't do sugar?

Sorry I couldn't resist.

 

[Magpie]

Seriously, if the parents get upset you need to update. Actually, I would love to see the flipside post:

So my kids went TOTing, I don't let them eat a lot of sugar because (insert reason here). Well, we got home from TOTing, and we opened the bag, and there was nothing but candy and sugar! Don't the the neighbors know we don't do sugar?

Sorry I couldn't resist.

Or would the flip side be...

We know that our neighbour disapproves of how strict we are about sugar, but did she REALLY have to give each child three full size candy bars and a giant cookie? It feels like she's trying to make a point, or something.

 

[C.Ann]

Obviously too late now - LOL - but no, it wouldn't upset me.. As the parents of the children, it would be my responsibility to "ration" the treats out as I saw fit - maybe over the course of several days for your treats - and I would appreciate the time and effort you put into making their treats "special"..

When my DD and her DH lived in their old neighborhood, there was an elderly couple that lived next door who always made up a very, very special bag of treats just for my DGD.. (They also sent flowers to the house when my DGD was born and at that point, they barely even knew my DD and her DH!) When DD and her family moved away the couple were so sad and asked if it wasn't too far out of the way, would they still bring my DGD by each Halloween.. DD and her DH were only able to do it for 2 years - the DH passed away and the elderly woman had to move to another state to live with one of their children.. But it was so special - the way they "took" to my DD and her family..

Nice to know there are people like that couple - and people like you and your DH that put in that little extra effort.. It's really sweet - and I'm sure it's very appreciated..