Well I disagree about the "Join the Army" thing. What if you are morally opposed to war? What if physically you can't join one of the services? Does that mean you shouldn't go to college or Med School? And if one of my kids wants to be an MD, yep, they will have to take out loans. I am a nurse. Trust me, if you want to be a doctor, settling for a nurse or physical therapy would not be satisfying. I imagine most careers are like that. I see it as a fear thing. And the last thing I want is my 18 year old not choosing to do what they want and desire in life for fear of not getting a job, or fear of not picking the right thing, or fear of paying off loans. Now is the time to dream big. Now that being said, if my child gets a scholarship to one school, and would have to take loans out to attend a different school, I would point out the pros and cons, but ultimately the choice would be his.