Are you together with your spouse for Christmas?

[HappyMommy2]

I would give almost anything to be able to be with my husband on Christmas.
But we're a military family; we expect to have to be separated sometimes and we just celebrate whenever DH is home.

 

[snoopy]

I do spend Christmas with my husband, unless he is working. This year he happens to be off both Christmas Eve and Christmas day, thank goodness.

I agree with the others and am wondering if its possible for you to go with your husband to see his mother for Christmas? She certainly sounds as though she needs you there.

 

[RitaZ.]

I agree with the others that suggested to get together at your MIL's house. It sounds like she really needs her family around her. Maybe your MIL is suffering from depression/anxiety.

 

[Lewski709]

Unless divorced, military or working....... I can't see being apart. I think it is really odd for any other option than being together.

 

[grinningghost]

My DH has been away since mid-November for job training in Cincinnati. He will be home Christmas Eve, but has to go back Christmas Day. It's been kind of hard getting into Christmas without him, but I'm doing the best I can.

 

[llfowl]

I can certainly understand if he were in the military! HappyMommy2, tons of kudos to you for being a military wife!!! I could even understand if he had to work. He worked the whole Thanksgiving holiday.

I understand that my parents want to be with my sister on Christmas, because she has three precious angels. And we don't have any children yet. My sister's husband's family lives in St. Louis too, so I understand that they wouldn't want to go to Wisconsin either.

He did finally say this morning that he did "want" me to go to Wisconsin to be with him. So, that was a MAJOR improvement.

He just really made me mad last night when he said it was "normal" for spouses to not be together. I don't know anyone (outside of the military) that is apart for Christmas!

Thank you everyone for helping me!!! I knew that you guys would make me feel better!!!

 

[Lewski709]

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[Miss Jasmine]

We spend Christmas together unless for some reason he can't get off of work. He is the most senior officer in his department, so that usually is not a problem, thank goodness.

 

[llfowl]

We just got off the phone. He said that she is now having panic attacks and that is why she won't leave the house. (She also has a terrible drinking problem that we are trying to work on.)

So...now I am trying to decide if I should go with him to help support him and his mom or just give them time to themselves.

Decisions...Decisions....

 

[KrnB]

I would go with him to support him. It probably won't be the happiest of holidays for you, but I'm sure he'll need your comfort and support (whether he says it or not) as it won't be easy for him to see his mother like that. It's that same stress that led him to make the comment about it being "normal" for spouses not to be together.

 

[llfowl]

We decided to be apart for Christmas. He thinks that he will have better luck getting her to talk. He did take back what he said about it being normal and that I was right and that spouses should be together.

Thanks for your support!