Are you stuck living somewhere you hate?

[Jack-Jack]

This is just something that's been on my mind lately. Are you stuck? Why?

One of the ladies I share an office with moved here from New York. She isn't fond of living here and doesn't try to hide it. It made me wonder just what brought her here and more importantly what *keeps* her here.

So I asked her. Was it work or family or cost of living? No. Angels. Angels led her here. And she's not one to argue with angels so here she will stay until the angels take her away.

But I but her reason isn't typical of those stuck somewhere they'd rather not be. Why are you stuck where you are?

 

[rgf207]

I'm here, hate it, can't wait to get out

Reasons (in no particular order):
1. People don't know how to drive
2. it never snows here. It snows all around us but we never get anything
3. Nothing to do.
4. People.
5. No good ski resorts
6. so much more

 

[TinkerbEllnor]

yup. DH's job brought us to MA and away from all of our family in upstate NY. Everything just feels more crowded around here. Yards are smaller, houses are on top of each other and more expensive for less sf, traffic everywhere even for minor errands, etc. Plus being away from family and friends makes it harder. Feeling claustrophobic and isolated at the same time, not a good combo.

As soon as we can find new jobs, we are going back.

 

[shelby22]

I really don't like the neighborhood I live in. I feel like we're always playing keeping up with the Jones's here.

I preferred our modest little house in an old neighborhood where everything was walkable. Yes, the town was mostly older people and lower income families and single parents and section 8 renters, but I was comfortable there. I never felt the pressures to be "perfect" there like I do in my upper middle class neighborhood.

Our old house was cheap and we paid it down quickly, now I have a rediculous mortgage and no money for anything else. We didn't really need the space since we didn't really need to add more clutter to our lives. A large yard is somewhat overrated because you have to maintain it. We had a neighborhood park right across the street that was like a social mecca. Now if you want socialization it's by invitation only and usually involves buying something.

In our old town we were okay. Our 10 and 12 year old cars were fine they ran and generally got us from point A to B. In our new neighborhood those cars are considered an eyesore and you should hear the gossip now that we keep one parked out front (gotta have somewhere to park the trailer since the neighborhood has a restriction on leaving those parked outside).

I hate the plastic people in my neighborhood. They put on these nice fronts and inside they are nothing but shallow and vain individuals. It's like their houses - nice looking on the outside, but built of poor quality materials.

I'm sick and I really do need to move. I've struggled with an ED for more than half my life now and I'm sicker than I've ever been. I'm not in the right mental place to deal with it right now because I'm not in the right physical place either.

So why do I stay? Because I like having a happy husband.

 

[chris1gill]

I was stuck for a LONG time, we have finally moved... what kept us where we were? My Husband, he would not move... finally I decided I needed a plan for DS's high school & went along my own way to make one... Coincidentally, the place I chose had a job opening with DH's company so we moved a year early. But, I'm glad to be here and I despised where I lived.... but with DH's family he wouldn't move.... now he's moved his mother up here in another house, his father has now passed away since the move....

 

[Narnian_Princess]

We moved here because of work, but I hate it for many reasons.

- The climate. Hot all year, and so humid.

- The mold. Every winter, never fail, green mold all over the tops of the outside walls, in the windows, and in the closets.

- The bugs. Can't escape them, and there are more wasps/bees here than I've ever seen anywhere else in my life. Did I mention I am TERRIFIED of bees?

- The beach. Ugh. I hate sand. (Now, if our beaches were like Castaway Cay... But they're just dirty and gross. )

 

[apirateslifeforme]

Yep...I've lived in CT for 30 years and I've wanted out for 20. First I was stuck because I was a kid - no choice there! Then I was stuck because I was married and my husband worked for the state DOT; he wasn't about to walk away from that kind of job.

Now I'm divorced and there's really nothing stopping me. I've moved back home to help out my mother; she just started an entirely new career at age 53. We've discussed moving back "home" to Chicago, where most of the rest of our remaining family still lives. It's just going to take some time, that's all.

 

[Alaska Catdog]

I live in a very small town with mean spirited people who do not care for outsiders or one another. I moved here about a year ago. It's like living in a dorm full of people who hate you. Anyway, I followed my husband here for a job, from the outside this place looks like paradise but once you live here you can see it's more like a prison. I like to refer to it as the epicenter of hell. We're moving on Friday.

 

[sandy6879]

I'm in CT and I hate it as well. Taxes are going up, cost of living is ridiculous when compared with areas I'd rather be in, weather sucks - I've been sick with migraines for the past 2 weeks because our weather can't decide what it wants to do, and I HATE snow.

Only reason we're still here - our house hasn't sold yet. It's on the market, it's priced reasonably so we're just waiting for it to go and we're outta here to AZ.

 

[boomhauer]

Yup - Live in Massachusetts and I hate it. If we could, we'd move to Florida today. We can't. My step-son's father lives in Mass., and has visitation. Even if we could move, we wouldn't, as it wouldn't be fair to my step-son. The day he graduates high school, we be out of here.

I often wonder why I didn't move to Florida when I was single. I guess I just wasn't ready then. Obviously, I'm glad I didn't. I never would have met my wife and had my boys.

 

[flrose]

I was stuck somewhere I didn't want to live for 5 long years so I know what some of you are talking about. We moved because my job relocated and thought it would be the right thing to do. I was too far from family, I missed the beach, the sun and the warmer weather. I changed companies and moved back. I'm so much happier being back home. Now if I could get unstuck from this job
Sometimes you just have to weigh the options and do what makes you happiest!

 

[Crankyshank]

I wouldn't say I hate it, but I am fed up with my state and its downward spiral with no end in sight to the fiscal crisis. I would prefer to sell and move back across the MA border but we just can't afford it because of the very reason why I want to sell.

 

[mickeyboat]

There are a lot of things I don't like about where I live, but I am pretty happy to be raising my kids here.

Denae

 

[princesspiglet]

Funny, I was just complaining to my DH this morning about how freaking miserable I am out here.

We are originally from Pittsburgh and had to move back this past Oct. due to a contract we had with our tenant following through. They tore the house to crap, so we had to move back in to fix it up to actually sell it. DH is still living out in Hershey ( we always planned on moving back) and comes home on the weekends, which sucks for myself and our DD. DD and I are living out here and fixing up the house. We drive 1.5 hours to work/school every morning and 1.5 hours home every night, when we used to drive 15 mins each way.

I hate living near the city, I hate the traffic congestion, I hate my DD's new school, I hate my freaking house and I hate being away from my DH!!

We are counting down the days until our house sells (if it ever does!) and will be so grateful to get back to Hershey. I secretly wish my DH would just let us foreclose on the house so we can move now!

 

[Galahad]

When DW was in the Army we lived several places. Two we didn't like much at all and one of those two we really hated. But since where we are from is a popular place for everybody else to ridicule, we were pretty good about keeping our mouth shut about what we thought of where we were. We just got the heck out of there ASAP.

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

We hate it here. The cost of living is higher here (than the rest of the state) and the jobs don't pay well at all.

I wish we would have moved years ago, but I was in school (and all my family is here) so DH stayed for me. I regret that decision all the time.

It looks like we may have to move soon though. DH just lost his job two weeks ago and nothing pays close to what he was making (plus, not many places are hiring anyway). We are going to lose a lot by moving suddenly, but I think it may be best.

 

[lps1176]

I was stuck someplace I didnt like for a long time too (south Florida) and we finally got out last year and moved to Tennessee. I like it SOOOO much better but I do miss the Florida residents discounts at DW

 

[Barb]

Add me to the list. I HATE it here. We were transferred here with my DH's job 20+ years ago. When we saw the possibility that we'd end up being a transfer family forever, we opted to become self-employed. So now we're stuck here.

I hate the weather here. I hate being cold. Summer's aren't too bad, though.
I hate the fact that there's no water sports near by.
I hate the mentality of the people here. The big night out is going to the icky farmer's market on Friday and Saturday nights!
I hate that no one has a clue how to drive. They have no idea of the basic rules of driving. You get your license by answering a few multiple choice questions and driving around a parking lot. Big deal!
I hate that the ultimate vacation here is going to the shore! It wouldn't even enter their minds to go elsewhere!

I want out!!!!!!!

 

[misskrystal]

We live in a big, beautiful apartment right in the centre of the city and I hate it. I hate that most of the people in our building rent and couldn't care less about the damage they do. I hate that we are the ones who pay for the damage. I hate that our windows only open 3 inches. I hate that I have to send my dog to my Mum's house every weekend, just so that he can see some grass. I hate that we're on the top floor of a building with a terribly unreliable elevator. And mostly, I hate the fact that we don't have a garden.

Thankfully, we're buying a house in the next couple of months

 

[paigevz]

Yeah I hate it here. I wouldn't, if I had my friends nearby, but they are all either in Fl or the NE, with a few scattered in between. I want to move where I can see them more often.