Are You Nice?

[lucyblondecat]

Nice = kind, fair, loyal, dependable, interested and interesting.

I try to be all of the above. Sometimes I succeed, sometimes not.

 

[Scutapipig]

My brother once shared with me that I tell people off so tactfully that they don't even know they're being told off!

Does that make me nice?

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I'm normally polite--let people merge in traffic unless I think they are taking advantage of the situation (cutting in front of people), don't cut people off when walking in the grocery store, will help someone who seems to need help, etc. So yes, I'm nice.

However, I will not allow myself to be walked all over, which I think for some people is their definition of nice. Some people don't like any confrontation and won't speak up about anything and they call that nice. I try to speak up politely, at least at first, but I will speak up. I try to pick and choose the battles I fight, which has changed some throughout the years.

Being polite and respectful doesn't mean always being nice and it doesn't mean being a doormat.

 

[luvflorida]

I think the word "nice" might apply to me on the Disboards. There have been many, many times when I have wanted to say something or reply a certain way, but I don't do it because I'm afraid people will think I'm "not nice".

 

[Kitty 34]

My brother is "nice". He humors everyone, says what they want to hear, etc, etc. He's about as fake as they come but everyone loves him because he's so-o-o-o nice.

MY DH is nicer than me because he will smile and laugh during conversation while I sit back and try to figure out what the heck was so funny. I'm bad like that!

 

[auntpolly]

Being polite and respectful doesn't mean always being nice and it doesn't mean being a doormat.

No, I don't think so either, but there are those people that are just so much more calm and accepting than I am, that don't get worked up when someone cuts them off in traffic or whatever.

Someone cuts me off in traffic, I'm screaming "You idiot". People who I consider nice just kind of laugh and shrug and thing, "Maybe they are in a big hurry or are just distracted."

I think people who are really truly nice don't automatically think the worst of people, like I do. You know the expression, takes one to know one. I think people who are nice are more likely to think other people are nice -- I'm just so willing to think people aren't, and I judge them to quickly.

 

[carolfoy]

Nice? not me! I'm MEEEAAANN!

 

[Cantw8]

nope. I'm a royal beeatch

 

[magicmouse2]

I'm Nice. I dont swear, I dont talk nasty about others, try to be fair and see the good in others. I just wish my DH would realise it

 

[cardaway]

"I want you to be nice until it's time to not be nice."

Just a quote from a silly movie but it's true.

 

[SandraVB79]

Someone cuts me off in traffic, I'm screaming "You idiot". People who I consider nice just kind of laugh and shrug and thing, "Maybe they are in a big hurry or are just distracted."

I usually scream "You f***ing idiot" (I did put the * in myself)

 

[helenabear]

People say I am nice... I have a tendency to put people before me.

However, I am not nice in that I don't believe in coddling people and telling them what they need to hear always. I don't believe in lying which can make me very NOT nice. I see too many people just being coddled their waya through everything and somehow that annoys me.

I am a bit cynical, but I do believe that if you are "in my heart" that I should do everything I can for you. I also believe that if you are truly in need of help that I should be there to help out (whether I do know you or not)

So I'm half nice

 

[DVC Sadie]

I have only met 3 people in my life who are/were truly nice people and are grateful that they were/are in my life.

To me nice is not being a doormat but being kind to everyone, not for what they can do for you (general you) but because it is the only way they know/choose to be.

I love this saying and use to use this a signature on other forums; "It is more important to be kind then it is to be right". I do strive for this but have not mastered this saying as of yet.

 

[CheshireVal]

I'm not very *friendly* (bad at small talk, hate meeting new people, won't go out of my way to talk to anyone), but I consider myself generally pretty nice once you get to know me. I do have a catty side, though.

 

[auntpolly]

I love this saying and use to use this a signature on other forums; "It is more important to be kind then it is to be right".

Yes, I think this is true! It's really hard, but it's true! And also, it's more important to be humble enough to realize you might be wrong!

 

[Planogirl]

I try to be and it's hurting me at work where being nice is not a part of the job description. I wonder if it's possible to turn that off?

 

[auntpolly]

I do have a catty side, though.

Yes, don't we all?

But I don't want to be catty anymore. Especially to other women. It's hard not to be, because I think it's something we've been doing to each other for so long. I'd like to stop that.

 

[DVC Sadie]

Yes, I think this is true! It's really hard, but it's true! And also, it's more important to be humble enough to realize you might be wrong!

ITA!

 

[Robinrs]

I'm a NY kind of nice -- brutally honest, in your face, not shy kind of nice. I am VERY friendly, LOVE people but am very private in my own world. I'm rarely not smiling so people THINK I'm nicer than I am but I can be the hardest, toughest human being you've ever dealt with.

 

[auntpolly]

I try to be and it's hurting me at work where being nice is not a part of the job description. I wonder if it's possible to turn that off?

I always think of my HS algebra teacher -- she was tough and everyone thought of her as the meanest thing on the planet, but she was actually extremely kind. She just took no crap, didn't smile much, and worked us to death -- and yet if you had a problem, she was more helpful than any teacher I ever had.

I always think of her -- and wonder how she did it? I think one of the keys was never worrying what anyone thought of her, and also always really trying to do the right thing.

You might have had to worry about her failing you if you didn't do your work, but you never had to worry about getting an unfair grade.