Are you high maintenance?

[OceanAnnie]

Are you a frou-frou, girly girl? Sporty? Somewhere in between? What does high maintenance mean to you?

Poll coming.

 

[luvmy3]

I voted other but it really no, I'm just not sporty.

 

[Mermaid02]

I don't have the money to be high maintenance. Nor am I sporty. I'm a middle of the road kinda girl.

 

[Magpie]

I voted other. My husband calls me low-maintenance (and he sounds grateful when he says it!), but I'm not "sporty". I'm bookish.

Anyway, don't sports take a fair bit of money? If I was "sporty" I'd need expensive sneakers at the very least.

To me, a high maintenance person is someone you always have to watch what you say around. It's someone you have to constantly think about not offending. It's a person who makes it hard work to be with them. "Low-maintenance" people are easy-going, forgiving and flexible.

Thanksgiving Dinner: The high-maintenance guest arrives, looks at the table and immediately corrects your silverware placement, fixing it for you. Then she asks where the wine is, and comments that your selection is okay, but this other wine is "Mmah! SO much better! I had it once at..." (some fancy restaurant). Then she compliments you on your sweet potato casserole, but follows this with an observation that your turkey is dry. She suggest putting tinfoil over it next time. But really, dinner is fabulous, darling! When you mention one of your children's small achievements, she is delighted. Then she tells you all about the much larger achievements of a friend of her's children, all of whom are ever so much more talented and accomplished than yours. She dominates the conversation, though to be fair, she's charming and witty and her topics ARE interesting.

It's just that high maintenance guests are exhausting. When you say goodbye to her, it's with a feeling of relief.

The low-maintenance guest, meanwhile, says everything's great. If she thinks the turkey is dry, she simply won't eat as much of it. She admires the effort you put in and offers to help with the dishes. She's funny and pleasant, and she seems genuinely happy to be at your house, sharing your company. If the Christmas Crackers are duds, she doesn't tell you how exactly they are sub-standard and she doesn't instruct you on where to buy better ones next year, she just thinks they're amusing and she entertains everyone by reading the badly translated Chinese fortunes aloud. When you say goodbye to her, it's with regret.

 

[golfgal]

To me high maintenance isn't about what you wear as much as it is about how much time you take up from other people--does everything have to revolve around you, do you expect people to do what you want or nothing, etc.

If you are simply talking about grooming habits, I am about as low maintenance as you get. I use minimal make-up and my hair is easy to style so that helps. I certainly don't go around looking like a slob but I also don't have to deck myself out to go outside to get the mail either.

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

To me, high maintenance means it tkes a long while for you to get ready in the morning with makeup, hair, clothes selection, jewelry etc.

I'm more sporty. The only makeup I use is sunblock and mascara every day. My hair gets blowdried and I don't use styling products. I may be high maintenance when it comes to the money spent on jewelry, though, because I love jewelry and buy a lot of it.

 

[NatashaDisneyCM]

I do not think of myself as high maintenance. But I do buy a lot of higher end items. I shop high end. I always pay myself you my stuff.
To me high maintenance means, always the best at someone else's expense!

 

[Meriweather]

I voted other....not high maintenance, but not sporty either.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I voted other. My husband calls me low-maintenance (and he sounds grateful when he says it!), but I'm not "sporty". I'm bookish.

Anyway, don't sports take a fair bit of money? If I was "sporty" I'd need expensive sneakers at the very least.

To me, a high maintenance person is someone you always have to watch what you say around. It's someone you have to constantly think about not offending. It's a person who makes it hard work to be with them. "Low-maintenance" people are easy-going, forgiving and flexible.

Thanksgiving Dinner: The high-maintenance guest arrives, looks at the table and immediately corrects your silverware placement, fixing it for you. Then she asks where the wine is, and comments that your selection is okay, but this other wine is "Mmah! SO much better! I had it once at..." (some fancy restaurant). Then she compliments you on your sweet potato casserole, but follows this with an observation that your turkey is dry. She suggest putting tinfoil over it next time. But really, dinner is fabulous, darling! When you mention one of your children's small achievements, she is delighted. Then she tells you all about the much larger achievements of a friend of her's children, all of whom are ever so much more talented and accomplished than yours. She dominates the conversation, though to be fair, she's charming and witty and her topics ARE interesting.

It's just that high maintenance guests are exhausting. When you say goodbye to her, it's with a feeling of relief.

The low-maintenance guest, meanwhile, says everything's great. If she thinks the turkey is dry, she simply won't eat as much of it. She admires the effort you put in and offers to help with the dishes. She's funny and pleasant, and she seems genuinely happy to be at your house, sharing your company. If the Christmas Crackers are duds, she doesn't tell you where to buy better ones next year, she just thinks they're amusing and she entertains everyone by reading the badly translated Chinese fortunes aloud. When you say goodbye to her, it's with regret.

That's interesting. Yes, I see your POV. It can be about relationships. I was looking at the grooming aspect. I consider my style sporty, but I don't spend nearly as much as a woman that requires a lot of fussing with makeup/hair/shopping & shoes/jewelry/nails/etc..

We don't have a "fussy" style for decorating the house either. I mean it's nice. We have nice things. But it's not over the top. Not top of the line everything with a picture perfect presentation. I like it to be feel casual and comfortable.

I wonder if people that are high maintenance in one area are generally the same in all areas?

I think I'm a minimalist in most areas.

To me high maintenance isn't about what you wear as much as it is about how much time you take up from other people--does everything have to revolve around you, do you expect people to do what you want or nothing, etc.

If you are simply talking about grooming habits, I am about as low maintenance as you get. I use minimal make-up and my hair is easy to style so that helps. I certainly don't go around looking like a slob but I also don't have to deck myself out to go outside to get the mail either.

I'm a minimalist too. I think I look my best without a lot of fuss.

 

[Rora]

I'm in-between. It varies by day. I'm not sporty by any means but there are days when I'm pretty low-key. Other days, not so much.

 

[Fantasmic23]

SALLY: "I'd like the Chef Salad, please, with the oil and vinegar on the side and the Apple Pie ala Mode."

WAITRESS [writing down order]: "Chef and Apple ala Mode ..."

SALLY: "But I'd like the pie heated and I don't want the ice cream on top. I want it on the side and I'd like strawberry instead of vanilla, if you have it. If not, then no ice cream ... Just whipped cream. But only if it's real. If it's out of can, then nothing."

WAITRESS: "Not even the pie?"

SALLY: "No, just the pie but then not heated."

WAITRESS: "Uh-huh."

 

[Gigi22]

Nope. I'm not high maintenance--I leave that to others!

 

[SaraJayne]

No. My DH has no idea how good he has it with me.

 

[HM]

It takes my husband longer to get ready than me.

 

[Magpie]

That's interesting. Yes, I see your POV. It can be about relationships. I was looking at the grooming aspect. I consider my style sporty, but I don't spend nearly as much as a woman that requires a lot of fussing with makeup/hair/shopping & shoes/jewelry/nails/etc..

We don't have a "fussy" style for decorating the house either. I mean it's nice. We have nice things. But it's not over the top. Not top of the line everything with a picture perfect presentation. I like it to be feel casual and comfortable.

I wonder if people that are high maintenance in one area are generally the same in all areas?

I think I'm a minimalist in most areas.



I'm a minimalist too. I think I look my best without a lot of fuss.

In my personal experience, yes. Though I'm sure there are exceptions.

 

[golfgal]

SALLY: "I'd like the Chef Salad, please, with the oil and vinegar on the side and the Apple Pie ala Mode."

WAITRESS [writing down order]: "Chef and Apple ala Mode ..."

SALLY: "But I'd like the pie heated and I don't want the ice cream on top. I want it on the side and I'd like strawberry instead of vanilla, if you have it. If not, then no ice cream ... Just whipped cream. But only if it's real. If it's out of can, then nothing."

WAITRESS: "Not even the pie?"

SALLY: "No, just the pie but then not heated."

WAITRESS: "Uh-huh."

I know someone JUST like this-she can't order anything just off the menu-there has to be a special condition for EVERYTHING. It is embarrassing to go out to eat with her.

 

[KimR]

As far as appearance goes I'm very high-maintenance. I'm a girly-girl and I love clothes, make-up and jewely. I never go out without make-up and I spend a lot of time and money on my hair, cosmetics, facial treatments, etc. My DH teases me about it but he admits that he appreciates the effort I put into my looks.

 

[NikitaZee]

I guess I am high maintenance, I think. I shower, blow dry my hair, and wear make-up just about every day. I buy high-end products that I travel to the mall to get, or order online. My nails are always polished, even if it's just pale pink. BUT - I get up before everyone else in the house, so by the time the day starts I am done with my routine, and it never holds anyone up. I also do my own pedicures, and since I wear my hair fairly long I only get a trim every 3 or 4 months. I recently tried home coloring my hair for the first time, and in my mind that bumps me up even more into high maintenance, especially since I don't know if I can continue to do it by myself.

 

[FINFAN]

I voted "other"..I'm really just a no but that option isn't there. Basically, I am the type who makes the others look good, lol....face it high maintenence folks, you NEED regular ones like me out there.
never had a facial, manicure,pedicure,spa day/treatment, pro hair color, extensions, teeth whitening, plastic surgery, cosmetic counter in dept store "make-over", clothes tailored to fit "just right", personal trainor , gym membership,jeweler, maid or cleaning service (ever..and if I had $$$ for maintenence THAT is where it would go) I provide all those services myself with the help of Target, Wal-mart, Great Clips, dog walking, and Kohls, lol.
I HAVE however, been to WDW a lot and Hawaii once in HS...so I guess my high maintenence is a travel budget.

 

[froggygrrrl]

I definitely fall into the sporty category. Sometimes I wish I were more high maintenance, especially when I look in my closet and am unsatisfied with my collection of hoodies, sweatshirts and casual sweaters. But then there are times when I really don't care and if I had to be high maintenance to project an image, I just wouldn't be me.

*Of course, I'm not suggesting that anyone who is high maintenance is only doing so to project a certain image.*