Are you always asked to bring a dish or dessert

[Jodi1980]

when invited to someone's house for a gathering?

 

[lynxstch]

whether it's been a family party or been invited to dinner at a friend's house..they always say 'would you mind bringing......whatever'...of course I mind..but don't say so..lol..just once I would like to be asked to a party and not have to contribute..unless I am the one doing the party giving..I never ask..if someone offers..that's a different story!
Lynn

 

[monkeyboy]

Nope never

 

[browneyes]

Dessert.

 

[Margie J]

Desserts of all kinds are my specialty, including decorated cakes, pastries, cookies, etc. So it's expected that I will bring one.

Once a friend hosting a BBQ greeted me at the door with "where's the dessert?" I joked that I didn't bring one and he closed the door in my face.

 

[lilpritch04]

I've never been asked to bring anything, unless it has been an *advertised* potluck for a gathering. I always offer though. Most of the time I bring dessert.

 

[stinkerbelle]

I'm never *asked* flat out, but 9 times out of 10 I show up with something in my hand anyway.

 

[beattyfamily]

I've been asked by one particular friend (they ask everyone attending their parties) to always bring something to all their parties.

For the Holidays, my sisters and I take turns...I do Easter, one does Thanksgiving and the other does Christmas. We each bring a dessert or our most famous dish but not everyone brings food, just the 3 sisters.

When I have a party (besides Easter), I NEVER would ask people to bring anything. I find it rude. If they offer, I say, no thank you, I'm all set. It's just how I was brought up. Even though, I say no thank you, some do still bring a dessert.

I have brought things to parties sometimes cause I feel weird going empty handed.

 

[monkeyboy]

Originally posted by stinkerbelle
I'm never *asked* flat out, but 9 times out of 10 I show up with something in my hand anyway.

 

[stinkerbelle]

Originally posted by monkeyboy

What did I say?

 

[Pooh67_68]

I was brought up that you always offer to bring something. If the Host/Hostess says no than we bring nothing, if the person says yes than we aks what. Since everyone in my family was brought up the same way, if I am hosting everyone ask what to bring and I tell them, well if you don't mind how about?

Example:
This Sunday Sept. 5th I am having a cookout at my house. Everyone invited asked if they could bring something. Usally I would say no, but than for weeks I would hear are you sure I can't bring anything, how about I bring? So now I just have them bring their specialty.

 

[Crankyshank]

I always bring something. I'm not always asked.
People usually request I bring my specialty dessert, dip, and an alcoholic punch.

I wonder why

 

[Bob Slydell]

Rarely asked, but I usually offer to bring something. At minimum, I usually bring a bottle of wine or something like that.

 

[lecach]

For holiday meals at my mother inlaws we're told what to bring. Sometimes she'll tell us to bring rolls or something like that. THEN she tells us what we owe - like on Easter she told us we owed her $18 for the chicken salad she purchased - and we are the ONLY 2 people in the family that dont even eat the chicken salad!!!

A few weeks ago she invited us to her house for a meal - she and her aunt and uncle were going to the farmers market and fixing a dinner of fresh veggies and buying fried chicken from one of their favorite restaurants. We went - and were charged about $20 for 1/3 of the cost of all the food! We didnt know that we were going to be paying so we had to pull all of the cash out of my purse and DH's wallet to pay since we werent prepared. Then of the leftovers that were left we didnt like any of them so we didnt even get a second meal out of it.

My Mom would never in a million years charge us for the food she has at her house. And of the few times we've had them over we have never charged them or asked them to bring anything. In fact one time my FIL needed to go to the grocery store to get more soda since we hadnt bought enough and we gave him the money to pay for it.

 

[stinkerbelle]

lecach



No offense to your MIL, but that's the ODDEST thing I've ever heard in my LIFE! She charges FAMILY for meals when she hosts dinners?

 

[Bonnie40]

lecach...OMG! I couldn't imagine being 'charged' for a meal that I've been invited to, especially at family meals!

When we get together with the in-laws, all the grown children contribute a dish - vegetable, dessert, hor'derves (sp?). We usually rotate so we're not always making the same thing. I don't mind doing that, but I think I would have something to say if my MIL stated that we 'owed' her money for the meal! Wow!

 

[mickeyboat]

I never ask, but my friends always offer and I take them up on it. When they have a function, I always ask and they take me up on it. It works out great that way!

lecach - I can't believe you get charged for meals! That's horrible. I can understand if everyone agrees to chip in for pizza or take out, but I would never demand payment after inviting everyone over and planning and serving a meal. That's just wrong!

Happy Labor Day Weekend!

Denae

 

[Pooh67_68]

Originally posted by lecach
For holiday meals at my mother inlaws we're told what to bring. Sometimes she'll tell us to bring rolls or something like that. THEN she tells us what we owe - like on Easter she told us we owed her $18 for the chicken salad she purchased - and we are the ONLY 2 people in the family that dont even eat the chicken salad!!!

A few weeks ago she invited us to her house for a meal - she and her aunt and uncle were going to the farmers market and fixing a dinner of fresh veggies and buying fried chicken from one of their favorite restaurants. We went - and were charged about $20 for 1/3 of the cost of all the food! We didnt know that we were going to be paying so we had to pull all of the cash out of my purse and DH's wallet to pay since we werent prepared. Then of the leftovers that were left we didnt like any of them so we didnt even get a second meal out of it.

My Mom would never in a million years charge us for the food she has at her house. And of the few times we've had them over we have never charged them or asked them to bring anything. In fact one time my FIL needed to go to the grocery store to get more soda since we hadnt bought enough and we gave him the money to pay for it.

They charge you for the meals!?

 

[ladydancer]

It depends on what type of gathering it is. If it is a group of friends trying to get together and someone offers there home or yard, we all bring something. If it is my dance group getting together for a xmas party, we all bring a dish. My grown children are coming over for a B-B-Q on labor day and we are all chipping in and making something.

If invited to someones house for "dinner" I will offer to bring something. Usually they will say "no thank you" but I can't go empty handed.

 

[Mimi Q]

Yes- dessert.