are they real friends?

[catgurlars]

Can you guys maybe help me out? I have a friend problem in school. So in school, I'm in a super clique of like 10 kids. Within that clique is a sub clique with me and 3 other girls (they're in basically all of my class while the other kids aren't in any of my classes.) Those 3 other girls were new last year to school ( and they came from different schools) and then we became friends because we were in the same classes. It's always been where they always hang out and they never seem to bother with me but apparently they seem to act like they want to be my friend sometimes. Right now, in school, they're all togther looking up pictures from the "Twilight" movie on a computer. I offered on my computer to look up pictures too with one of my "friends" and she just totally ignored what I was saying when I said that I was going to do that too and she's with the 2 other girls. And the other 2 girls also ignored me after I offered to look up the pictures with them. And now I'm alone ranting to you guys. I feel so left out and I keep on complaining to my friends about this and they say "no we love you. we don't mean to leave you out we dont even realize it.." and it's hard for me to believe they really are my friends and they really care about me because they don't even think about how they're hurting me.


Also, stuff like this happens on a daily basis and I don't know what to do. I feel like crying because of this.

 

[HouseMD1120]

Can you guys maybe help me out? I have a friend problem in school. So in school, I'm in a super clique of like 10 kids. Within that clique is a sub clique with me and 3 other girls (they're in basically all of my class while the other kids aren't in any of my classes.) Those 3 other girls were new last year to school ( and they came from different schools) and then we became friends because we were in the same classes. It's always been where they always hang out and they never seem to bother with me but apparently they seem to act like they want to be my friend sometimes. Right now, in school, they're all togther looking up pictures from the "Twilight" movie on a computer. I offered on my computer to look up pictures too with one of my "friends" and she just totally ignored what I was saying when I said that I was going to do that too and she's with the 2 other girls. And the other 2 girls also ignored me after I offered to look up the pictures with them. And now I'm alone ranting to you guys. I feel so left out and I keep on complaining to my friends about this and they say "no we love you. we don't mean to leave you out we dont even realize it.." and it's hard for me to believe they really are my friends and they really care about me because they don't even think about how they're hurting me.


Also, stuff like this happens on a daily basis and I don't know what to do. I feel like crying because of this.

I hate to tell you this, but they aren't real friends. They are friends with you when they want to be friends with you, and they aren't when they don't want to be. The same thing happened to be last year at school.

If you want to try to save this friendship, email them and tell you how they have been making you feel. They might not realize how they are treating you. But if they don't change, try to find some new friends.

 

[catgurlars]

I do tell them how I feel and they tell me that my view of things is wrong and that "they really do care". And they never check their e-mails XD.

 

[HouseMD1120]

Well since you have told them how you feel, and they haven't changed, AND they tell you that your views are wrong (which in my opinion is automatic grounds from a break in any relationship) I would leave them for a little while and find some new friends. Maybe after a little while they will mature, but in the meantime you will have some friends that actually do care.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

Yeah, like Hunter said, they don't sound like real friends. I'd try and find some new ones.

 

[Swedish Meatball]

I agree with Hunter & Nana. They don't seem like real friends, only friends when it suits them.

 

[ElphabaThropp]

All i can say is, I'd make some new friends.It's not worth being ignored.