"Are they all yours?"

[HappyLawyer]

yes, to me 3 is quite a few, i have one, would like four but will settle for 2 but two more years os so for the next one-lol, i think people may just wonder how you do it, i did not realize how much work it takes in being a parent, i now know i had a good mother.

I do not think they are asking you to be mean, i ask sometimes, i just admire how some people manage with 3 i struggle with my 1 (but i love her to death)

 

[phorsenuf]

I have 4, but wish I had gone for 6. Oh well. I didn't get the all yours comment so much as are you going to try for a girl. I have all boys and I guess people think you need a girl to be complete or something. I love having all boys, yes it loud and smelly but I wouldn't trade it for the world!

 

[Ariel Wanna-be]

Well, I have one and I constantly get the "oh, it's not fair to just have one" speech from strangers.

My friend has four and she gets the "you must be Catholic" speech from strangers.

Another friend is childless and she gets the "why don't you have kids" speech from strangers.

And you're telling me that you get flack for having three.

I guess that leaves only one logical conclustion...the only "non-commentable" amount of children that one must have is 2! (Or am I wrong...parents of two do you get comments?)

 

[U2_rocks!]

I don't get asked that, but I'm sure it's because they all look like siblings! It's pretty clear that they all belong together!

 

[phorsenuf]

I guess that leaves only one logical conclustion...the only "non-commentable" amount of children that one must have is 2! (Or am I wrong...parents of two do you get comments?)

Yes, but only if it's 1 girl and 1 boy.

 

[JunieJay]

Well, I have one and I constantly get the "oh, it's not fair to just have one" speech from strangers.

My friend has four and she gets the "you must be Catholic" speech from strangers.

Another friend is childless and she gets the "why don't you have kids" speech from strangers.

And you're telling me that you get flack for having three.

I guess that leaves only one logical conclustion...the only "non-commentable" amount of children that one must have is 2! (Or am I wrong...parents of two do you get comments?)

Not if its two of the same sex. We have 2 boys and also get the "when are you going to have a girl" comment, or at least we used to. Now I guess people figure we're too old.

 

[Frantasmic]

There are worse assumptions people can make.

I balded early, and what's left is white. So, I look 10-15 years older than I am. Over the years, people have thought my wife was my daughter, my kids were my grandkids, my father was my brother, but the worst were my SIL's, who look younger than they are, were my CHILDREN FROM A PRIOR MARRIAGE.

 

[kilee]

Well, I have one and I constantly get the "oh, it's not fair to just have one" speech from strangers

We get this all the time too. It used to really hurt when we were going through infertility treatments. Now that a few yrs have passed and I've come to terms-- I usually say something along the lines of we can't. Honestly, it usually makes the "asker" uncomfortable-- and it serves them right for butting in to our personal business.

Now, for 3 kids-- I don't think that would strike me as a large family if I seen you all together.

 

[mjkacmom]

Every single time I'm out with all of them - I try to look straight ahead, and not make eye contact. I have a 10, 8, 5, and 3 year old twins, and my 10 and 8 year olds are the same size, and my 5 year old is just about 2 inches taller than the twins, so it really looks like a set of twins, and a set of triplets.

 

[Becky2005]

I don't think I ever got asked that with 3 here but when we made the jump to 4, got a few more comments.

HOWEVER, 3 around here is the norm. Plus you have enough age span.

I only asked a person once if they were all theirs because she had about 4 kids that all looked around the same age yet looked nothing alike. Plus, it was for a young age class she was waiting to get done. Turns out she was a childcare provider. I figured it *WAS* possible they were quadruplets but I wasn't really sure.

Edited to add: I asked because I was impressed with the way she lined them up & sat them down on the bleachers & they complied without so much of a peep and I don't think most of them were even 2 yet. It was quite amazing to see. Here I was chasing mine around trying to keep him out of trouble while waiting for his sister. I wanted to know her secret plus I had seen her for couple weeks with various children.

 

[DisneyBlonde]

I know someone who has 10 children (1 set of twins). To me that is shocking. Three is not. JMO.

 

[twinmomplus2new]

People say that all the time. Wen My twins were infants, ( really tiny) people would say are they both yours? AAHH yes.. are they twins? aaah yes..
One time My mom got so annoyed she said . No they are not both hers. He was lonley so she picked up the neighbors 4 week old for a litle playtime. and then she just walked away.

 

[kinntj]

I would think 2 and 3 is the norm. Although, as someone that has lost all her pregnancies and adopted 2 children, I don't care how many people have. Children are a blessing and I just give large families a little admiring smile. I love to see large families!

I think it's rude to ask about kids in any shape or form.

 

[Hercules10]

Look at it from a positive aspect. MAYBE they think you're too much of a babe to have 3 kids?

where's that kissing butt smile...?

 

[disneymama73]

Look at it from a positive aspect. MAYBE they think you're too much of a babe to have 3 kids?

 

[TiggerStac]

Well, I have one and I constantly get the "oh, it's not fair to just have one" speech from strangers.

My friend has four and she gets the "you must be Catholic" speech from strangers.

Another friend is childless and she gets the "why don't you have kids" speech from strangers.

And you're telling me that you get flack for having three.

I guess that leaves only one logical conclustion...the only "non-commentable" amount of children that one must have is 2! (Or am I wrong...parents of two do you get comments?)

I'll comment as an almost parent of 2....

I have 1 DS who is 5 and another DS on the way. 2 things I get all the time..oh that is such an age difference. Well if I didn't have to go thru 2.5 years of inferitlity treatments and a miscarriage 6 months before I got preg w/this one...it wouldn't be that much. I was trying for a 2-3 year age difference.

And the second...are you going to try again for a girl. So, then would I fall into the "are they all yours" and I'd have to say..well everyone kept asking me if I was going to try again for a girl, so I did.

 

[mrsltg]

Three kids are shocking now? I guess I missed the memo...

I have two dd's and I get the, "aren't you going to try for a boy?" Or, my personal favorite, "isn't your husband disappointed?" Hello, he's not Henry VIII!!! Catch me on a bad day or pry to much and I let loose. I'll answer, "oh, we had a boy. He died." I have yet to have anyone say anything further after that.

Why don't people mind their own?

 

[disneymama73]

I also get the "no boys, huh?" or "are you gonna try for a boy?" from a lot of people. I don't want my girls to think there is anything wrong with being a girl because it happens A LOT, so I proudly say, "Nope and I love having girls!"

When I was pg with DD #3, people would look at me very shocked at say, "You're really going to have your hands full." Gee, thanks. And they'd excitedly say, "Oh! Is it a boy?" And when I'd say it was another girl, they'd say, "well, you can always try again."

 

[mom2boys]

Well, I have one and I constantly get the "oh, it's not fair to just have one" speech from strangers.

My friend has four and she gets the "you must be Catholic" speech from strangers.

Another friend is childless and she gets the "why don't you have kids" speech from strangers.

And you're telling me that you get flack for having three.

I guess that leaves only one logical conclustion...the only "non-commentable" amount of children that one must have is 2! (Or am I wrong...parents of two do you get comments?)

"Mom2boys checking in on that. When my boys were younger I would get the "you need a girl" or "when are you going for the girl".
I have friends who stopped at one for health issues - one had a very difficult delivery and was bed-ridden for a month; the other had what she thought were fertility issues - turned out to be ovarian cancer. If she hadn't been trying to concieve the second child, the cancer may not have been caught in time.
Another friend occassionally mentions how embarassed she was being the 9th of 13 children. Peolpe would actually point & stare at her family.

I never comment on the size of people's families.

 

[bjgrazi]

Try having an soon to be 18 y/o a 15 y/o and a 6month old. The comments are unreal sometimes. Being pregnant when you're in your 40's gave people the right to be rude beyond belief.

My daughter refuses to push him while out or hold him. She gets young Mom comments and I get Grandma comments. I had one woman say to me at the Mall that's it's nice I pretend he's mine.

I think people have lost the sensor chip in their brains or we're just growing them real stupid nowadays.