Are Funeral Dinners Popular Where You Live? **FINAL UPDATE Post 158**

[DaisyJ]

No words, just a

 

[mom2rtk]

Hugs and prayers to you and your family getting through the coming days.

All any of us can hope for is to pray peacefully at a time when we're ready to go.

 

[YoYoAurora]

@MIGrandma, I'm so very sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers and will be in the days to come. It will be hard, and I wish that I could be there in person to support you. May you find peace and comfort in the wonderful memories of your mother.

I found that with my mother's passing, seeing her at rest was not as difficult as I'd thought it would be.

 

[superme80]

I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[Imzadi]

I'm very sorry for your loss.

 

[Kitty 34]

MIGrandma..........so sorry for your loss. You've been thru a lot the last couple of years so here's a big for you. May she rest in peace.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

I am sorry for your loss

 

[lynxstch]

So very sorry for your loss. You will make it thru, with the help of your family and friends, and with God's help. Sending you more prayers to get thru the next few days.

 

[lynxstch]

So very sorry for your loss. You will make it thru, with the help of your family and friends, and with God's help. Sending you more prayers to get thru the next few days

 

[spacemountainmom]

I am sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

 

[verleniahall]

The church she attends should do all of the food and deliever it to your home - it is for family only

 

[Stefne]

I am so sorry for your loss OP. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

 

[tarheelmjfan]

Letting those who offered support know that my Mom passed away yesterday (Monday) morning. It's hard, so hard, but I'm relieved too. She is now with my Dad and is happy again. She was so "ready to go" and mentioned that several times before she passed. We saw her Sunday afternoon, she was sleeping, as usual, when we got there and it may sound morbid but I checked her breathing to make sure she was still alive. I'd been doing that awhile now. Touched her shoulder and she woke up, looked at us, said hello and gave us the nicest smile. We tried to sit her up to drink her milkshake (always took her one) but she was too weak, and couldn't suck the shake through the straw either even though it had melted some and we'd stirred it for her. She immediately went back to sleep so we stayed a bit longer, but then I leaned down, kissed her on the cheek and told her we were going to let her rest. She hardly stirred at that point, and this was about 2:00 in the afternoon.

At 6:30 that evening the nurse called and said they could no longer get her vitals and that she was completely unresponsive to anyone. She said if anyone wanted to see her one more time they should come within a couple of hours. I did not want to go back, didn't feel it would do her or myself any good. And our kids/grands had already seen her so they didn't go up again either. She made it through the night and passed yesterday morning, shortly after 10:00. Hospice was with her when it happened.

Tonight is a special viewing for just immediate family, us, our kids and grands. Tomorrow is visitation in the afternoon and again in the evening, then her funeral is on Thursday afternoon. I asked the funeral home director if it has ever been done that the graveside service, after the regular funeral service, was just private for immediate family and he said it is not the usual thing, but not unusual either and has been done before so that's what I requested. After the service they will just announce that burial will be at a later time, then after everyone has left we will proceed to the cemetery. The kids and grands are looking forward to coming back to our house for a light meal (our daughter and son-in-law are handling that responsibility and already have the food ordered) and to look at photo albums of Mom's.

The funeral director asked for 20 photos of Mom, from her childhood on up to as present as possible, for the guest book. And another 40 to add to that 20, to make a video for us. So, last night and this morning DH and I were going through all of her photo albums and did manage to pick 60 out. It was therapeutic doing that, and we are already planning to show the video to the kids/grands at our family Christmas gathering, in honor of her.

It's going to be hard, so very hard, to see her in that casket tonight. But. I owe it to her to make sure her hair is done properly and that they haven't put too much make-up on her as she didn't wear it, and I requested to have her nails done too. It's the last thing I can give her. So I've prayed to God for the strength to get through tonight, tomorrow and Thursday. And I know my family will support me.

I probably won't be on here for a few days now, but do want to thank everyone that has offered their support and their prayers. Thank you all so much.

I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you. I hope you're surrounded with loved ones who can help you through this most difficult time.

 

[minniebeth]

MIGrandma, I'm so very sorry for your loss. Moms are special, and it's so hard to lose them. Sending prayers and hugs.

 

[ols386]

So very sorry for your loss. Keeping you and your family in my prayers. Hugs.

 

[mickyzzzzz05]

Continued prayers for peace and comfort for you and all of your mom's loved ones.

 

[maxaroni]

@MIGrandma My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[focusondisney]

MIGrandma, thank you for letting us know. My deepest sympathy. Your mom will forever be in your heart. May your memories give you comfort until you meet again.

 

[lizziepooh]

So sorry for your loss. I lost my mom 6 years ago and still miss her but it does get easier with time.

 

[Minnesota!]

Praying for peace for you.