Okay here is goes. My DH has a dd from when he was much younger (he just turned 16 when she was born). Anyhow, at the time he was living w/ his dad 1/2 a country away, and only stayed there for 1 year. He left before the child was born. Eventually he went through paternity tests and has paid child support every month from the time he was 18 until now. (which he pays to our state and they send it to them and don't tell us where they are). About 5 years ago he really wanted to see at least photo's of the little girl and started trying to find her mother. In the end he found her via a cousin of hers and they talked a bit. In the end the mother let him see his dd twice. It was the first time the dd knew that my dh was her father and even existed. She then must of had regrets about letting him get involved. The mom(ex gf) started acting really weird and called and started giving him a really hard time and told him she was moving to another state, and they'd be in touch when they were settled. Well, their phone was disconnected and we never heard from them again. He didn't pursue it because we did live so far away, the little girl up to this point had been raised thinking someone else was her father, and he just didn't want to disrupt their lives anymore. It was clear the exgf didn't want him involved, and at the time he figured this was for the best. I guess he says that when she gets older he'd try to find her. When she could talk to him herself w/o going through her mom. Also, we had moved and changed phone numbers since then too.
Fast forward 5, almost 6 years. The girl is now almost 15. Well, today there is multiple calls on the caller ID. The calls are coming from a person w/ the same last name as the daughter and the first name of her grandmother. We looked up the area code on google and it's from the same town we last knew her to live in (the same town my dh's father lived in). So, it HAS to be them. Only thing was they hung up everytime on the machine. Neither one of us know what to make of this. He is contemplating calling the number back. However, he's worried if it's the daughter who got his number, nobody might know she's calling. He's just not sure what to do. Either way he's sitting tight for tonight seeing if someone calls later in the evening. It's driving us both crazy. After this long why would someone call.....it just makes you feel so topsy-turvy inside.
What would anyone else make of this???? What would you do?
I just want to add, I know my dh made some bad choices regarding his status in his daughters life. I also know he regrets them everyday, so I don't condone that he didn't step up to the plate at the time. Unfortunately, he can't go back and change that.
Fast forward 5, almost 6 years. The girl is now almost 15. Well, today there is multiple calls on the caller ID. The calls are coming from a person w/ the same last name as the daughter and the first name of her grandmother. We looked up the area code on google and it's from the same town we last knew her to live in (the same town my dh's father lived in). So, it HAS to be them. Only thing was they hung up everytime on the machine. Neither one of us know what to make of this. He is contemplating calling the number back. However, he's worried if it's the daughter who got his number, nobody might know she's calling. He's just not sure what to do. Either way he's sitting tight for tonight seeing if someone calls later in the evening. It's driving us both crazy. After this long why would someone call.....it just makes you feel so topsy-turvy inside.
What would anyone else make of this???? What would you do?
I just want to add, I know my dh made some bad choices regarding his status in his daughters life. I also know he regrets them everyday, so I don't condone that he didn't step up to the plate at the time. Unfortunately, he can't go back and change that.
He sent me a pic of her - she favors my younger dd! 
