i am just curious , but what have you decided on?
i thought you already made up your mind but was seeking
reassurance when you posted?
...long time ago, i had the privilege of working with an ob/maturity
ward. i always been interested in science & health care. the
things i learn from these nurses is as relevant today as it was
in the mid 70's. in the 3 years i worked with them, not one
newborn was lost. not one even though there were some high-
risk deliveries.
wow, the 300 deliveries i was part of.....are now past their mid-
30's.
these nurses have all past on. and sadly these type of nurses are
no longer common. we find that out when we had our children
in the late 80's. in fact, we had such a horrible experience
with our second that i was forced to help my wife with no
doctor and/or nurse. she was useless & my wife had been on
a pitocin drip where her doctor had left the hospital. fyi~
doctors/nurses only assist the delivery, the mother does it.
the unprofessional nurse we discovered later, was a nursery
nurse...not labor /delivery...& all she cared about was getting
as many students in the tiny birthing room. but when my
wife went into final stage, our son was hang up, she gave
a scream that cleared the room...every single student ran out
of there- as did the nursery nurse, leaving me between my
wife's legs. the only thing i could do was whispered encouragements.
i will never forget the miracle that she pulled off that day. when
our doctor arrived, i reminded him it is illegal for him to have left
the hospital when he had a pt. on a pitocin drip . i was not happy.
shortly afterwards, my mother died suddenly & it was tuff going
for us the next 3 years. we were @ the crossroads of deciding
if we were going to have any more. she looked @ me, &
said this...." you can't ask me to go thru that again. she was
100% right. then 10 years , later we had a silly fight & she
said...i am taking all "3"? of us out the door. so i responded,
telling her to leave the dog....that's when she informed me
that i "don't get it", what?!!.....we all went out & celebrated.
nor did we took any chances, we went with high/risks specialists.
we had 2 boys. my mother had ten children & in pairs. my sister
was my closest sibling. she also had my mother 's ariel/like hair.
she had 2 boys/one girl. the boys were brown hair/ but her daughter
had the ariel's hair. i knew with my wife's having black hair like
snow white made the odds even longer but some times you just
have to believe.
things didn't go easy but we made it. my wife graduated from osu
nuclear med...& worked @ the hospital. so everyone was in on
this. and during the summer olympics, i went all over for a red-hair
gym. & got the last one. ( because we had 2 boys, my wife
adopted the hobby of collecting barbies since we wasn't having
no more..& i have never mind "helping" her regardless what
my buddies said ~
). it was wonderful surprise when she
came out, & the doctor yell...."she covered with red hair,
"!!!
among the nurses, she started a new baby craze!
that's a little of my background. why so much is because i think
this is important question. the thing i learn most from doing this
type of work...is there is no such thing as routine delivery.
one critical design of the hospital was having the operating room
connected to the delivery rooms & a team on call. that saved
lives.
only you can decide. i think there is no precious cargo then
new life. in fact, i believe every newborn is a sign from God
that life is meant to carry the future. the whole system that
brings forth new life is pure
, as their potential.
but it is also very fragile. i believe the rise in autism has
some basis in lack of prenatal care & risks taken by mothers
to be. no matter how many prefect/easy ones you may
have, the risks are always there. the uterus is sorta like
a deflated hot/air balloon ..& where ever baby "set up
shop", can become high risks. but it also possible nothing
happens no matter what you do---but if you have problems
are you going blame yourself ? i think this is "what" i would ask
myself- before doing anything--if i was in your shoes.
what we did in all of ours, were to do everything we could
to have a safe , normal delivery. while that didn't happened-
we did have 3 healthy children.
needless to say , our lil'ariel has been spoiled from day one.
when she was 2, i glanced over & caught her acting just
liked my mother used to do. all my dreams in life has
come true , some many times over. but nothing on earth to
me has more value than health children except my wife.
funny thing on the way, they were not even in the running
in the beginning, kinda shows what maturity does for
you.
oh, i never work in any other place with so many miracles. today
i think they wouldn't have if they hadn't done every thing
they could to help them get started. guess it comes from my
mother always telling us...the Lord helps those that help
themselves.
so no matter the opinions here, that lil' bouncy ball is in you
court. best of luck for a future health newborn,
oh, names yet?
