Anyone have ungratefull family members

[ScarlettO]

Sorry.......I'd cancel the room ressiea and tell her some thing unexpected came up regarding your finances and you no longer can pay for her room. She 's taking advantage of you....and only YOU can stop letting her walk all over you. She has the money...let her pay for the trip.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

i just read kilee's trip report


omg you poor woman bless you
does your dh know you wrote it ?
did your ds ever the gift from the mil?

 

[twinmomplus2new]

I do think your SIL is taking advantage of you.
That being said, I would totally take the high road, (This time only)
For the sake of the kids. Trust me when they are older and this is all water under the bridge, They will remember Auntie helped them see Mickey. that should be your satisfaction, Let her go pound sand.

 

[hentob]

cancel and say that "finance problems have come up" has a great idea! I don't care if children are involved. If they don't want to take _their_ kids, oh well. It is not a God given right to go to WDW. Her children are just learning that taking advantage of people is an ok thing to do. Believe me, being walked upon is NOT the high road.

What does YOUR dh say about this?

I would not pay for a penny. Then again, I would never let anyone pay my way either.

Hentob

 

[gemmie214]

Originally posted by hockey mom
CarolA and Hauntedmasiongeek- that is exactly what my DH said.

If he had it his way we would meet up for about an hour each day and that's it.

Her husband has an excellent idea there. I would really, really seriously consider it.

 

[hentob]

The meeting for an hour each day is a good idea. Just don't make it during a meal time--Or you will be footing that bill as well.

Hentob

 

[Sandy V.]

Personally, I would take the kids, but there is NO WAY that I would spring for the entire family. Sounds like your sister is attempting to take advantage of your very generous nature. You sound like a gem of an aunt!!!

If you do decide to pay for the lodging of your sister's entire family, I'd make sure that your sister knew (with another adult present - not her husband - you need a "neutral" party as a witness!) that that is ALL you are paying for in regards to their trip.

Good luck and have fun!!

Edited to add: I also agree with the other posters about spending a limited amount of time with each other each day if both families go together. It's YOUR vacation too - do what YOUR FAMILY wants to do! Probably the least stressful alternative.

 

[Lachesis00]

I could totally see my sister pulling this (at least your bought tickets and such) and I have a cousin who is THE worst for stuff like this.

 

[Disney Doll]

I could see my SIL pulling this type of stuff. I could tell you stories that would curl your hair!!!! Thankfully, she lives 1500 miles away, so it is an issue only occasionally, when she comes for a visit. It's pretty easy to ignore someone form 1500 miles away,and caller ID is a beautiful thing!

I'd pay for the rooms, you said you would, and you'd look like a schmo if oyu didn't. I'd make it very clear that you were paying for the room only, and nothing else. I'd fllow your plan that you made up for your family that she seems to think is so funny, and let her stumble along on her own.

And learn a lesson....

 

[hyzdufan]

Originally posted by hockey mom
Sorry need to vent before I kill my sister.

Well that certainly caught my attention!

 

[SpecialK]

I'd go through with paying for the condo but I'd make sure the rental agency knows that your sister will be the actual occupant. If there are any damages etc. you will be responsible as the person who signed the rental agreement.

Also - are you sure your sister is as flush as she's pretending to be? (re:husband's bonus) Sounds like they lived higher than they should have if things went bust after the first Disney trip. I don't in any way think that justifies her actions, but I wonder if she's putting on the dog because your situation has improved as hers has declined.

 

[missypie]

I would never ever plan a Disney trip with any member of my family or DH's family. I know that my head would absolutely explode and that would be a bad thing.

 

[hentob]

I didn't mean to sound mean in my prior post. We have paid for family memebers to travel to WDW with us in the past. They were my two younger brothers (at the time ages 11 and 15). The youngest we took twice. They were _invited_ and did NOT ask. My parents (who could have never afforded to to take/send them to WDW) were beyond thankful and to this day remind us how nice that was of my dh and myself to do.

There is nothing like being able to take someone to WDW--Someone who would never be able to go b/c of financial restraints. To see their faces. To hear them talk about it years later. To see them look at the photo album and relive the wonderful times. They loved Stormalong Bay and spent hours by the pool, in disbelief.

Something tells me that the original poster will not have many memories like this. She is being _expected_ to pay for this. I feel badly for the children, I do. But, I feel their parents are teaching them it is ok to expect such expensive things to be handed to them. I also feel that the parents are very out of place.

Just my opinions. Again, sorry if I sounded mean before........

Hentob