Anyone have a small ceremony with larger reception?

[connorlevismom]

We are doing our VR next October and it looks like there will be about 30 or so people there. I really don't want a large ceremony, and would prefer something really intimate with maybe just our kids and us. Is it rude to have people come to Florida and then only invite them for everything but the ceremony?

We will be having a welcome party with MNSSHP after (if it is that night), a brunch after the ceremony, a dinner that night and a dessert party.

I feel like it would be so rude to not have people attend the ceremony, but really it is going to be short and sweet and nothing fancy. We prefer to spend the money on the guests with parties and food. The ceremony, ideally would be just us and our kids at sunset point. No flowers, no fancy dress, no nothing. So I don't think that people would be missing much if they were not invited, I just don't want to seem totally rude. On the other hand, I feel like if they are all there, I have to have a fanicer ceremony so people don't feel like they got up early for nothing.

Any thoughts?

Kristine

 

[girli565]

To me the whole point of going to someone's wedding is to watch them exchange vows, and that happens at the ceremony. And to expect your guests to travel down to WDW for you wedding and not invite them to the ceremony is like just asking them to come down for a party. I probably wouldn't go if that was the case.

 

[connorlevismom]

To me the whole point of going to someone's wedding is to watch them exchange vows, and that happens at the ceremony. And to expect your guests to travel down to WDW for you wedding and not invite them to the ceremony is like just asking them to come down for a party. I probably wouldn't go if that was the case.

But we are not having a wedding, it is a VR so not really the same as a wedding. If it were a wedding, I would want everyone there, but this is different. But I think your right in any case. I just have to talk with the planner about how I can make it really low key.

Kristine

 

[girli565]

But we are not having a wedding, it is a VR so not really the same as a wedding. If it were a wedding, I would want everyone there, but this is different. But I think your right in any case. I just have to talk with the planner about how I can make it really low key.

Kristine

I know it's a VR but your still exchanging vows... ones that now probably include your children... and if I was a guest I would love to see that. That's the important part of the wedding, not the party afterwards. I go to weddings to see the promises made by the couple whether they are the first time or a renewal.

 

[connorlevismom]

I know it's a VR but your still exchanging vows... ones that now probably include your children... and if I was a guest I would love to see that. That's the important part of the wedding, not the party afterwards. I go to weddings to see the promises made by the couple whether they are the first time or a renewal.

I know, your totally right. I just have to figure out a way to do it without all the other stuff and not have it look cheesy.

I hate being in front of people so this is the part of the whole thing that I am stressing about most. I don't even want to walk down the isle. I just want to be sitting in the front, stand up, do my thing and move on.

Kristine

 

[Chilly]

Perhaps you should just keep it to your family then and have a party back home for everyone else?

 

[connorlevismom]

Perhaps you should just keep it to your family then and have a party back home for everyone else?

That 30 people is my family, that is the problem. And not even my whole family. I have 7 brothers and sisters who are all married and have kids. Some of their kids have kids.

I cannot tell some siblings they cannot come, although I wish I could.

Kristine

 

[girli565]

I'm sure you can keep it low key. Maybe choose a location like the gazebo or SBP instead of the WP that makes it really feel like a big thing. I totally understand the not wanting attention but I'm sure you can keep this really intimate. I mean 30 isn't a big number and you can keep things to a minimum.

 

[Chilly]

That 30 people is my family, that is the problem. And not even my whole family. I have 7 brothers and sisters who are all married and have kids. Some of their kids have kids.

I cannot tell some siblings they cannot come, although I wish I could.

Kristine

I meant just your own kids and maybe parents?

 

[connorlevismom]

I meant just your own kids and maybe parents?

My family invited themsevles along when they heard we were planning on doing it. My DH's family is not invited because his parents would rather die than go to Disney and we are bringing his brothers and their familes down with us in December.

Really, this is not about me not wanting people to celebrate with us or trying to keep the guest list down. It is about me not wanting to stand up in front of people. I just need to put my big girl pants on and get over it. It will be great and we will have a great time.

Kristine

 

[aduck126]

i had 22 a the wedding then 35 at the reception. it worked out i just told people that we couldn't afford to have more at the ceremony because we did an escape wedding. they all pretty much understood.