Anyone ever felt guilty?

[Meezers]

Since I am not a parent I can't really say. Although I do miss my cats like crazy!

I have been to WDW with parents, husband (now ex), boyfriends, DM and DB, friends...etc!

See you are from NC...just want me to meet you down there? I am not a night person and could "nanny"? (Just kidding)...but hey...is there someone who could come...fun during the day...in case the two of you want to do a ride together...and watch little one at night....of course 2 rooms would be necessary

 

[SpoonfulofSugar]

To me people get married to form their own family and when children result from that union they are just as important as the original two--- IMO, celebrating my anniversary without my kids would be like celebrating alone without my DH.

 

[DisFam95]

OK..I guess I'm a bad mom or something. We went to Disney and left or 5mo old w/ my parents and inlaws sharing duty. They LOVED it and we had a great time together bonding after so much attention the last year on the 'baby'. I missed DS but we called every day.

Maybe things would feel differnetly now with him older. But I think I would still do a shorter trip w/ DH and leave the kids home..no problem!

 

[Patsfan7]

We can't leave our DD for a few hours to go to adult only wedding receptions, girls night out, etc. Feel terrible, lost, and not in control. Not too comfortable trusting anyone else with the welfare of my (now) kid(s). We have only left our kids with our parents, never have been more than an hour away, and are still uneasy. (We had a wedding when DD was 7 days old. TRAUMA!)

My parents reciently went to Disney w/o my family. They stayed at POP. (I arranged their trip for them) They never stepped foot inside a park. They literally just went to the outlets, looked at real estate, and went to church. They said they could not bear to enjoy Disney w/o their granddaughter. (and that it was okay b/c it was relaxing doing the vacation that way) My husband thinks that's like "going to Vermont in October and keeping your eyes closed!" BUT, we are all going to WDW together again in September.

That being said, do whatever you feel comfortable with. I just wanted to share that story, so that if you think you may feel the same way, that you don't "waste" your trip w/o the parks.

 

[DISUNC]

My husband and I are planning a 5th anniversary trip next March for the two of us at WDW. We took our DD3 last December when we went with my MIL. I'm starting to feel guilty that we are not taking our DD with us. I know when we are down there that we'll talk about her constantly and we will miss her. Has anyone ever felt guilty not taking your child with you? Should I take her even though its supposed to be our anniversary trip for just the two of us? What would you do?

Take her!

If she finds out you went to Disney without her.......YOU WILL BE IN some serious TROUBLE!

It's different if you went to Las Vegas for your Anniversary(some non kids place)....BUT DISNEY without your 3 year old daughter. It's like no presents on Christmas morning!

 

[WINTER]

I just couldn't go to Disney without the kids! Couldn't you celebrate your anniversary with dinner out?

 

[1sttimedischick]

I totally understand about not wanting to leave your kids, but you HAVE to have private, fun time with just your husband. You will get to experience a totally different WDW. I say go for it and bring your little ones a special surprise when you come home. Your entire family life will be better for it.

 

[tlbwriter]

Is the problem that you're going on vacation without her, or is the problem that you're going to Disney without her? I would feel guilty about leaving my 5-yr-old behind if I went to WDW, because I know how much she'd love it. But if we went to someplace romantic instead, I wouldn't feel guilty. Does your husband feel the same way? If so, maybe a short, romantic trip without your daughter would be better for everyone.

 

[LargoLori]

When DD was 3, hubby and I went to Epcot for 2 days while DD stayed with Nana and Papa. We had AP's at the time and DD was able to go to MK a few times that year since we live pretty close. We did feel a little guilty but had a great time. There are some things you can't do with kids and she never wanted to go to Epcot. She did not know where we went just that we were away. This year DD is 9 and we have AP's again. We are going without her for Labor Day week-end. This time she knows and she is OK with it. She is going to WDW 6 times this year so she will survive not going one weekend. It's important for hubby's and wives to have alone time. Your relationship is one of the the most important things in your DD life. Go and enjoy yourself.


Lori