Anyone else's spouse not want to go?????

[momof2mouses]

I am planning our first ever WDW vacation in SEPT. My DH is just not very interested. In fact when I start to talk about it at all, he gets rather He went as a child but does not remember it very much and says that our kids won't either. I have never been and am very excited to take DD8 and DD3. I am sure it will be a memory that will last forever. How do you get your DH interested?

 

[twoprincesses]

Don't worry about it. DH went when he was 6 or 7 and did not remember it either. We went as a family for the first time with DD3 and DD4 last Nov. and he loved it. He loved it so much that he agreed for a second trip for New Year's Just put up with the moaning and groaning until the trip. It will more than likely disappear when you get there.

 

[ktpool]

Yes..see under my name

 

[ShannonN]

I agree with the above poster. My DH wanted to go but everytime I tried to talk to him about ADR's, rides etc... he just wasn't interrested!! I felt like I was the only one who was excited about going. Even my DS7 wasn't as excited as I thought he should be. But, after we went (this was our first trip also) they both are crazy about WDW!! My DH started talking about next years trip as soon as we got home. We are going to Gatlinburg TN. next month and DH is already saying how "this won't be anything like WDW" I think it's so funny! We stayed at WDW for a week this last trip and next May he wants to do a 10 day stay. And my DS.. still talking about the vacation! We made some wonderful memories and I'm sure you will too. Just wait and see, once they are there they will be converted too!! Hope you have a wonderful trip!!

 

[mama4]

My dh went several times a year as a child (said he was dragged to WDW when family/friends came to visit them in Miami). I think he acatually had a WDW phobia before he and I went on a solo trip for our 3rd anniversary.The only reason he agreed to it was that his company paid for the hotel (CBR) and gave us spending $ as some type of bonus. We also had a complimentary ticket that his Dad and Stepmom gave us through their timeshare. Now, this was by no means my first trip but I hadn't been in ages and neither of us had ever stayed onsite. Well, after that trip I was HOOKED. I think my dh was, let's say, very pleasantly surprised. Guess he was expecting the wdw he visited in late seventies/early eighties??? Well, right then we made plans to bring the kids back the following April- stayed 5 nights at POR and had a blast. Dh admitted it is a GOOD place to vacation. Something for everyone! Went again this last April while 7 mths pregnant so we only stayed 2 nights (one of the downfalls of living so close- you can always make it a short stay but then it's so hard to leave). Well, dh is ready for our next trip in October 2007 when our dd will be 15 mths old. He doesn't get as much into the planning as I do but last trip he did request Sci Fi dine-in on his own and planned most of our day at MGM. He is NOT a planner so for him to actively participate in planning our trips now is a HUGE step for him. If he can be converted, I believe anyone can!

 

[cynderella]

My DH is a CM at Disneyland, and while he was the one who suggested we go to WDW for our big vacation this year because he gets such an incredible discount, he's not really looking forward to it like my DD6 and I are (my DS15 is sort of mildly excited/neutral about it). DH thinks that WDW is going to be very much like Disneyland and he's not all that keen on seeing what he already sees 5 days a week at work. I know from these boards, though, that it's going to be very different and hope he will change his attitude some when we get there. I have mentioned perhaps taking other trips in future years and he says no way, once is going to be quite enough, thank you. I hope this summer's trip will be a lot of fun for him so we can go again someday! I think like everyone else said, you probably just have to just let your DH get there and have a good time and then he'll see he's been over nothing.

 

[mommy*RN]

I agree with all the pp's! Your DH can and probably will be converted! I planned my DH's first trip to WDW for our honeymoon. He had never been and wasn't that thrilled to be going. Once we were there he had a blast! Now he can't wait to go and show our 4yr old DS everything!

It's strange by WDW really is magical. The nights are what really get me. The illumination show or fireworks...it's all just so beautifully done that it brings a tear to my eye! Add to that the fact that he will get to see how magical it all is to his children and he will be a goner.

My DH still hates to plan any part of the trip and leaves that up to me. It is tough sometimes because I will find out an interesting fact or save some $$$ and be excited and DH just won't care...but then I found these boards and the wonderful people who post here...now I don't need DH to be excited...I have you guys!

So........as the pp's said...just go along with him now and wait for his reaction the first time something awesome happens...it will be worth it!

 

[angwill]

My husband went with us last year and had a great time but feels that once every 10 years is enough. I know my husband well enough to know he will stand firm to that. So for the next 10 years I will be going to WDW solo with our son. I wish he would go and we will miss him but it's his loss and it's just one less person to slow us down. lol Good luck convincing your husband hopefully he is like the other converted men.

 

[cynderella]

My husband went with us last year and had a great time but feels that once every 10 years is enough. I know my husband well enough to know he will stand firm to that. So for the next 10 years I will be going to WDW solo with our son. I wish he would go and we will miss him but it's his loss and it's just one less person to slow us down. lol Good luck convincing your husband hopefully he is like the other converted men.

This really cracked me up.

I completely respect that you are able to do what you want regardless of your DH's own decisions. You go, girl! "just one less person to slow us down" lol!!

 

[LauraAnn630]

I drag my husband every year! I told him until he finds a place that is as entertaining and has as much to do as Disney/Florida well keep going back!

I wouldnt mind going other places but he cant think of any place either!

Id like to goto the Smokey Mts. and Dollywood. Im afraid Ill just wish we were in Disney. I think hes afaid of that too!

This time we are going to do US and IoA (what a deal they are running right now!) I think hell be happy doing something besides Disney.

We are going to do MK, MGM and Epcot also for as many days as we can swing in December.

We are also going to have 2 beach days...if the weather is good.

 

[Harvest02]

I have been trying to figure out how to get my DH interested also! Our family just got back from Disney this past Thursday, and my husband is not a big traveler. He did go with us, but the entire year I was planning for our trip, he just kept griping and complaining on how much money it was going to cost(I stayed in budget, by the way, so we did good). He has never been a big Disney fan, but I told him the kids are only young once and I remember Disney as a kid so I wanted them to experience it as well. He did tell me on the ME bus back to the airport that I did a good job planning and everything went really well. He won't admit to having a good time, but I know he did. He really enjoyed the Lights motor action stunt show and the Spectromagic. Make sure you go with him to places he wants to see and maybe he will be glad he came along. I am planning our next trip for June 2008, and my parents would like to come along with us next time. So, if my husband does not want to go next time, then so be it! I agree with angwill! I would miss him if he didn't go along, but as long as the kids enjoy it, that is fine with me! It's his loss!!!!

 

[momof2mouses]

I am so glad to hear that I am not in this boat by myself. I have been so worried about wanting him to go that I was considering cancelling our trip. I think now I will try to get him to go, but if he refuses then we'll just go without him. Thank you all for your advice

 

[MichelleChell]

I am in the same boat. We are leaving in 27 days. He is always complaining about how much $ we could save and we are staying at timeshare so that is only $150 for the whole week and paid for.

How I have him interested is I asked him what do you want to do. He siad he wanted to go on an airboat tour. SO I booked him one and he is very happy. I also have a beach day with another boat tour looking for animals.

So maybe ask him what he wants to do to make him feel included in the plans.

 

[twoprincesses]

When I was younger my dad would never go anywhere with us. We would travel to the Philippines to visit my grandparents, Italy, Germany, France, Egypt, China, basically a million places a lot of people would die to see. He did not go on one trip! Finally, when I was in high school we dragged him to WDW and he fell in love with the place. Shortly after, we made a trip to the Philippines and he decided to go too. He said that WDW made him closer to the family and that he would try to never miss another family vacation.

 

[tink4ever]

My DH and I never went to Disney as children so our 1st time was together with our children Dec. 1996 and we had a blast. The problem was that I became obsessed. I even convinced him to buy into DVC in 2001 and he did it for me. Now when we go I still get sooo excited and he drags behind me. The problem is that my DD is now 19, DS is 17 and youngest DS is 13 so they think he is being funny and this adds a lot of tension. He keeps telling me that there are so many other places in the world to go and I keep saying Why? Our last trips were this past Jan and March so in March he thought he would try and drink his way thru the countries of World Showcase (and he doesn't drink). He did a pretty good job and I just ignored him and had a great time. I have another trip booked for this coming Jan because I will be turning 40 and I told him I want to spend the day in MK and he just grumbles and goes along with it. But I told him if he thinks he is going to be grumpy thru the trip just stay home and I will go with the kids alone.

 

[cdrn1]

My DH never gets excited about anything. It's all I can do to drag him on vacation. He is ready to come home after 2 days. He says he would like to go to Hawaii, but only for three days. So, I go lots of places without him, and a few places with him. He has been to WDW twice since the birth of DGD but only because she goes. He doesn't want to hear about the planning, the ADR's or anything else. He just shows up. One day we went to Epcot around 1230, and at 3 pm he says, "Well, who wants to go back to the hotel and go swimming?" We all just kind of ignored him. He's all about "getting back to the hotel". We go to Las Vegas and he's in bed by 6:30.

 

[aristocat]

Nope... it was actually my fiance who had to talk ME into going the first time!!

and now... i CANT WAIT to go back this year! and here i told him last year that that would be our one and only trip.

 

[tyandbash]

I dragged my DH to Disney in 2000, we have now been back 7 times and are going again in August. I actually talked him into DVC too. Two things that worked for me. One, My kids just adore the Disney, and the memories we share as a family are just priceless and he knows it!! Each trip we always find something to try/do that we have never done before. That isn't hard either. And Two, He gets to play golf there without his wife complaining about him being gone so long and for him that is priceless!! He is playing three times in August and so anything I plan for this trip is fine with him, lol. BUT, he doesn't want to hear about it until we get there. I would talk about our planning non-stop if someone would listen!! Sometimes I do talk about it even though I know no one is paying attention!! The planning is the fun part for me!!

 

[notafan]

Just my opinion (see my signature) but don't expect him to get excited. As long as he doesn't cause more trouble let him be unexcited. I go because the wife and kids love it, and would even consider DVC if we could afford it. I try not to be a wet blanket and express as much interest as I can, but it just isn't me. For me, personally, once a decade is plenty. After putting in 55+ hours a week at the job so my wife can stay home and raise the kids, I would prefer being able to stay home and enjoy being home.

 

[Momerath]

My advice would be to try to plan things you think DH would like. Our first trip together we spent a lot of time at Epcot because I knew the educational aspects of the park would really appeal to my sweetie. We also made it a point to eat at different table service restaurants, too, my husband loves trying different kinds of food and really liked the Morroco resturant. Now DH likes Disney (almost) as much as me and spends time planning with me...looking at web sites and books and deciding what to do and where to stay. Also, too, maybe plan some "down time" like a day to just lay around the pool or some other recreational activity so he doesn't feel like the "theme park commando" vacation.

Good luck & have a fun trip...I hope your DH comes around!