Anyone else feel hurt when DH won't go to WDW with them?

[Simba's Mom]

Sometimes I go solo by choice, then I don't have any trouble at all with DH not going-I didn't invite him! But last night I mentioned going to WDW next year for NYE, and DH said he just didn't want to. Now I know I could go alone, I'm very comfortable solo there, but somehow I take it very personnally and get hurt when I suggest that DH and I go on vacation together and he says "No". I can't help but wonder why he doesn't look forward to spending the time with me. I know this is silly-he doesn't act at all like this at home. Why am I hurt? Can anyone else help convince me that perfectly normal husbands don't always want to vacation with their wives.

 

[Smee]

yes, I have at times.

 

[imgoingtodisney]

DH finally let me order his tux for our Nov 30th cruise just the other day. Until they he had been telling me he wasnt going.

 

[figmentvi]

I have no problem with it at all. If DH doesn't want to go, I'll go by myself. If he does want to go, all the better.

We take several trips a year to different places together and we have a great time. But if one or the other wants to go someplace solo, it's no big deal.

 

[Towncrier]

I wish that Sue and my kids could accompany me to DIScon. But school comes first. And Sue has volunteered to be the responsible parent and stay home with them. This will be my second solo vacation to WDW. It's not that she doesn't want to come along. It just isn't possible. I will have to wait until next June for a family WDW vacation.

 

[Buckalew]

I can't help but wonder why he doesn't look forward to spending the time with me.

Maybe I'm reading this post all wrong but did you ask him if there was someplace he'd rather go for NYE instead of WDW? Maybe it isn't you--maybe he just don't want to do WDW.
I know...horrible thought that the ol' spouse doesn't want to go to WDW but I guess it happens. Maybe he is a homebody and just doesn't want to go anywhere. That would be when you'd have to decide if you want to spend time at WDW or at home with him. It'd be a tough choice.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

That's what I was going to ask Buckalew.

 

[Simba's Mom]

I admit that the only place I asked him about was Disney. I have asked him before if there's anyplace he'd like to vacation, but if it doesn't involve golfing, in which case he admits that it doesn't matter if I go or not, he doesn't want to go. I guess I just can't see how Disney could be so distasteful that anyone wouldn't jump at the opportunity to at least go with their spouse.

 

[Micca]

DW and I have been on seperate trips many times. No point in making someone do something they aren't interested in. Does your DH not play golf at Disney? I don't play, but aren't there top flight golf courses there? You must admit, if a person doesn't care for the Disney experience, WDW is a bad place to be as there is no getting away from it.

 

[aahmom1]

Is it only WDW that he doesn't want to go to?

 

[nativetxn]

My dh is Disney impaired and doesn't want to go there. He humors me and I have several solo trips each year

We take lots of trips together to other places, though. He just doesn't want to go to Disney. Perhaps it's the same thing with your husband?

 

[tmfranlk]

Can anyone else help convince me that perfectly normal husbands don't always want to vacation with their wives.

I can do you one better and tell you that my perfectly normal husband NEVER wants to vacation with his wife.

I love to travel and I love to go to WDW. He HATES to travel and isn't a big fan of WDW. Last year I got him to travel to meet my family (this was before we got married) by limiting the number of flights involved and scheduling a few days to drive to the Mammoth Cave - someplace he REALLY wanted to go. Since then, the only place I've been able to get him to go was Las Vegas when we got married in May (it was even his idea!).

Now I just have to come to terms with the fact that I will almost always be vacationing alone. Now that we are having a baby I have told him that I will ask him to go to WDW one time with us when the baby is 4 or 5yo. Other than that, he has said that I am free to travel whenever and whereever I want to, though he would prefer if I wasn't gone more than 4-5 days at a time, and only if I promise to call him every day.

Sometime you just gotta love 'em despite thier "flaws."

 

[Simba's Mom]

Thanks everyone! Reading all these threads made me realize something. For one thing, it's primarily WDW, but DH isn't fond of traveling at all. For another thing (and why didn't it occur to me before?), DH has to travel a lot on business (as a matter of fact, he leaves tomorrow on a whirlwind tour of various company plants in Europe, then between Thanksgiving and Christmas he has 2 business trips planned). So he probably wants to come home and just stay put!

 

[snoopy]

My DH deals with crowds all day long at work, as he works for the Secret Service and has to keep his eye out for nuts pretty much day in and day out. Therefore, a trip to WDW is no fun for him, he never feels like he is "off duty". I catch him eyeing people up and down when we are there, LOL! In any case, he does not care much for WDW, but like Katholyn's husband, he does humor me on ocassion. I try and plan our family vacations to WDW only once every several years, and all the other vacations involve doing something that DH likes - usually in a more secluded location.

 

[aahmom1]

LOL Snoopy, I have this vision in my head of your husband with his ear thingy in, standing in line for Splash giving everybody the once over.

 

[snoopy]

Yep, aahmom, thats him, minus the ear pluggie thing. Last time we were there was right after 9/11, so you can just imagine the interrogation people were getting from my DH's eyes......... Everyone, including some old lady, was a suspect.

 

[nativetxn]

And talking into his cuff

 

[aahmom1]

That's what I was thinking Kath LOL

Everyone, including some old lady, was a suspect.

Can't say I blame him, sounds like a really difficult job to leave at the office.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Well, I have a DW who does not want to go to WDW and she has like six or seven hundred posts here on the CB. I was able to thankfully get Lady M and our two kids to go to WDW once, in '99, and we did DL as a family once in '92. I have been to WDW solo 8 times (number 9 in two weeks) and 2 more solo to DL. She says, 'hey, we did that already', LOL. We do go other places together.

 

[helenabear]

My husband just doesn't "get it" the way I do. He is also here on the DIS and has several hundred posts I think, but he showed absolutely no interest in going to WDW with me in 2 1/2 weeks. So I have made plans to do my first trip without him. I just realize that we have our own interests and this is not one we seem to share. If he had a computer convention he wanted to go to, I probably wouldn't want to go with him. So I am a little sad that he won't be going with me this time, but I understand that it isn't because he doens't want to be with me, he just isn't all that fond of WDW itself. He was such a sport to go to WDW for our honeymoon that I figure I can't push him to go with me for quite some time