anyone else disappointed with Valentines Day?

[surfergirl602]

I was just able to read all the replies. Some of them just made me laugh! Thanks for the smile, fellow Disers... you made my night!!

Oh, and to answer the question about maybe he was just using the gift that I bought him, he actually can't use it... when we opened it, we noticed that there is a shaving of plastic or something on the reflective mirror and we need to return it for a different one. So he can't use his either. Ironic? hee hee lol

 

[McQuack]

I liked my Valentine's Day.

 

[heartofdisney]

I have to honest here and say that I really don't see what your whining about. Because you didn't get what you wanted for some stupid holiday madeup by the card companies? You should be grateful your husband tried to think about you.You should be grateful your family has the extra 300 dollars to spend on what most would consider a luxary item. In todays economy,many people are laid off,my husband being one of them. That 300.00 dollars would be 2 weeks worth of groceries and week money for us. You should be grateful that you even have your husband with you,healthy and loving you.My best friend lost her husband to cancer last month. I am sure she would be happy just to have him give her one more hug. Not to be nasty,but stop complaining and start counting your blessings!

 

[livie1205]

I say be happy you had a good Vday! Do you know where I spent mine? Sleeping in a chair in the hospital because my sweet daddy had another heart attach and had to get surgery..... I could care less that my dh was to busy to get me anything...what made my vday was my dad is now doing well! My dh could not have given me anything as good as that anyway....all I wanted was my daddy to be ok!

 

[luvsJack]

You know, its really not fair for some of you to be down on the OP because she is a bit peeved about a gift she doesn't want or need.

Now those of you with a loved one in the hospital or your husband headed to the middle east---you are certainly having a worse Valentine's Day than the Op or anyone complaining about a gift or the lack thereof. I certainly would rather my husband didn't give me a gift because he forgot or gift giving is one of his little flaws than it be because he is being shipped out or in the hospital.

BUT: Those of you who go on and on about it being a made up holiday or a hallmark holiday, if you dont' want anything for Valentine's Day; great, wonderful, we are ecstatic for you because you got just what you wanted, otherwise HUSH! Good heavens! This is ridiculous every Valentine's Day and every Mother's Day here on the dis those that do not celebrate put down those that wish they had gotten something.

It starts sounding to me like those that "don't want anything" do so because they know they aren't getting anything!

The man spent $300 on a gift she does not want and is not going to use and she TOLD him that prior to his buying the thing. Its not about Valentine's Day, its about her husband didn't listen to her. Its about now she has a $300 gift that she cannot use and he could have used it on the one thing that she did tell him she wanted. It hurts just a little when your husband ignores what you want and buys you something else; it makes you feel like your wants do not matter.

I don't particularly care that dh didn't buy me a Valentine's gift, but it would be nice if I got flowers for "happy Tuesday" or "middle of the month" or just because he loves me. He loves me but he doesn't think that way. To some of you that wouldn't matter a hill of beans, to me it does.

Everyone is different and everyone has different things that are important to them. I have learned to plan a day with dd to enjoy things like Valentine's Day or Mother's Day (and with her brothers if they are here) and not to let it bother me too much.

livie1205, I am glad your Daddy is doing better and I hope he continues on to good health and is with you many, many more years.

 

[MIGrandma]

Is there a chance you could sell the spa certificate to a relative or friend who would use it? Then you could go and buy the treadmill you want? I can understand your frustration, since you don't like spas.

DH and I used to give each other gifts (chocolates, flowers, cards, etc.) on Valentine's Day and then we realized what a waste it really was. We didn't give each other anything yesterday, but we are going out to dinner tonight. We knew restaurants would be packed yesterday, so decided to wait until today. To us, Valentine's Day is just not a big deal. But we've been married 34 years.

We'll probably go to a couple of stores tonight too, and if they still have any good Valentine candy we might buy something since it'll be half price now.

And please don't let those that are bashing you get you down. I just do not understand why people feel the need to do this. There is no reason to put someone down because of something like Valentine's Day. Back out of the thread and be quiet. Plus, the OP is pregnant. Cut her some slack people.

 

[luvmy3]

The man spent $300 on a gift she does not want and is not going to use and she TOLD him that prior to his buying the thing. Its not about Valentine's Day, its about her husband didn't listen to her. Its about now she has a $300 gift that she cannot use and he could have used it on the one thing that she did tell him she wanted. It hurts just a little when your husband ignores what you want and buys you something else; it makes you feel like your wants do not matter.

Definitely needed to be repeated. I think this point was lost on alot of posters.

 

[hentob]

It starts sounding to me like those that "don't want anything" do so because they know they aren't getting anything!

Um, No. It is because they are in secure, non mind-game-playing relationships that don’t need made up holidays to prove their love

I find it embarrassing and juvenile to expect things on Valentine’s Day.....very “junior high”.

That is just me.

Frankly, if you are disappointed year after year about how you are treated on a Hallmark Holiday, you and your spouse have deeper issues

 

[hentob]

Definitely needed to be repeated. I think this point was lost on alot of posters.

Hence my "your issues are deeper than V-Day" comment

 

[luvmy3]

Hence my "your issues are deeper than V-Day" comment

Then you would be one of thosse posters this wasn't lost on and my comment wouldn't be directed at you

 

[Christine]

Definitely needed to be repeated. I think this point was lost on alot of posters.

Her point wasn't lost on me at all. I don't like to think of $300 unnecessarily wasted because the gift giver can't listen to his wife. My comments on this thread were more so directed at this post:

Sorry your day isn't going well. Mine is not too great either. My DH did have roses delivered and gave me a box of chocolates. We went out to breakfast. All that was great. But then he left to work on his cars, so we are going to be apart for most of the day. He doesn't understand why I am upset. I told him that we should be spending the day together. He thinks I'm overreacting.

This is one I'm having a hard time with and that goes along with the "expectation" of a fixed day where you MUST do certain things.

 

[Gigi22]

Old lady popping back in again. From a quick look at many of the messages in this thread, Valentines Day has become one of those emotionally invested days for many of us (kind of like Christmas/other similar holidays). Rightly or wrongly, we have expectations that things will somehow be "better" for us on Valentines Day. But, as adults we are responsible for our own emotional well-being, IMHO anyway. My V. Day went great, as far as I am concerned! Now, off to get tidied up, and back to my destashing the kitchen! So looking forward to it!

 

[Pikester]

You know, its really not fair for some of you to be down on the OP because she is a bit peeved about a gift she doesn't want or need.

Now those of you with a loved one in the hospital or your husband headed to the middle east---you are certainly having a worse Valentine's Day than the Op or anyone complaining about a gift or the lack thereof. I certainly would rather my husband didn't give me a gift because he forgot or gift giving is one of his little flaws than it be because he is being shipped out or in the hospital.

BUT: Those of you who go on and on about it being a made up holiday or a hallmark holiday, if you dont' want anything for Valentine's Day; great, wonderful, we are ecstatic for you because you got just what you wanted, otherwise HUSH! Good heavens! This is ridiculous every Valentine's Day and every Mother's Day here on the dis those that do not celebrate put down those that wish they had gotten something.

It starts sounding to me like those that "don't want anything" do so because they know they aren't getting anything!

The man spent $300 on a gift she does not want and is not going to use and she TOLD him that prior to his buying the thing. Its not about Valentine's Day, its about her husband didn't listen to her. Its about now she has a $300 gift that she cannot use and he could have used it on the one thing that she did tell him she wanted. It hurts just a little when your husband ignores what you want and buys you something else; it makes you feel like your wants do not matter.

I don't particularly care that dh didn't buy me a Valentine's gift, but it would be nice if I got flowers for "happy Tuesday" or "middle of the month" or just because he loves me. He loves me but he doesn't think that way. To some of you that wouldn't matter a hill of beans, to me it does.

Everyone is different and everyone has different things that are important to them. I have learned to plan a day with dd to enjoy things like Valentine's Day or Mother's Day (and with her brothers if they are here) and not to let it bother me too much.

 

[PixieDust32]

I'm not disappointed at all, DH and I don't have lots of money to spend on gifts, we had a wonderful time, just spending time together and with the kids on saturday, yesterday we went to a movie, nice dinner, Im just so happy to be with someone that loves me, happy to be healthy.

 

[nsalz]

I think it is wrong for people to put down or say how someone should feel. It really drives me crazey on how brutal people can be.

I'm just glad Vanlentines Day is over and I can move on with another year. That's my opion and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks!

 

[tinatark]

I'll send you my address via pm -I LOVE spa days and don't get enough of them!

 

[Magic Mom]

I'll send you my address via pm -I LOVE spa days and don't get enough of them!

Hey, I asked first! Get to the back of the line.

 

[tinatark]

Hey, I asked first! Get to the back of the line.

Hey - it's big enough to share!

 

[CJMickeyMouse]

I have learned that if I ever get some spa certificates for a gift..... I can bring them to the DIS to get rid of them pronto!

I dislike Hallmark holidays. DH and I don't celebrate them at all. When we get the chance to go out to a nice place, we do it. Weekend away? Done. I don't have to look at the Hallmark calendar to schedule such an event. DH and I share all of the chores at home and in the business.... so no "oweing" or expecting special treatment on a certain day.

OP, find a way to get that certificate to someone who wants it. I think I would first see if you can return it to the spa. What do you have to lose?? If you are turned down there then find someone who will pay you something for it and enjoy it. Tell DH you appreciate the thought, but it's just not something you will use and/or enjoy.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Never disappointed....I'm very blessed.