The Mystery Machine
Sunrise at my house. :+)
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- Jan 4, 2001
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When she got back to her house last night she told me there was a dead mouse floating in their toilet. She didn't want to flush it because their toilet clogs easily so she said "I think I'm going to go visit my friend....." Can't say I blame her!
Michelle, I forgot my husband was home one afternoon and backed into his truck. It did no damage to his bumper but I drove my van for five more years with a big dent in the rear door. The sad part was that I was currently teaching our son how to drive.Little does he know that I also backed into his truck a couple of years later.
No damage fortunately to either vehicle.
I know what you mean. That year I backed into things three different times. Now I don't back up unless I have to. I'll park farther out to keep from having to back out of a parking space.I felt like a moron....I was in such a hurry and just looked to make sure I didn't take the mirror off with the garage.....it took me a minute to figure out what that horrible noise was!!!! DH said that it was the 7th claim that day of the exact same thing!!
I have been following this thread (and maybe have even posted a few times), but I have some questions for all you experienced college-student parents...
What do you do when your kid seems to not like their college all that much and also thinks like they were sold a bill of goods about some important aspects (in this case, certain educational programs) of their college? I don't know what to do...grades are fine, social life seems ok (other than there being too high a girl to guy ratio)...but my college student seems so miserable to go back today. The problem is that this school seemed to be the best fit, there really isn't anywhere else, so what can my kid do? And, independent of her major, DD can't drop out of this other program she's in, if she does that she would then instead have to take general freshman-level classes for her prerequisites and that would negate all the upper-level course-work she's already done, so now she's stuck in it for four years.
I feel so helpless like I've failed my kid.
agnes!
I have been following this thread (and maybe have even posted a few times), but I have some questions for all you experienced college-student parents...
What do you do when your kid seems to not like their college all that much and also thinks like they were sold a bill of goods about some important aspects (in this case, certain educational programs) of their college? I don't know what to do...grades are fine, social life seems ok (other than there being too high a girl to guy ratio)...but my college student seems so miserable to go back today. The problem is that this school seemed to be the best fit, there really isn't anywhere else, so what can my kid do? And, independent of her major, DD can't drop out of this other program she's in, if she does that she would then instead have to take general freshman-level classes for her prerequisites and that would negate all the upper-level course-work she's already done, so now she's stuck in it for four years.
I feel so helpless like I've failed my kid.
agnes!
What do you do when your kid seems to not like their college all that much and also thinks like they were sold a bill of goods about some important aspects (in this case, certain educational programs) of their college? I don't know what to do...grades are fine, social life seems ok (other than there being too high a girl to guy ratio)...but my college student seems so miserable to go back today. The problem is that this school seemed to be the best fit, there really isn't anywhere else, so what can my kid do? And, independent of her major, DD can't drop out of this other program she's in, if she does that she would then instead have to take general freshman-level classes for her prerequisites and that would negate all the upper-level course-work she's already done, so now she's stuck in it for four years.
I feel so helpless like I've failed my kid.
agnes!
First off...HUGS...
My dd is coming back home.
She is in a sorority, loves that and the socializing however her health problems and lack of focus have caused her to not be able to go forward. She has reached the brick wall. She is down to 9hrs this semester and is getting a D in one of those classes.
So she is coming home, going to take 6hrs at the community college maybe. If she does not then we have to jump through the hoops and defer loans.
So far she has not told anyone at school. That bombshell will drop when she goes back. Not sure what is going to happen there.
Have your dd go see a counselor to sort out things. That would be my recommendation to you, esp. if she wants to stick it out but is having a hard time.
You have to separate out what is "annoying" vs "dangerous". In other words is this affecting her physical or mental health? Is she depressed or suffering from anxiety?
My dd is suffering and she did try but she has to regroup. It is what it is....Not looking forward to this but she has to get herself together.
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I am about 95% sure we have mirror image lives...or atleast our girls do!Gotta love our CHD girls!
You haven't failed her at all. These things do happen and the first semester, for many kids, is tumultuous at best. Prior to going to college, especially I think for kids like your daughter who are exemplary students, the expectations are so high and the perceived thoughts of how things are going to be are sort of programmed into them. When they get there and it's a bit different it is difficult.
I would like to say that, if the program doesn't seem right for your daughter, don't stay in it because of all the things she did before to put her ahead. If it's not for her, it's not for her. Yes, the time she spent doing the upper level work seems wasted but you can't look at it that way. This is the time for your daughter to see what she likes and how things work. The path she has been on for many years may not be what's right for her. That's what college is about--figuring that out.
Having said that, she's only been there since August, it's now November. One more semester is usually definitive enough to sort things out.
Hang in there!