Anybody been publically criticized for the way they parent?

TheOtherVillainess

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On Friday night my mother calls, demanding to know WHY exactly haven't we taken The Bug to the mall to see Ye Olde Santa Impersonator (YOSI) yet. I told her we'd not had the chance and we would definately TRY soon. Though I know that when we actually DO go see YOSI, it'll probably end in tears all round. Not something I'm looking foward to.

We went to the mall today and walked up to where YOSI is holding the annual Court of I Really Want That PLEASE and the line is a mile long. We ask a scantily clad girl Elf Creature (EC) how long the wait is. She informs us (in a very perky manner which makes me want to puke candy canes)that it'll be more than an hour. YOSI's court had JUST opened fifteen minutes prior and it was already an hour long. We weren't willing to wait that long. Brandon was all like 'Screw it!" and I hung back to ask the EC if there was a time when it would be less crowded. She informed me (bouncing almost, it was sick how merry she appeared to be) that if we came mid-week (say..Weds) in the mid-late afternoon time frame it would be tons less busy as most people are working and not out shopping. I convinced Brandon to come back on Weds for the photo since I know my mother will hound us daily until it gets done. >.<

We shopped for a few hours and we started to get hungry, so we head over to the Byte Syte Food Court (which is sort of an oxymoron tbh. There USED to be a block of public computers hooked up to the 'net on one end of the food court,from which the name Byte Syte was drawn.However, about a year or so after they were installed, mall mgmt decided to remove them in favor or more tables. Why? It's less expensive to repair tables than computers that were constantly getting trashed from people mashing the keyboards too hard with overly large, greasy fingers. Spilled drinks on/in computer bits, as well as the screens being left on porn sites also contributed to the computers going bye bye). Brandon gets a Double Mushroom Swiss OMG Do You Even REALIZE How Many Calories Are In That Monster Burger, I get a single patty with mustard, fries and a drink and Bugs gets a grilled cheese. He had mostly finished his sandwich and was looking sleepy, so I give him his pacifier and he sucks away contendtly.

It is at this point that Brandon gets up to go to the bathroom and I'm left to sort of clean up our mess. A woman passing by with her own tray o' greasy goodness notices Bugs has his paci and is on the verge of falling asleep.

M=Deck the halls with parts of Charlie! Fa la la la la la! Pieces of his head and body...fa la la la la la!

AW=Annoying woman

AW: Excuse me!

M* thinking our stroller is in her way,so I pull it back a bit so she can pass* I'm sorry...

AW: How old is your baby?

M: Um..almost 2, why?

AW: Then he's TOO old to have a pacifier in his mouth like a plug. You should be ashamed of yourself!

M: Uh..buh..I..*jaw hits the floor*

AW: You are a horrible parent. Those things malform their teeth. My *something's* a dentist! I should know. You're going to have to pay throug the NOSE for orodontia later,dearie. He'll probably have buckteeth otherwise. *horrible laugh*

M: Buh..I..*I still dont' know what to say. I was floored*

AW: Hmmph! *as if she is SO right >.<*

M: Ma'am....it's really none of your ******* business whether or not my son has a paci in his mouth or not. So I'd appreciate it if you went the *bleep*
away.

AW: *eyes bug out*

M: Thank you! Merry Christmas!

AW: *scurries away*


I couldn't believe the gall of this person. She had no right to approach me like that, I thought. It really is none of her darn business how I raise my child (unless she sees me doing something that would be illegal, like beating him senseless or whatever). I guess she felt that because she was in a public place, it was ok to come up to me and say that. I have not and would not ever do such a thing to somebody else.

I have never yelled at parents who are too lazy to use their own strollers and instead gank carts (marked in store use only do not remove)from the dept stores instead.

I have never yelled at a parent who has forced two or three kids to sit in a stroller designed for one.

I didn't even yell at the mom I saw last Christmas who had filled the stroller seat up with shopping bags and had her baby (who was probably 3-4 mos old)laying face down on the tray bit next to the handle (where your cups, keys,etc would normally go). I was appalled, but I figured as long as the baby didn't fall off, it was none of my business.

I have never yelled at a parent who 'forced' their 5,6 or even 7/8 year old to use a sippy cup.

So why did I get picked on today? :confused3

TOV
 
I'm sorry this happened to you. That other woman was rude. MYOB!!!!

Kind of late now....BUT.... I worked for a Pediatric Dentist for 7+ years. His comment was that the Orthodontic bills would be far less than the counseling bills if it was taken away to soon...lol.....
 
LOL.

Bugs only gets a paci in one of two situations.
1)He's getting sleepy and is about to go down for a nap/go to bed.
2)He's so fussy, nothing else will calm him.

He was about to fall asleep anyway and I figured what could it hurt, ya know?
I was just floored by this woman who felt it was her place to tell ME how to raise my kid. I have never understood those who feel it's ok to do that.

TOV
 
That's incredible. Although if it had been me I probably would have started swearing sooner in the conversation! :rotfl:

I had a pacifier until I was NINE. Yes, NINE years old. I needed braces for horribly crooked teeth but never had much of a problem with an overbite... however my friend who sucked her thumb had the worst overbite EVER. Guess I was just lucky! :confused3
 

I can't believe she said that! Don't let it bother you, though (easier said than done, I know). She really isn't worth the time and thought it takes to worry about her.
 
MAybe if you had told her he had just learned to walk a couple of weeks ago she would have given you from slack.!! LOL!!! HA HA HA ;)
 
;)
Hey..he was a late walker. But at least he's walking. And trying to use new words.
A couple of days ago, he started saying 'fank'. I think he's trying to say 'thank you'. :teeth:

Or he could be attempting to use the "F" word. We're not sure yet. In which case, I guess I need to be better at censoring myself around him. :rotfl:


TOV
 
I definitely would not have approached someone to share my opposite views in parenting style, those comments are best left unsaid. She was definitely out of line.
 
I applaud you for not hauling off and wacking her one :rotfl2:
What nerve some people have,,,,I guess thay have nothing better to do :confused3
You were right in telling her to get lost!!!

Hope ya post your SANTA pic when ya get it!!!!!


Tink
 
Alot of people are out of line with their opinions and do not bat an eye at sharing them. I would have just laughed at the lady and turned my head.

For the record my one child sucked on a pacifier at bedtime until he was a little over two and has perfect teeth. My other sucked her thumb and has rounded upper teeth. Other than that they are fine. My littlest has the most misaligned bottom teeth of the bunch and neither sucked a pacifier or a thumb! Sorry that happened to you. Blow it off the next time and think opinions are like _ _ _ holes, everyone has one! ;)
 
So sorry! I can imagine your frustration. While I am glad you didn't rough her up a bit :rotfl: , I am glad you told her it was none of her business. People like her need those comments or otherwise she will keep on doing them. My worst one was when my son was about 5 months and having quite a bit of trouble with his stomach and was pretty skinny. (We'd been at the doctor quite a bit about it, BTW...) Her: 'Do you feed your child?' Me: 'No, I just put him in a corner with a dog bowl, I don't know why he can't get the food himself?' Some people have no tact.
 
I enjoy others commenting on my parenting too. Twice this week it happened. Once was at the post office when a postal worker gave my daughter a lollipop (she asked me if this was okay first. I said yes.). A random woman walked over and yelled at 1st the postal worker and said "Are you trying to rot that baby's teeth!?!" She looked shocked and said "What?" She repeated her comment and the postal worker said "No. We all need a little something sweet once and awhile." Then she turned to me and said "You're going to let her eat that!?!" I said "Yes." Then she proceeded to lecture me on how bad it is for her teeth. I said "Ya know, you are probably 100% right, but right now I need to get a package off to my in-laws in New Orleans regarding their destroyed house and business from Hurricane Katrina, so if the lollipop will keep my daughter happy and occupied while I do that, it's fine with me." She glared at me, made some other comment to the effect of "Well if you think it's okay to rot her teeth cause you're busy, I feel sorry for your child" and then left.

The 2nd time last week was on Friday when I went to the front desk of my building to send a fax to my husband right after my daughter had fallen off of her Fisher Price slide and hit her head on her toybox, leaving quite the bump on her head. A woman at the desk, another resident in the building, literally yelled "OMG what happened to your head!" to my daughter. I said "she fell." Then she looked at me like an abuser and said "Oh, she fell did she?" "Yes, off her slide onto her toybox." "Were you watching her?" Before I could respond the front desk man said "Well you can't watch them every second. Besides, her father is a dr." Then she said "Oh he is? Well what is he going to say about this?" "Nothing." "I bet he will have something to say about it." "Nope. He won't. It's not the 1st time she's gotten hurt. Plus after she smacked her head into a marble table while he was holding her 8 months ago he has no room to complain." "Oh poor baby. She just gets beat up all the time huh?" "Yes, and when she's not getting hurt on her own, we try to trip her." "There's really no need for sarcasm. I was just concerned about your child." "Thanks." Like I didn't know she had a huge bump on her head and didn't already feel horrible about it.
 
Well, you can't cure stupidity and some people just seem to so enjoy it :rolleyes: I have one child with ADD and one with autism and believe me, I have heard it all.

As far as the teeth go, none of my kids every used a paci, but they all have a high,narrow palate and lots of gigantic adult teeth. Our dentist told me when DS was 2 "Start saving up for braces." DS 19 had them for 3 years, DD12 has had one set and will get her second set in a few months and DS10 will probably just be buck-toothed(he's the autistic one--no way am I going to do battle with him over straight teeth.)
 
Your thread made me laugh.

My baby sister was a paci-addict when she was a baby. She used it until she was four....and everyone told my Mom that she would have bad teeth.
Fast forward...woman has gorgeous white teeth...never needed braces.

Then there's me...the kid who never used a paci and has had it all: retainer, braces...all the big stuff.

Glad you gave it to that lady. And I hope that ****** stands for what I think it does!!! :teeth:
 
OMG! How rude! People have no right to tell you what to do or how to raise your kids!
I never gave pacifier to my kids, but i respect if others do.
 
:) hi
yes i was really told off by an annoying women when i was walking into town with my baby. he was in his pram (the oldfashioned big type, well wrapped up , with the hood and apron and canopy in place - when this women came up to me and said it was a disgrace and that i should be reported for having my baby out in the cold. when i told her that i walked him everyday and that the fresh air was good for him as long as he was kept warm, she walked off saying some people don't deserve children. i am not sure that i did'nt over do the fresh air, he is now 35yrs and has not had any of the childhood diseases, measles, chicken pox, mumps etc
 
Justhat..you had me :rotfl2:
Now I have some snappy comebacks if somebody ever asks me why Bugs has a bump/bruise. He is 110% boy and is ALWAYS bumping into things. And you're right..you can't watch them all the time.

DH let him roll off the couch and we freaked.
I let him pull a wooden tray table onto his head and I freaked.
I also let him wander barefoot into an antmound and get his feet completely eat up. I freaked more than you will EVER know.

But hey..he's doing alright. I hope. ;) We won't know until we get the therapy bills later. :rotfl2:

TOV
 
TheOtherVillainess said:
AW: Then he's TOO old to have a pacifier in his mouth like a plug. You should be ashamed of yourself!

The correct response would have been "And some people SHOULD BE too old to need a pacifier to plug their mouth"! :teeth:

I can't believe the rudeness, glad you said something back!
 


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