Thanks for the responses and offers for some help everyone! I appreciate it.
The trip is just me and DH to celebrate our 10 year anniversary. We are 2 adult kids at heart, one (ME!) with a passion for all things Disney.
We haven't done any true travel in many, many years (even though we wanted to). Due to some great luck, we have the chance to take this trip and splurge a little - not excessively, but enough to make it a fun week with a little spoiling for our 10 years together (well, 17 together, but 10 married)!
That said....
Accommodations
We are going 10/4/08 - 10/11/08. I love water and we have not been to WDW for 12 years (pre-AK), so... we have reservations at:
* AKL - 3 nights, club level, savannah view
* Yacht Club - 4 nights, club level, lagoon view

(note: This reservation was made because we were told the Boardwalk was a great place for 2 adults, no kids BUT we could not get a guaranteed lagoon view at the Boardwalk for our dates. At the YC, we can IF we upgrade to the Club Level. So.... that's where we are.)
Dining
We were told by people that dining reservations are necessary at WDW so...
S Arrive on red-eye. Nothing scheduled. Play it by feel
M Brunch at Ohana
T Brunch at Boma
T Dinner at Cinderella's Royal Table (yes, we called and called and called!)
W Brunch at Crystal Palace
W Dinner at Brown Derby
Th Dinner at The Wave (Might cancel. Open to suggestions for another place)
Th Lunch at Living Seas
F Breakfast at Tusker House before the park opens
F Dinner at Narcossie's - anniversary night
S Wide open for filling in whatever we missed.
Phew! We do not have the Dining Plan for reasons that don't really matter, but we don't and we are ok with that.
Suggestions? Things we are missing? (We are trying to get into brunch at Chef Mickey's, but so far have not been successful with ADRs.)
Note regarding Friday: We have become aware that we going during the Food and Wine Festival. We got engaged 12 years ago at the Eiffel Tower in Paris, France

and it has sort of become our logo. We are thinking about having no official dinner plans on Friday, going to France at EPCOT, having a moment at the Eiffel Tower, and snacking our way through the evening with the F & W festival.
Shows, Parades, etc.
I love them, DH can take them or leave them. I know of the following:
* Spectromagic
* Wishes
* Fantasmic (my favorite at DL!)
* Illuminations
Are we missing anything? How do we do all of this with dinner reservations?
Where is the time to just wander around and enjoy the parks if we are rushing from reservation to reservation? Is brunch in one park and dinner in another a huge mistake?

AHHHH! This is where I get overwhelmed and would love some input!
Additional info that might be good to know about us and how we travel:
* We are 2 adults, no kids (unless you count me as a grown up kid!)
* We don't like to rush rush rush working from a checklist.
* Last trip to WDW we did a day at MK, a day at MGM, 2 days at EPCOT (1 day future side, 1 day world side), 1 day to go back and catch stuff we didn't have enough time to do ... and it was a perfect vacation.
* We aren't a "fancy" couple, but like to have a good time (we're just 2 big kids!)
* He LOVES all things sports. I LOVE all things show (i.e. parades, shows, etc...).
* Money is a little bit of an issue, but not much due to some amazing dumb luck that has shined on us for this trip. YAY!
So, are we doing ok and just stressing? Or are we missing something big? We don't need to see it all, but don't want to return home and realize we missed something HUGE.
I have read and read on the WDW sections of DIS, allears, and many other sites, as well as the input from some friends. I truly believe I have reached the point of too much information!

Thanks everyone! We appreciate it.
Thanks,
Dreams (and my DH, not so much the DPup who doesn't know he's going to a kennel for mom and dad's 10 year anniversary!

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