Some good tips on here already, the most important one being go in value season. As for the choice between a value or mod resort - make sure you do the math. A value resort with a fridge added at $15 night can be almost as much as a mod which includes a fridge. Also, don't the mods include a coffee maker now?
- definitely pack snacks/lunches for the parks. Most 3 year olds prefer to "graze" throughout the day on fruit, cheese, crackers etc than sit down for a meal anyway. Carry a travel mug and fill it from the water fountains, or bring a few bottles of water from your grocery order with you into the parks every day
- if you're buying lunch instead, and using CS, try only a combo to split with the little one. If you're still hungry, you can always go back up to the counter and buy more food. More often than not we find we're paying for food that just ends up being wasted.
- use only cash or travellers cheques in the park. Captain thinks I'm crazy, but I only take our daily allotment into the parks with us and avoid putting charging privileges on the room key. This cuts down on impulse spending and helps me keep track of what we're spending. You'll have noticed that WDW is a place where people spend - and spend LOTS. It can be very difficult psychologically not to get caught up in that spending mindset, whether it's food or merchandise.
- if you don't plan on going offsite, don't rent a car. Disney transportation may not always be the most convenient way to get around, but it's FREE.
- if you're even close to a US airport, fly from there. Flights are way cheaper, and deals more frequent. However, again, do the math, and compare airlines with free bag check to those that charge. If you do fly with one that charges, pack light - two adults and a small child can fit everything they need into two suitcases or even one.
- bring your little one's Disney attire from home. It's easier not to get caught up in the "everyone's wearing a Mickey t-shirt, we have to buy one" if the kid's already wearing one. Likewise any princess attire, which can be purchased much more cheaply at
Walmart or second-hand stores.
Shelley