Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[2bemarried]

Morning all...

tink I'm glad that yesterday was better than the day before. It will always suck but when you get a plan of action it makes it a lot easier to deal with. I'm so sorry that you have to work in such close quarters with your pregnant coworker and in that environment.

Allison I completely goofed there. Either way good luck with your gyn appt!

Lisa I'm so happy for you that the doctor gave you the "all clear"

Cybr very happy for you as well that the doctor was able to see you last night and prescribe a medicine to make AF go away.

Elaine I'm still telling myself that POAS will do me no good and to wait for the beta. I don't want to get a false positive of the HCG shot is still in my system from last week.

My beta is scheduled for next Friday the 3rd at 10am. I have tickets to see Kenny Chesney that evening so I'm either going to be very happy or very sad.

 

[DisneyDreamer8]

Kenny Chesney I hope you get a great BETA and have a wonderful time at the concert!!!

Lisa: I'm so glad everything is fine...what a relief!!!

Cybr: I'm glad your Dr is helping you out with you AF situation

For those of you who have gotten some bad news recently But there is still hope!!! So try to stay positive and know that we are here to support you and we are sending you lots of Baby Dust!!!

 

[AllyandJack]

My good friend just found out her 2nd IVF was a BFN. I feel awful. Her DH doesn't want to try anymore....because it's SO HARD on him to have to show up and do his thing in a little cup. He also "wants his life back" and thinks she's gaining too much weight on all of the injections. Loser. Anyway, it made me really sad and I started thinking of this video on YouTube. It always makes me cry, but it's so true....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JqfGqOx2iDQ

 

[momsully]

Wow - I don't think I had ever heard this song. It was really powerful. Hopefully your friend can figure out something that works for her.

 

[mickeyboat]

My good friend just found out her 2nd IVF was a BFN. I feel awful. Her DH doesn't want to try anymore....because it's SO HARD on him to have to show up and do his thing in a little cup. He also "wants his life back" and thinks she's gaining too much weight on all of the injections. Loser.

I am sorry for your friend. And what I think about her H is not DIS -appropriate.

Denae

 

[helenabear]

Kristy, I am soooo nervous and excited for you! I am wishing you all the best!

Just a few more days before your appt too, Rebecca. Getting a bit nervous at all? I think it is 10000% totally normal to be that way... at least I am always that way

Carla, I am so sorry about your friend. That husband of hers... well, while I can understand about wanting to have your wife back, the rest he needs to really be smacked for. I sure hope he truly didn't mean it
As for the link, do you have lyrics to the song? i admit I've seen that song many times and can't get through the first few measures due to the style of music

 

[LisaB]

I agree so much with the other posters about your friend's husband being a jerk. All he had to do was jack off in a cup what about her. It is so hard to go through all that time and money and get nothing in return. I always try to think there is a reason for everything and maybe we don't know that reason yet but it may come clear down the road

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Carla - wow, what a loser her DH is. Hope she's doing OK

Kristy - good luck! I'll keep my fingers crossed!


So yeah, I know TTC with a 3 month old is crazy. With our jobs and lives though, it would be better for us to have kids the same age, and sooner rather than later. Once we start moving up the ranks, we'll go to working days instead of 24 hour shifts. Then daycare would be an issue. Not so bad if they're in school

Jen

 

[mickeyboat]

So yeah, I know TTC with a 3 month old is crazy. With our jobs and lives though, it would be better for us to have kids the same age, and sooner rather than later. Once we start moving up the ranks, we'll go to working days instead of 24 hour shifts. Then daycare would be an issue. Not so bad if they're in school

Jen

I was a mess when I was doing it when they were little. I really don't know how I survived, especially since I was nursing and working full time. There were times I had to call DH home from work on a weekend to help me because I was so overwhelmed.

But it was all worth it because it is great having them close together, now. They are such good friends.

Let me know if you need advice - or help! I'm not that far away, and DD's love to entertain little ones.

Denae

 

[2bemarried]

Carla I'm so sorry for your friend. Her DH needs a kick in the jewels. That sort of attitude is absolutely rude and uncalled for.

LOL Elaine....I'm nervous and excited too.

One more week till I can do a PIAC test. I don't like the POAS method..too icky.

 

[AllyandJack]

Jen, there is a woman in my buddy group on FF who tried for over 6 years. Like most of us, she chuckled when her doctor wanted to discuss birth control after she delivered. Her baby is 5 months old. She's pregnant again. They told her she had a .5% chance of ever getting pregnant on her own and there she is - pregnant. She's thrilled, of course. I laughed at my doctor when she said we were going to discuss birth control at my next visit (I haven't gotten the official sex clearance yet). Now, I'm not so sure! I think I'm just going to see what happens. If it happens, it happens. I sort of think it might be easier for me, too. Given how sick I was, having a young baby that isn't really mobile might be a benefit. I'd really like them to be close in age like Denae said, too. Are you going to just see what happens or see a doctor to REALLY try? I think I'll go with the flow for a while - maybe 6 months - and see what happens. Then, re-evaluate. Since my RE retired, I'm sort of starting all over again. If she was still around, I might move faster. Do you know of any mom's groups in our areas?? I'm itching to get the heck out of the house and I have no idea where to go!

Kristy, I PIAC, too. For some reason, I never had good aim with the stream. I bought Lion King Dixie Cups when I was in my PIAC stage. One more week.....you're going to test first and then get the beta? I always did. I hate surprises and I really didn't want to break down on the phone when my RE told me bad news. I'd rather know what I'm in for ahead of time. Of course, when it was positive, I didn't tell her I knew and acted all surprised. Do you feel anything different? I hope this week goes by fast!!

Elaine, did I see on another thread that they couldn't tell you the sex of the baby??? Are you getting another u/s to find out or just go with the big surprise? I haven't tried to look up the lyrics to the song. I assume if I Googled it, it would be easy to find. I'll try that and see.....


My friend's sister hates her DH. She keeps asking her why she wants to have a baby with a jerk like that. He was all bent out of shape because she couldn't go to the gym during the 2ww and kept commenting on how she was gaining weight. So, in between IVF cycles, she did this cookie diet thing. Now, she's not big. At all. I really don't think she has any weight to lose. You wouldn't mind, but he's not exactly hot. We wonder what would happen if she got pregnant. If he can't handle an IVF cycle, how is he going to handle her pregnant, gaining weight, potentially sick? As for his life.....how is he going to deal with all of the changes a baby creates? Her sister keeps telling her to leave him and get some donor sperm and have the baby without him. She's now waiting for the call from her clinic. All of the doctors were meeting to discuss what's next. She did assisted hatching and everything, so I'm not really sure what's next for her. It's all really sad.

 

[DisneyDreamer8]

Carla: I agree with everyone else...your friends husband is a class A number one jerk!!!! I am so sorry for your friend

Jen: I wish you luck in you quest!!! It sounds like you have everything undercontrol...now if mother nature will do her part and give you your BFP soon!!!!

Denae: How great to have a helpful hubby!!! I'm glad your girls get along. My sister and I were almost 5 years apart and we did not get along at all. Even now our relationship is strained...can't spend to much time together.

Elaine: Glad you are feeling better!! Yup my appointment is Monday...kinda nervous but I have come to terms with the fact that what will happen will happen.

Kristy: Your getting so close!!!! Lots and lots of sticky baby dust for you!!!!!

 

[helenabear]

Jen, I am sure you will be fine. My oldest sibling is exactly 2 years and 49 weeks older than me. My sister is about 13 months along. AND my mother had gall bladder surgery shortly after my birth. So... if she can do it I know you could!

I am not sure you all know exactly how excited I get for those of you in the 2ww... I want to know just as badly as y'all I think

Carla, you did read right on another thread. I had a very sleepy baby who would only flip side to side which didn't help. S/he was nestled down low and just as content as could be. I'll go in for my next appt on the 28th of Aug and my doc said she'll sneak a peak on the ultrasound then if I like. So I get a 2nd chance, but if we don't find out, I won't care too much.
Funny thing about your friend I was *just* thinking about "what if she got pregnant, what would he do" during my errand running. I wish those two all the best, and particularly for your friend with whatever the next step may be.

 

[DisneyDreamer8]

Here ya go Elaine:

Jenny was my best friend, went away one summer
Came back with a secret she just couldn’t keep
The child inside her was just too much for her
So she cried herself to sleep, and she made a decision
Some find hard to except, too young to know that one day
She might live to regret

Chorus
But I would die for that
Just to have one chance
To hold in my hands all that she had
I would die for that

I’ve been given so much, a husband that I love
So why do I feel incomplete
With every test and check up, I’m told not to give up
He wonders if it’s him, and I wonder if it’s me
All I want is a family, like everyone else I see
And I won’t understand it if it’s not meant to be

Cause I would die for that
Just to have one chance
To hold in my hands all that they have
I would die for that
And I want to know what it’s like
To bring a dream to life
For that kind of love
What I’d give up
I would die for that

Sometimes it’s hard to conceive
With all that I’ve got and all I’ve achieved
What I want most before my time is gone
Is to hear the words “I Love You Mom”
I would die for that
Just to have one chance
To hold in my hands what so many have
I would die for that
And I want to know what it’s like
To bring a dream to life, how I would love what some give up
I would die, I would die for that

 

[helenabear]

Oh thank you Rebecca, I admit I had a lot of background noise and I finally made it through it. I really don't like country Though towards the end it sounded more pop like. Beautiful thoughts in that song.

Oh and a little Disney tidbit for anyone. I noticed her name and realized that Kelly Coffey is the one who sang "Promise" and "We'll Go On" that happen at the end of Illuminations at Epcot

 

[mickeyboat]

Kristy - I had to PIAC, too. My early morning stream was too fast and too unpredictable to catch on a little stick. I can't wait to hear the good news.

Jen and Carla - If you do decide to do it again, soon, make sure you have a good support system, and take people up on their offers of help. When Emily was born, Hannah was 6 days short of 1 year old, and she wasn't walking, yet. I clearly remember thinking I was supermom, and I took both girls with me to the drug store to pick up my BCP!

Then I realized I would have to carry both kids - one in a bulky car seat, through the parking lot by myself. I barely made it to where the carts were, but it was an ordeal. My mom bought me a doublt stroller after that.

I also remember vividly one night when Hannah wouldn't sleep and Emily was hungry. I didn't want to wake up DH, because, again, I was supermom. So I nursed Emily in my left arm and leaned over the crib rail to pat Hannah's back with my right. Unbelievable.

I need more information on this cookie diet!

Elaine and Rebecca - I don't have speakers on my work computer, to I watched the video and read the lyrics, and I still teared up. It is comforting to know there are lots of other people in the same situation, feeling the same feelings. And it's also hopeful to see people successful and happy, no matter what they choose.

Elaine - I had a sneaky-peek u/s late in my pregnancy, too. When I was about 31 weeks, my water broke, and I was hospitalized. Labor stopped, but they wanted to monitor me closely, so they wouldn't let me go home. For some of the time, I had a roommate who was hospitalized because of low amniotic fluid, so she had u/s's all the time. When the doctor was in the room doing one for her, he offered to do one for me, too. Then he said he knew the sex, and wanted to know if I wanted to know. Boy it was tempting, but I said no.

Denae

 

[2bemarried]

I didn't watch the video earlier so I didn't know what you all were talking about until I read the lyrics. I wonder if the writer went through infertility. It's so true to what we're going through

Carla I'll definitely take the test next Thursday morning or Friday morning before I go into test. I have to know ahead of time what it's going to say. As for feeling different...not really. The stomach cramping got lighter Tuesday and back to normal yesterday and today. I've read that it could be a side effect of progesterone or it could be AF or pregnancy. My nips look a little different but not much and I'm peeing every hour. That's from the 80 oz's of fluid I'm drinking every day. Did you have symptoms during your 2ww with Katherine?

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Jen, there is a woman in my buddy group on FF who tried for over 6 years. Like most of us, she chuckled when her doctor wanted to discuss birth control after she delivered. Her baby is 5 months old. She's pregnant again. They told her she had a .5% chance of ever getting pregnant on her own and there she is - pregnant. She's thrilled, of course. I laughed at my doctor when she said we were going to discuss birth control at my next visit (I haven't gotten the official sex clearance yet). Now, I'm not so sure! I think I'm just going to see what happens. If it happens, it happens. I sort of think it might be easier for me, too. Given how sick I was, having a young baby that isn't really mobile might be a benefit. I'd really like them to be close in age like Denae said, too. Are you going to just see what happens or see a doctor to REALLY try? I think I'll go with the flow for a while - maybe 6 months - and see what happens. Then, re-evaluate. Since my RE retired, I'm sort of starting all over again. If she was still around, I might move faster. Do you know of any mom's groups in our areas?? I'm itching to get the heck out of the house and I have no idea where to go!

:

So far, we're just going to see what happens. I'm going to call my PCP to get back on Glucophage, but I don't want to get back into temping and Clomid again. If it comes to that again, I suppose I'll reconsider.

I haven't heard about any mom gruops, but I'd love to find one. Everyone around here has kids a year or two older than Christopher - I'd like to find some people closer to his age. We should just start our own - we're not that far apart (although I have no idea how to get there from here....)

Jen

 

[skuttle]

Carla...I feel SO sorry for your friend. I can understand her husband being down about TTC and the whole thing getting to him, but his comments were really cruel. Maybe it is a blessing that she hasn't been able to get pregnant with her husband.

DS is spending the night at my SIL's house so me and DH went watch the new Harry Potter movie. Bad thing is I keep thinking it's friday...bummer that I have another full day of work tomorrow!

Nothing new going on otherwise...I'm on CD18 (just counted). No idea if I've O'd or not. Haven't been temping. Trying to focus on my August appt and not the 2ww. I figure odds are I'm NOT going to be pregnant this month since we've been trying for so long. Obviously we need a little help at it since it hasn't happened yet.

Kristy and Rebecca...I am so excited for both of you! I hope you both have wonderful news to share next week!

 

[DznyLvr2005]

I watched that kellie Coffey video thing and Im actually more upset now than I was before.
If I just pretend like it didn't happen to me (like I try to do), I don't think about it. Even though for me it's been almost a year since my first m/c when I see things like this all the emotions start all over again, I get all angry, the nerves start, etc...
Of course when you click on the link, to the right of the youtube page, they give more suggestions of videos that you can watch, so of course I watched this one with some Avril Levine song with it..

2bemarried - I'm thinking about you, I hope you get some positive results!

to everyone....