Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[kellyf2626]

It is worse when my Dh says it to me. Yes, dear your saying it is helping .

Exactly!!

 

[ashjohnson80]

Ok...have to come here and vent for a minute.....if one more person tells me to "relax" I think I may just FLIP OUT!!! Why, when people find out you have been TTC for a while, do they say that???? It bothers me soooooo much!! Like, I am going to be like - ahhhhh - god, THAT'S why I am not pg! I just need to relax!!! Thank you so much for telling me!!!

I need a good comeback!!! What do you all say to people that tell you this?!?!

Or what about those who ask if you're "still trying" when you only told them two months ago that you were. "No, the decision for my husband and I to try to start a family was fleeting and since it didn't happen the first month I decided it wasn't meant to be and called it a day."

Part of the reason I wish I could keep a secret, but alas, I cannot. And my mom who never "tried" to have a baby, but had three, is very pessimistic already. Thaaaanks.

 

[helenabear]

CindyBeth, I admit I was a bit more cautious, but not 100%. I still did the kitty litter, I still had cold cuts, drank soda now and then... etc. I stopped drinking more or less all together a long time ago, and most of the drugs I take are all "allowed" anyway. So more cautious, but not overly cautious if that makes sense.

Rebecca, enjoy the trip to Hawaii!!!

Michelle, glad the pep talk helped But I am so very happy to hear what your grandpa is doing for you. I really do hope that you do not need to do IVF, but that is so sweet what he offered to do for you. I love his thoughts and reasoning. He sounds like a sweetie!

Allison, glad you have a name picked out. That is always the tough thing for us. If we do get pregnant again, and have a boy, we will be in a world of trouble. All the familial names we have for the guys aren't that great

I haven't heard from Carla in a while. I am afraid she got scared off from the DIS after the nasty thread a month ago. I tried e-mailing her via the DIS, but she didn't get it/didn't reply. Not sure... I sure miss her here.

Kellyf, sorry about those comments. My doctor actually told me to relax a bit more too though, so I can understand why some say it. She said since my cycles were so regular it wasn't worth the stress of it. Granted the one month we just backed off and didn't look at a calendar at all, we did get pregnant. But... I do think that most people have no business saying anything like that at all. I only take that talk from a doctor I would say back to them that if you relax while trying to get pregnant, your husband wouldn't like it near as much

Okay I suck at comebacks like that

 

[CindyBeth]

How funny that your DH is a Grumpy, too! I call mine "Grumpy boy", but he's also known among friends and family as the Grinch, the Grump, Eeyore, and the Grouch. His bark is usually worse than his bite, but when he's grumpy, he's GRUMPY! My favorite Grumpy thing that I've gotten him is a pair of Grumpy boxer shorts I bought on our last trip to WDW. Now I can say to him "sounds like someone's wearing his Grumpy shorts today." (I'm amused! )

Ok, Now you are scareing me!!!! My dh has a pair of Grumpy pj pants, so I called him Grumpy pants In fact, it's like a saying in my family now, asking them if their pants are grumpy today!!!!

I O'd early in my cycle, cd12. So I think I could start testing next Thursday, which would be 14 dpo. Very Close in timing this month to you!

 

[CindyBeth]

CindyBeth, I admit I was a bit more cautious, but not 100%. I still did the kitty litter, I still had cold cuts, drank soda now and then... etc. I stopped drinking more or less all together a long time ago, and most of the drugs I take are all "allowed" anyway. So more cautious, but not overly cautious if that makes sense.

I have been cutting back my soda drinking, trying to only do 1 a day. And it's killing me!!!! Any tips, on other things I could drink? Ok, besides water, of course.

 

[kellyf2626]

I have been cutting back my soda drinking, trying to only do 1 a day. And it's killing me!!!! Any tips, on other things I could drink? Ok, besides water, of course.

Cindybeth - I used to drink a TON of soda everyday - I think I was addicted to Diet Coke!! I cut back to one a day, and started drinking Polar flavored seltzer water instead. I told my DH, I think it is actually the "fizzies" of soda that I am addicted to, so the flavored seltzer water is doing the trick. My favorite flavor is Pomegrante - but I also like Raspberry-Lime.

Sorry about my vent about "relaxing". Soooooo many people have told that to me in the last couple of days that I thought I was going to explode!! It's my own fault - my whole family and most of my friends know we have been TTC. I should have just kept my mouth shut!!! (Hard for me to do! ). I know they mean well, I guess I am just extra sensitive.

 

[skuttle]

I have been cutting back my soda drinking, trying to only do 1 a day. And it's killing me!!!! Any tips, on other things I could drink? Ok, besides water, of course.

What about caffeine free? It's the caffeine in the soda that's bad. I've tried to cut back as well. I don't drink coffee, but do enjoy my coke! Or try buying the little cans of soda and limit youself to those. When I was pregnant with DS, every now and then I allowed myself one small glass of coke. I used the smallest glass we had and once that was gone that was it. I wish I never would have gotten back on the soda kick!

So my temp spiked today so I'm hoping it stays up. DH and I BD'd last night and I'll make sure we do again tonight in case this is it!!

 

[exwdwcm]

Ok...have to come here and vent for a minute.....if one more person tells me to "relax" I think I may just FLIP OUT!!! Why, when people find out you have been TTC for a while, do they say that???? It bothers me soooooo much!! Like, I am going to be like - ahhhhh - god, THAT'S why I am not pg! I just need to relax!!! Thank you so much for telling me!!!

I need a good comeback!!! What do you all say to people that tell you this?!?!

I've heard it all. i get so sick of the 'try to relax', 'if you adopt it will happen'.....well hell, if i was adopted, that means i've given up completely on TTC my own probably, so yeah, i'll probably be less stressed then. people don't get it. i am not giving up, i can't relax until i have a child in my arms. no, i don't need a vacation. no, i don't need to hear about how fertile you are. no, i don't need to hear you *****ing about your morning sickness. folks just don't realize how insensitive it is half of the time, they aren't in our shoes and just don't know.

here is a great site with snappy comebacks.....

http://www.mayhawk.com/jenna/ttchumor.htm

Response to "just relax"....
If I were any more relaxed, I'd be COMATOSE!

Gee, I hadn't thought of that! You mean relaxing will make my husband start producing sperm? Is that going to unblock my tube?


check out this site, it is great. you will get a chuckle out of it if nothing else. some of them are pretty rude things to say back, but hey, sometimes a rude question requires a rude response, right?

well CD12 for me. i am sitting out this cycle due to cysts....speaking of caffeine...i've tried to cut back, knowing it will make my cysts worse. hopefully we can pick up on our 4th IUI cycle/follistim in a few weeks! DH is out of town, so this month was a bad month anyways. he got a free trip to vegas for 2 nights from his boss- took the entire office (all of 8 people)....no fair!! he better bring me a present back!

 

[Syrreal]

I still drink soda and actually, coke is the only thing that got me through some of my morning sickness.
Also, when we were ttc, I didn't really limit anything. Went to disney before I knew I was pg and rode everything under the sun (incl EE but no Mission space but that is because I don't like that ride). The only thing I didn't do was clean the cat box anymore.
To tell the truth, even now I haven't changed much of my habits. I still eat deli meat, hot dogs, and corn dogs. I eat my meat medium. I have coffee and soda. Now if only I could gain some weight instead of losing every month it would be great!

I think that the worrying about all the things that we are told not to do (by whoever) just adds to the stress (plus you tend to get differing opinions depending on who you ask). So I'll say this- if it makes you feel more comfortable to cut back on whatever you think you need to cut back on- do it (for your own peace of mind).

 

[helenabear]

Kellyf, feel free to vent about that. Like I said, if my doc told me to relax (which she did, by saying I don't need to keep temping for the time), I would Otherwise no one really should tell you something like that. I've heard it all too, and I guess I am a bit thick skinned so it never bothered me much. Only a few really dug deep into me.
My favorite one was from a friend of mine who told me to relax and it will happen when it was meant to be. Then she went on to tell me how she got pregnant when she didn't want to (hoped it would take longer than it did) and how she bawled because she was so upset. Yeah, like *that* is going to make me feel better! I truly believe they have no idea how that could hurt.

I like those comebacks though. This one was my favorite
"And here I was thinking we just needed to have sex. THANKS!"

My favorite question I get now and then from those who know what happened is the "are you going to try again?" or the comment is "hopefully next time it will work out... maybe this was just a warm up session"

Some people just don't get it.

As for the whole caffeine thing. My doctor told me that 2 cans of coke a day would be okay. So if you can limit yourself to that, you should be fine. I have a tendency to drink a lot of water though. I've been that way for years now. However, if you want caffeine free, try herbal teas. Those are calorie free and have no caffeine in them.

One word of warning, if you drink diet now, try to quit that. My doctor told me that all the "fake sugars" are actually worse for you than the caffeine. I was told to never take sacchrine and try to severely limit Splenda, Aspartame and the like. I didn't realize that those could be bad for you, but that was mentioned and emphasized more than anything else I heard (other than pain killers).
I admit, I am enjoying not thinking about what I am eating/drinking at the moment I don't seem to be too bad otherwise, but certain things were just hard to avoid for me!

Skuttle, my fingers are crossed for you with this!!!!

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

I do have a question about charting. My DH's alarm goes off at 5:15am, so that's when I try to temp. This morning I woke up at 4:45am for some reason, looked at the clock, then went back to sleep. Never got out of bed. Should I have taken my temp then?

4:45am would have worked for temping - I think you get about a 30 - 45 min. window on FF where they count it as in the "normal" time frame. I try to temp between 6:40 and 7:15 each morning, and FF counts those temps as normal.

Really, the first few months of charting I think you'll find are all over the place, and then it seems to start making sense. It helps if you are charting as many "symptoms" of your cycle as possible, I've found.

 

[Desnik]

Well we are officially TTC again!
Hi everyone!
I had posted here awhile back and got pregnant right away. Unfortunately we lost the baby at 13 weeks. It has been about a month and a half and I have already had a period and my Dr gave the go ahead to try again. I would love to come here and contribute to this thread but I have a question. It seems that most are having a hard time TTC, is this thread mainly for people who are having difficulties? I don't seem to have a problem conceiving, but have had 2 miscarraiges and both my kids were born early, DS was a preemie. I have never charted anything, or checked my temps, etc.. I just want to make sure I am in the right place and don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I actually stopped posting when I was expecting last time because it seemed to be a thread for those who are having difficulties conceiving.

 

[Minnesota!]

Best of luck, Desnik! I am so sorry about your recent loss. I hope your TTC journey is a short one :O)

Allison - congrats on the sweet little girl! I bet she will be quite spoiled, huh? Already eyeing up the frills and bows???

Skuttle = &&&& that you nailed it this month! I would have temped at 445, too. Anything less than an hour off and you are golden to use that temp.

I still drink pop, too. I have 1 can of Coke a day. Because of my GD, I am supposed to do Diet if I have any, but I can't handle the fake sweet taste. And I have taken my sugars after my pop (I have it with my breakfast), and they are fine. I just NEED the bubbles in the morning.

Wish Carla would make her way back here. She is missed!

((((hugs))) to all receiving the insensitive "relax" comments, among others. Just so frustrating.

Hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving! Ours was peaceful and happy.

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

Well we are officially TTC again!
Hi everyone!
I had posted here awhile back and got pregnant right away. Unfortunately we lost the baby at 13 weeks. It has been about a month and a half and I have already had a period and my Dr gave the go ahead to try again. I would love to come here and contribute to this thread but I have a question. It seems that most are having a hard time TTC, is this thread mainly for people who are having difficulties? I don't seem to have a problem conceiving, but have had 2 miscarraiges and both my kids were born early, DS was a preemie. I have never charted anything, or checked my temps, etc.. I just want to make sure I am in the right place and don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I actually stopped posting when I was expecting last time because it seemed to be a thread for those who are having difficulties conceiving.

Desnik, I think this thread is for everyone who is trying to have a baby, no matter where they are in the journey. Some of us are just starting out and have no idea if it will be a few months or a few years before we reach the goal. Others have been trying for a while and are having a hard time TTC, and some of the folks on this thread have gotten their BFP and stuck around to cheer everyone else on. I'd say this thread is about encouraging one another in our quest to be moms, no matter what the road looks like for each one of us.

So welcome back, and I hope you'll be able to conceive again quickly and carry that baby to term!

 

[exwdwcm]

Desnik- welcome! and please feel free to post. none of us 'own' this thread!

so sorry for your loss. i can't imagine how rough that is and won't pretend i know. i think, like dealing with infertility, those that have experienced a loss like that is a 'special club' and no one can possibly know what it is like unless you've been there. i am glad to hear you can start trying again.

i believe this thread is for all women in all stages of the TTC journey as someone else just said. some are just 'thinking' about TTC. others just got off BC and others are in treatment like me and others are even farther along in the journey than i am- doing in vitro or even adoption. We are all at different points, but all longing for the same outcome, a healthy, happy pregnancy and/or baby to love.

while some of us with problems might get a pang of jealousy every once in a while about those that can get pregnant so easily, we don't mean to. Jealousy of pregnant or fertile women is just a side effect that we (those fighting infertility) can't control. I know i have learned to deal with it and try not to make my pity parties everyday occurences and be happy for my friends that are pregnant, with or without trying for long.

and even though you got pregnant quickly, you have experienced a loss that is just as hard or more difficult than infertility. so while we are in different boats, we are all floating down the same river.

please post and keep us posted on your progress! i hope you find yourself pregnant again soon and having a healthy happy pregnancy!

Michelle, 33
TTC 18mos plus
4 mos clomid
2 IUIs with clomid
laprascopy in oct
IUI with follistim injection in nov
currently sitting out cycle due to cysts
COMING SOON! - IUI with follistim late Dec!

 

[kellyf2626]

Ok....so I couldn't help it, and took a HPT tonight....and I think it is a BFP!!!!

There is a very faint line, but it is there!!! I drove over to show my girlfriend who lives down the street - and she saw it too!!

I am now just crossing my fingers that it is for real - not a chemical pregnancy - and that if it is real, the baby sticks!!!

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

Congrats, Kellyf! That's awesome!

Now I want to test, too! I'm really trying to be patient, though...one more week to go until the recommended test date... Must...be...patient....

 

[vettechick99]

Yeah Kelly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[mickeybar]

Congratulations Kelly! I am so excited for you!!!

 

[helenabear]

Welcome back, Desnik! I am so sorry you went through all you did though This group is for everyone (as Michelle said) from thinking of TTC to those who just want to support others. So just know we are here with you through the ride... whatever that may be. Me personally, we tried about 10 months to get pregnant. I finally did, had an early ultrasound due to bleeding and saw the heartbeat at 6w5d. By the time we went back at 11w5d the baby had died and been reabsorbed by my body. I just had my D&C on the 17th. Even when I was pregnant, I still had to stick around here to give support to many others. So feel free to share anything you like here. I don't think all have had troubles... a few have and a few haven't... some right in the middle I think this group is great due to the massive support I've gotten
Glad to hear you have the okay to try again. I imagine I will be in your boat around Jan/Feb (depending)

Kelly, that is so awesome!!!!! I am so very happy for you! Sending tons of baby dust your way!!! Now you can tell those people who told you to relax to stuff it A faint line is a line, so I betcha you are! How many DPO are you?

We just put up our Christmas tree tonight. Tomorrow I'll fluff and begin to decorate