Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[mickeyboat]

Hi, Denae!

Tasha, I have a friend with a 15 month old who is over 30 weeks pregnant. She said she wishes she had them closer together because her son is so mobile now, he's a lot of work. A girl I grew up with had hers close together, too and once said to me, "Can you believe I have TWO kids? TWO KIDS?" She was tired, but the girls were able to entertain each other so she got a break during the day.

Becky, I have the big question of "Will I like my kid?" We've all been to WDW and seen some annoying twit of a kid - now I wonder, "What if that's MINE?" Or, will I be as blind as those other parents and not see how utterly annoying it is? I'd rather know than be blind to the annoyances.

Tasha - my kids are less than a year apart. It was terribly difficult when they were little - Hannah wasn't even walking yet when Emily was born. And they didn't sleep very well, so I didn't ever get any rest.

Now that they are 5 and 6, I wouldn't have it any other way. It is so easy because they do all the same activities at the same time, they get along most of the time, and they have a built-in playmate.

Carla - don't worry about not liking your kid. They start out to beautiful and dependent, you can't help but love them. By the time they start acting up and becoming difficult, you are hooked, and can't help but love them, no matter what. Just think of all the terrible things you did growing up, and your mom still loves you. That's not to say you won't always like their behavior, but that is what parents are for, to teach their kids what is appropriate and what is not. Don't worry!

Denae

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

QUOD: In February we painted the room that will become a nursery, so I had to make some future decorating decisions on the spot! In March I started a new job as nanny to our friend's baby girl, and we decided that I'd watch Grace at our house (DH calls her our "practice baby"). THis meant that DH needed to share part of his "den" with Grace, because our house is only 750 sq. feet and has just 2 small bedrooms. So I got to completely clean out the "den", and had to decide: if I have a baby, how do I want to decorate this room?

In the end, I decided that I'd go for a "pond" theme (DH calls it "castle moat"). My mom, who died 7 years ago, loved frogs and collected all kinds of frog items. I thought I could do a pond theme and incorporate frogs into it as a way to include her in her grandbaby's room. If we have a girl we'll emphasize dragonflies and butterflies a little more, but either way we'd have ducks and frogs (and an alligator or other sea monster in the moat, DH says...). My MIL quilts, and she's already volunteered to make the curtains, quilt, crib bumper, and anything else we need for the room. I think she's as eager for us to have a baby as I am!

Now if I can just reassure DH that we'll be okay...
We had another long, difficult conversation about becoming parents. He's concerned that we don't do very well getting "projects" done, and this means we won't do well as parents because we'll never get anything accomplished and the house will fall into decay. Turns out he thinks "projects", and I've been thinking "operations" - I'm worried about the day-to-day maintenance tasks of keeping the house running, and I figure if I can keep the house reasonably clean and stay on top of other "daily operations" tasks even while watching baby Grace, then we're doing fine and we could handle being parents. I know that we'll never be fully prepared, but DH is really worried about it.

Now I'm not sure that our original "TTC timeline" is going to happen...sigh. I really, really, really want to be a mommy! Taking care of "practice baby" Grace is wonderful, but I want a full-time version that is ours, not just borrowing someone else's child.

 

[Pollito916]

Hi everyone! Just popping in to see how everyone's doing. I see a lot of you are in the 2ww, so here's some extra .

I'm doing good so far, except I think I caught a cold, b/c my throat is killing me. According to on-line calculators, my EDD is 2/12/07. I'll find out how accurate that is when I go for my first appt in July.

 

[RachaelRol]

Ugh... I'm stuck in a two hour conference call right now. I only need 2 bits of it but I'm stuck for the full two hours.... So I thought I'd check in....

QOTD: Don't have any themes in mind.

Truth is I never planned on having another child. DS was premature, born at 30 weeks because I developed severe pre-eclampsyia and HELLP syndrome. Basically that means I had super high blood pressure, liver and kidney failure, so he had to be born early.

He had a rough go in the beginning. Hospitalized for 33 days, only 3.3 lbs, had a collapsed lung on his 3rd day in the world, came home on an apnea monitor. Had that for about two months....

Dr. recommended if we had any other children we had them before I turned 32. Well I was hell bent on never doing that again... But life changes... DH always wanted another and I began to feel that we did not want Andrew to grow up alone. I also just WANT another one. I miss having a baby....

Andrew BTW is perfect. Hs a few allergies and asthama that's triggered by colds, but he's developmentally fine. Very witty, smart, cute, simply put, perfect. (you will all think this about your little ones too)

So, I went for testing. Had 23 tubes of blood drawn, a glucose test anf a bunch of other stuff done to see what triggered by sickness. Good news was I have a gene mutation, that is normally dormant, but when pregnant, it's acts up. Couse of treatment is extra b6, b12, folic acid and a baby aspirin each day, plus the prenatal vitiamins.

I'll be 33 in September, hopefully if I'm pg soon, the kids won't be too far apart in age. So this really loong posts explains why I'm a little desperate to be pregnant fast....

I'm on day 9 of the 2ww, so we'll see. My days between cycles, have been weird though, 37, then 23, Today I'm 23 days from my last, but have no idea when to expect AF... It was never like this until we started TTC.

Alright, I'll stop now...

Rachael

 

[RachaelRol]

Hi everyone! Just popping in to see how everyone's doing. I see a lot of you are in the 2ww, so here's some extra .

I'm doing good so far, except I think I caught a cold, b/c my throat is killing me. According to on-line calculators, my EDD is 2/12/07. I'll find out how accurate that is when I go for my first appt in July.

That stinks. . You can't take anything either. Drink a lot of water. You'll have to pee, which I'm sure you're doing tons of, but, it will help your throat feel better!!

 

[2bemarried]

Hey Denae

LOL Becky...I'm sure your grandmother is happy to learn all about the ttc details

Carla I can imagine my kid walking around saying "Will the real Slim Shady please stand up?"

Pollito..I hope you feel better!

Imarriedgrumpy....I think the "majority" of men worry about the finances of children where as we women worry about the emotional aspects of it.

Rachel...I'm glad to hear that Andrew is perfect now and that the doctors know what caused the issue during your pregnancy. It's amazing what they're able to do now versus just 10 years ago.

QOTD: I think I'll probably stick with my first idea on a theme: Noah's Ark. DH and I LOVE stuffed animals....so I'll use those in the room. Plus that's a great theme for both genders. However...I may change my mind when all the pregnancy hormones take over.

Becky....thanks for creating the lists on the first post! Would it be possible to also add all of the great links that have been posted? ie. the one you posted earlier and the one that Carla posted. Then we can have one central location and won't have to search for them.

Update from my doctors appointment today:
We met with my doctor for all of 15 minutes. We have to go back next week to meet the nurse tech to learn how to do the injections and to set my schedule of injections. The doctor did say that I'll most likely start the Lupron on day 24 of this cycle.

 

[MommyBryn]

QOTD: We don't have a nursery, since we co-sleep, but our baby stuff "theme" is a combination of cute bugs and bright colors. We wanted something neutral since we didn't find out the sex of our baby and don't plan to with future children.

 

[Jen_in_NH]

QOTD: we've tossed around a bunch of nursery themes. We just bought our house last year, and when we repainted all of the rooms, 1 is blue, 1 is yellow, and 1 is red. If it's a boy, it will definitely be the Disney Fire Department stuff. Girls, I'd really like to do Paddington Bear stuff, but it's really hard to find.

Carla and Kristy - good luck with everything. You both have a busy month ahead of you.

Lisa, how uncomfortable is an IUI? My doctor wants to do one next month (if this month doesn't happen to be the one). It can't be more painful than the HSG, right?

So far, I've resisted temptation really well. I think I'm about 7 days into the 2ww, and I haven't even bought an HPT yet. Not because I don't want to, more because Home Depot wants every dollar I have

Good luck everyone!!!!!

Jen

 

[LisaB]

Is the hsg the one where they see if the tubes are blocked? If that no itsn't that bad. It is like a pap smear. You can definetly feel the catheter (needle) go in. There is some cramping. My only problem is that my cervix is very high so they have to use this long specimen they call it a snowman. The first day is usually the worst and usually Kevin and I have intercourse that day and he withdraws.

Carla--How expensive is the IVF???

 

[AllyandJack]

Lisa, the statement I got from NEMC said it was $12,888. That doesn't include the drugs. I only paid $20. of it and my doctor says I should get that back because I wasn't supposed to pay anything. I paid it because the insurance company couldn't tell me why they were telling NEMC I owed it so I paid NEMC in the interim while I fought with the insurance company (who still doesn't know why I owe it!). DH's company has a really generous insurance plan. I was approved for 3 rounds and used 2. Then, my 3rd was extended and I have 2 more rounds after this. They require pre-approval and have age limits and ailment limits (i.e. if your problem is high FSH, they may not approve you), but they're really generous. Not the brightest bulbs, but at least my RE knows how to deal with them so I don't have to! I had regular co-payments for the drugs and I had to order from Freedom Drug (more dim bulbs), but I can't complain.

Kristy, that sounds great! So, you'll get started with the Lupron in a few weeks. Those are pretty easy. DH does it because I have no patience with drawing up luquid. Small needles, right in the stomach. Did they tell you what stims you'd be using?

I took some Advil PM to knock me out. My bag is packed for tomorrow. Watching House to try and relax. Got my pain meds. Got my pads for the progesterone suppositories. Drank tons of water to get my veins up for the IV. Massive rash from the HCG - cream for that. Heartburn from the antibiotic - Tums for that. I think I'm all set for tomorrow.

I hope everyone has a good Wednesday.....I'll be high and happy. Woot!

 

[2bemarried]

Carla we'll be thinking about you tomorrow!!! How long does the retrieval last? How long do you have to stay there before you can go back home? Sounds like you're really prepared!! I'll be coming to you for more advice when it's my turn

I'll find out next week which stims I'll be using. The doctor really didn't tell me much today. Evidentally at Duke the nurse is the one you work with all the time instead of the doc.

 

[RachaelRol]

Carla,

Good luck tomorrow.

 

[LisaB]

My husband has united healthplan. The meds aren't that expensive. I am having some problems with my practice because they say certain things are covered at 100 but united healyh is saying 80

 

[scifihippie]

Carla, I got all caught up on the 4400 when they had the marathon, then stayed up late Sun to watch the season premiere. I'm so sad Lily is dead. And I'm dying to know what the creepy guy told Isabelle about who she is.

GL tomorrow at your ER! Hope it's eggcellent!

Tasha, I'd start a prenatal at least 3 months prior to ttc. I know what you mean about scared to have two. The minute I got home with #1, I was ready for #2. It was so amazing, the most wonderful thing that had ever happened to me. After years of trying I finally had a take home baby. I wanted to do that ride again! Now that my blissfull babymoon is over and DS has become mobile I'm worrying about how hard it will be for 2.

Kristy, unless your eardrums are vibrating to your uterus, you're safe to listen to any thing without fear of corrupting your unborn. lol. I keep telling my DH he's going to have to stop listening to Howard Stern! He takes our seven month old to daycare in the mornings. My poor baby's first words will probably be something horrid!

Minnesota,

Becky, I loved both of Jenny's books - Belly Laughs and Baby Laughs. In fact, both of mine are missing out on loan. I can't remember who I loaned them to.

QOTD: Didn't have a thing picked out until I was 18 weeks pg. I went shopping during my 2ww of the amnio wait. We had no idea if it was boy or girl, the little stinker was shy. The doc *thought* he saw a peeper, so I ran with that and shopped boy. Crazy buying $600 worth of nursery stuff in blue! I love it though, it's very cute, under-the-sea theme from PBK.

Jen, my IUIs were uncomfortable b/c my cervix wasn't really open and they had to make it. Ouch. Nothing compared to the HSG. I'd do a 100 IUIs before I'd do another HSG.

Ugh, don't get me started on insurance. Our insurance paid for diagnosis, then once we got our diagnosis, we were SOL for any more payments from blue cross. Everything was out of pocket and upfront. Luckily I had a friend with left over meds for one cycle and that really helped!

 

[beckmrk04]

Whew- you all have been busy.

Kristy- I will indeed start a "links list" in the OP- great idea. Might take me a while to get some of them on there (I'm going to go through some posts)- but consider it started, at least!

Carla- I am SOO going to be crossing my fingers for you tomorrow, as I'm sure everyone else here is!

I've managed to stay fairly busy today, which took some of the 2ww anxiety off.

I still need to get around to calling our insurance and find out what is covered as far as pregnancy/delivery, and see what kind of $$ I'll be parting with.

 

[2bemarried]

Lisa, I'm on United Healthcare as well. My plan pays for 90% of the tests and treatments.

Melissa, LOL I think all of our kids are going to be saying things they shouldn't. I'm sure my husband will have our kids listening to Fox News and those talk radio shows

Becky...let me know if you need/want help with pulling together the links.

Okay...I've been playing with my IPOD all night and really need to get to sleep now.

 

[beckmrk04]

I'm fairly certain that if I don't clean my mouth up my child's first word will be ^%$*. (Pick any 4 letter word you can think of to insert there- I say 'em all. )

Once I get pg I will clean up the potty mouth- I swear. Wait, no, swearing is bad. I promise...

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Yep, I'm pretty sure my child will end up dropping the f-bomb a couple of times. Usually I'm pretty good, but my drive into Concord for groceries, etc, is horrific. Especially in the summer, with the NASCAR races, motorcycle weekend, etc Tends to get a few choice words.

Carla - Good luck! I'll be thonking of you today. Enjoy the Versed, and hopefully this time is the charm.

I need to get going and find out exactly what my insurance will cover. So far, all I've had is office visit and prescription copays. But the doc is talking about IUI next month, so I need to call and find out just how much this will end up costing. If it goes as far as IVF, I have this feeling we'd be footing the bill. I know we don't have that kind of money, so I don't know what we'd do. As you can tell, I'm starting to worry about things that are way off down the road.....

Jen

 

[RachaelRol]

Visit from AF, that B**ch!!! : Oh well. Must keep trying.... When I took my temp this morning it dropped to 97.6 so I knew it was coming... Interesting how that charting stuff works.


Cycle was 24 days, last month was 23... Its used to never be like that... I wonder if that's even long enough... I'm going to have to check in tcoyf

Anyway, I'm sending extra to the ladies still in the 2ww.

Rachael

 

[beckmrk04]

Aw, Rach- that sucks.

Your cycles don't seem very long- how longis your luteal phase?