Former Long Islanders, living in South Charlotte for the past 6 years. We are DVC members, which allows us to get a discount on the APs.
We are Disney fanatics, and we go quite often. My children grew up making trips between NY and NC, so 10 hours in a car is just something they grew up with, and are quite used to. Therefore, the 8 hour trip between us and Disney they can do standing on their heads. Plus, electronics makes the trip very different than laying in the back of my father's station wagon back in the 70s and 80s.
Having said that, our normal routine (lets say for a 3 day weekend):
After work, we depart and drive to Jacksonville. You can normally get a room cheaper there (dollars or frequent traveler points), and for us, it is about a 5 1/2 hour trip.
The next morning (say Saturday), we get up, grab our included breakfast, and head out by 6:30 or so. That puts us in one of the Disney parking lots by 9:00 AM. We spend the next two days in the parks (Sat & Sun). On the last day (Mon), we get up, pack up, and hit a park for a couple of hours. By noon (often a little sooner) we are on the road. Eight hours later, we are in our driveway.
For longer trips, I have been known to do the Jacksonville stop on the way home. Think of a week long trip, and spending the entire day in the parks on Saturday. Leaving the parks, grabbing a late dinner, and driving a couple of hours to Jacksonville. Again, the Saturday night room rate for a room in Jacksonville may be much cheaper than a Disney hotel, and Sunday morning, we are now less than six hours from home.
Owning at DVC has given us the advantage to get the discounted AP. Having an AP includes parking, meaning we can stay off-site for these little weekend getaways. Having traveled a bit for work, I have also built up a few Hilton points, which I will sometimes use for those Jacksonville stays, which can be half as many points for the same night as a hotel in Lake Buena Vista.
We leave for Jacksonville tomorrow night for one of those three day weekends...