Rereading my post, it is just looking at it from one angle.
My son gets along fine socially with kids that are into the same things he is. He also gets along well with girls. Like when one of my friends older son comes over (he is 8) and they can do things together. He also gets along well with girls. He has had lots of girlfriends, he just can't seem to do the buddy buddy guy thing And he communicates well with adults. He is happy and loving and I am pretty sure there is nothing wrong with him. If you were to meet him, you would think of him as perfectly normal. I have a friend with a child with asperger's, and both of my children have symptoms, but not to the extent where I would use medication to treat them. I have even had them evaluated a few years ago, because I was worried about autism, but the lady seemed to thing they were within normal limits.
I don't think he is gifted, but he is definately ahead. He learned to read at about 2 and a half, thougt up the concept of algebra all by himself, etc.
I truly don't think that being a victim at school is going to teach him 'socialization'. I think it would just damage his self esteem to the extent that he no longer likes himself. I think if he is loved for who he is, he will develop self confidence, and then when he is older, find a niche of people that are more like him.
I am beginning to wonder what is normal behavior for a 5/6 year old boy. The other kids his age all seem to have focusing problems, the seem rambunctious (sp?) and out of control. Lots of potty language and swear words and pushing. Maybe that is normal for that age, and being able to sit still and finish a puzzle or write a letter to grandma is abnormal. I think it just isn't cool to be polite and well mannered and interested in things, which is how he is. I know that both of my kids are kind of different, but I don't really know what to do about it, or even if I want to change them.
I guess I am also overprotective. I want to shelter him from all of the harsh realities of life. I guess I would like to wait until he is older and better equipped to handle it before he is confronted with issues like bullying and things like that.
I have talked to the teacher, and she said he was very organized and it was difficult for him to deal with other kids disturbing his organization. She thought he was a delightful child that was polite and iquisitive. She also said he should be tested for the gifted program, but it doesn't start until 1st grade.
When I talked about the bullying, she agreed that they had a rough group of Kindergarteners this year, and that she would keep an eye on it. She also said to give it some time and that she would try to see what she could do to help him out socially.
Sorry for the long rambling post! I'm just another obsessive mother
