I was 34 when I got my license. I think I should have tried when I was younger, but I didn't need it. Then I became nervous about it. It just fed into itself. The longer you wait the harder it is. Just do it, small steps, and you can do it. I used to visualize myself going places. I think it helped me realize what my end goal was; to get out and drive and go where I wanted. Now I drive a big SUV!
As for learning, my DH taught me to drive! I don't really recommend it though! Can be a little difficult!
Good luck, keep us posted!![]()
I can totally relate. I am 28, up to this point I have not "needed" my license. DH works in the office directly behind mine so getting to and from work is a non issue, but lately he has been having to work alot of Saturdays, and both of my girls dance on Saturday. I am not comfortable asking any one else to take us and would never risk driving without a license. I know its time and reminded by alot of family members (in a not so nice kind of way) that I need my license. I truly feel like I will lose control of the car. We have a trailblazer - which I can and do drive around our house which is pretty much farmland - but taking him to work on a Saturday and having to take the girls to dance by myself![]()
I have to do it...I just cant bring myself to do it. I envision myself not being able to park it at their dance and driving around the parking lot until their done
I'm so afraid I'll get into a situation and not know what to do. I do have my permit and sort kinda okay driving with someone in the passenger seat...but by myself...omg.
My aunt never did. She is 54 now and has never driven nor has never wanted to drive a car.
We think she may have been in the car when my grandmother killed an elderly woman. It was YEARS ago and this elderly woman just stepped out between two cars on a busy highway and my grandmother couldn't avoid hitting her. My aunt would have been about four at the time.
Regardless, my aunt just never wanted to drive. She was very happy taking the bus or any public transportation, and was happy to have her husband or any of us drive her, but she would never ask for a ride.
I would think that doing baby steps will get you there.
I wish public transportation were an option where I live...but if it was I would probably be tempted to never drive on my own either.
My family says DH is an enabler because he takes me where I need to go - which benefits him obviously too (grocery shopping, errands for the house etc.)
I really need to talk myself into this
Our public transportation here is really bad! She ends up walking more places than taking the bus.
Here in Los Angeles, you really do need to have a car. I've been driving legally since 16, had my permit at 15.5 and I bought my first car at age 15.
But, I'll tell you a little secret: I hate making left turns on busy roads without a light. I also hate parallel parking. Because I don't like doing either one and I am not good at parallel parking, I just don't do it. Plain and simple and problem solved. When I do have to make lefts on busy streets, I am just super cautious and concentrate so that I don't freak myself out.
I am terrific on the freeway, though. I can merge like no other!
I think this is just like quitting smoking, and I've done that. You need to sit yourself down, and think about driving. Think about the freedom you have and heaven forbid, think about if there is an emergency and you need to drive yourself to the hospital because someone is in the emergency room and you need to get there quick.
Then, take some courses. Driving courses and then defensive driving. Tell each instructor what you have problems with, what your fears are, and they will work with you.
Your biggest fear is parking at the dance class for now? Is there an area near it that isn't in a lot? Is the parking there street only? What about it bothers you?
Baby steps and you can do this! Is there a way to get yourself a reward? A new-to-you car in your favorite color, or one with a sunroof or something?
My fear is parking at the dance studio because this is probably the only place I would need to drive myself - parking lots in general freak me out. And I honestly dont think it matters that I'm driving a SUV, I could be driving my daughters powerwheels and probably not want to park it.
The street their dance is on is fairly busy...I will need to take make a left hand turn into their parking lot (without a light!) I suppose I could park on the street, although I've never see anyone else do this so I dont know that its allowed. This particular parking lot is very small - cars come and go very quickly and constantly (people are usually just dropping off and then leaving).
We've been talking about getting a second car alot lately and as DH pointed out - I dont have my license so no point...but if I got my license we would get a second car for him and I would drive the trailblazer. We used to own a Sable and I liked that car but actually like the SUV better...I feel safer.
My family says DH is an enabler because he takes me where I need to go - which benefits him obviously too (grocery shopping, errands for the house etc.)
I can see their point. If there is no medical reason for not driving and public transportation is not an option, they yeah, you do need to get a license.
Clearly it is fine for a vast majority of the population, so I am sure you will ok also. Again assuming there is no medical reason why not.
There is physical medical reason I cannot drive. My fear is that I will die, or kill someone.
I guess I dont see why they care if it clearly doesn't affect them.
Perhaps your DH has vented to them about taking you all over? He is their son and that of course means they will be looking out for him, even as an adult.
Not sure if being afraid of something like driving a car is a real medical issue. But heck, might be for all I know..
Good luck if you try to learn how to drive. I am sure it will work out ok for you.