Another Reason To Hate New Technology

[bicker]

Folks who through resistance or inaction cut themselves off from new technology definitely will suffer the ill-effects of their decision or inaction in that regard.

 

[harleyquinn]

Well since I have first hand recent experience with this...I found out right before I had to go to work, and I ended up blabbing it to my boss before I had told anyone else...even DH.

My boss gave me this look and said, "don't you dare tell anyone else before you talk to your husband!" And I was like, "OMG! How stupid can I be!?"

I had all these plans on how to tell everyone, but I ended up calling DH and just blabing it...he knew it might be coming, I told him the day before that I was pretty sure I was pregnant...and then I called my mom and said I have something to tell you and she started screaming, you're pregnant!!!! She's the one that told my grandmother!! It was special for her to be the one to share the news with her mother.

What I'm trying to say is I don't think anyone or thing is to blame here. There is just this automatic NEED to share this amazing news with EVERYONE sometimes.

But I can't blame technology at all---the phone didn't send the text, the mom-to-be did. And that was her choice...in the long run who cares who found out when!!? Enjoy the news!

 

[FireDancer]

Folks who through resistance or inaction cut themselves off from new technology definitely will suffer the ill-effects of their decision or inaction in that regard.

You are never too old to stay in the loop.

 

[bicker]

...in the long run who cares who found out when!!? Enjoy the news!

 

[C.Ann]

Is technology to blame? No..

Are people losing human contact because of it? In many cases, yes..

And then there are all the other ways that various things have evolved - texting rather than making a phone call; emailing rather than writing a letter; sending out Christmas cards with pre-printed signatures rather than a personal signature; and on and on.. Kind of sad - but that's the way it's becoming for many..

 

[MichelleVW]

Is technology to blame? No..

Are people losing human contact because of it? In many cases, yes..

And then there are all the other ways that various things have evolved - texting rather than making a phone call; emailing rather than writing a letter; sending out Christmas cards with pre-printed signatures rather than a personal signature; and on and on.. Kind of sad - but that's the way it's becoming for many..

Technology has brought my family WAY closer. People that hardly kept in contact before are now in contact via Facebook/emails/Twitter. I love it. My family knows that at any time they can go to my facebook or my daily photo blog and see what I've done that day.

Because of cell phones and free long distance I talk to my mother who lives in another state probably every day and before it was once a week or so. I text my brother in law and sister all the time and they love it. We send pictures in texts too and it makes us feel closer and more connected.

I can't miss snail mail and long distance telephone calls.....I'm sorry, I think this technology is wonderful.

 

[C.Ann]

Technology has brought my family WAY closer. People that hardly kept in contact before are now in contact via Facebook/emails/Twitter. I love it. My family knows that at any time they can go to my facebook or my daily photo blog and see what I've done that day.

Because of cell phones and free long distance I talk to my mother who lives in another state probably every day and before it was once a week or so. I text my brother in law and sister all the time and they love it. We send pictures in texts too and it makes us feel closer and more connected.

I can't miss snail mail and long distance telephone calls.....I'm sorry, I think this technology is wonderful.

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I'm very happy that it works well for you.. And for others, the "old fashioned" way works well too.. I love to write letters - as do many people I know (gotta hate that mail box filled with nothing but bills and junk mail - LOL) - and with combo packages, you gotta love the free long distance - even with the regular "old-fashioned" phones.. It's all a matter of preferences - although there are a few that seem rather cold and distant to some...

 

[ZachnElli]

Not everyone is close to their in-laws, nor their grandparents for that matter. Sometimes they are closer to their friends. And sometimes friends are WAY more reliable than so called relatives. I didn't tell my MIL about my last pregnancy and I miscarried, trust me, she doesn't care.

 

[Inigo]

I think, if Grandmother gets pregnant, she can chose who she wants to tell first.

Since granddaughter is the expectant mother, she gets to chose who she wants to tell first. Grandmother can have her feelings hurt, but IMO, she needs to get over it. If she doesn't get over it, she's acting like a 2 year old.

 

[MichelleVW]

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I'm very happy that it works well for you.. And for others, the "old fashioned" way works well too.. I love to write letters - as do many people I know (gotta hate that mail box filled with nothing but bills and junk mail - LOL) - and with combo packages, you gotta love the free long distance - even with the regular "old-fashioned" phones.. It's all a matter of preferences - although there are a few that seem rather cold and distant to some...

I am also the Queen of sending cards....I send random cards in the mail to my friends/family all the time....so staying in touch is up to the people involved no matter how they choose to do it. The new technology just makes it easier and in no way can I find fault with that...

 

[C.Ann]

I am also the Queen of sending cards....I send random cards in the mail to my friends/family all the time....so staying in touch is up to the people involved no matter how they choose to do it. The new technology just makes it easier and in no way can I find fault with that...

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Cards are great! I receive them almost daily and try to mail out several a week to friends and family - usually with photos inside.. Nothing I hate worse than a mail box with nothing "personal" in it.. Nice long letters are my number one favorite though!!

 

[Jennasis]

Out of curiosity...WAS grandma actually upset about this?

 

[disbridemimi]

MIL needs a waaambulance. Stat!

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[ms.yt]

Again, the technology isn't the problem. There really isn't much of a problem, anyway. It's a huge pet peeve of mine when people try to shun new technology especially on the basis that they're "too old" to learn it. I hope I never get so old that I want to stop learning new things. I'm so proud of my 74 year old aunt who took a class and learned to utilize the internet in the last couple of years. Now because of the "evil" technology, I hear from her several times a week instead of every few months.

 

[bicker]

Personally, I prefer folks saying that they are shunning the new technology because they're "too old" to learn rather than crafting other excuses making the technology sound evil, bad, inefficient, etc. They're hiding their own personal frustration, I know, but their statements are disingenuous, and often hurtful to people who are making good use of new technology.

 

[disney junky]

Out of curiosity...WAS grandma actually upset about this?

Humiliated I think is more the word.
She was sitting at her desk working when a co-worker comes over and says, why you must be excited, and she doesn't have any idea what this person is talking about. The co-worker assumed grandma would know. Grandma assumed she'd be 'in the loop', the granddaughter has proven in the past to be insensitive on issues such as these, and I agree, it's her right to tell whomever she wants, and I suspect those who suggest it's not necessarily a technology problem but a protocol problem within a weird family dynamic are correct.

 

[MichelleVW]

Humiliated I think is more the word.
She was sitting at her desk working when a co-worker comes over and says, why you must be excited, and she doesn't have any idea what this person is talking about. The co-worker assumed grandma would know. Grandma assumed she'd be 'in the loop', the granddaughter has proven in the past to be insensitive on issues such as these, and I agree, it's her right to tell whomever she wants, and I suspect those who suggest it's not necessarily a technology problem but a protocol problem within a weird family dynamic are correct.

Seriously if she was Humiliated because someone else found out first she needs to stop being so dang sensitive. I know I told everyone within hearing distance before I told my mother/grandma/and even husband that I was pregnant!!

 

[Mickeyistheman]

Every family is different but I don't feel that technology is bad BUT I feel that it does take away people from people.

I am not married and dating at the moment and I miss the times when I would get that first phone call. Now you get a text. Something is missing its not the same.

I just think that if the granddaughter KNEW that was where her grandmother worked and didn't let her know before her friends I can understand why she felt that way.

 

[alexandria674]

I don't think it is technology to blame here, it is the person itself. A computer, cell phone, fax machine,etc does not have a soul, it is not responsible for its actions. It is the person who is using it who should be to blame.

I don't know why people are mad at who told who first about the baby. I mean, just be happy that a family member is pregnant. If the grandma is upset, well it is time to stop being so sensitive. To me there is not an heirachy of who should be told, the minute I find out I am pregnant, I think it is likely that I would tell everyone around me from my mother to the delivery boy.

 

[bicker]

It definitely is different now. My brother just posted a few photos he took of what he and his wife did today, including a shot of them walking on the Great Wall of China. We couldn't share their excitement without Facebook. And we'll still get all the bits of the wonderful experience after they get back, too.