Annual Family Vent Thread!

[hereyago]

My only vent is about my MIL. She is the sole caretaker of her aging father who is paralyzed on his entire right side and completely speechless (had a stroke a few years ago). She is just awful to that poor man. She claims everything is his fault....her own ailing health, her lack of a social life, and on and on. She blamed our lousy Thanksgiving dinner (at Golden Corral) on him. She actually said if it weren't for him, we could've gone someplace nice, but who wants to drag him in his wheelchair someplace nice?

I wonder who is going to be taking care of her when she gets to a point of needing help. It is real easy to be mean to someone who can't defend themself.

I was floored!

Now I have to deal with her again on Christmas eve and Christmas Day. She cooks terribly, but won't allow me and DH to cook or host the day at our house (she'd have to "lug" her dad out to our farm). She refuses to turn lights on in the house, so it's essentially the 4 of us squinting in her dark hovel of a home with her one lamp (on a dimmer) to see each other. And this year she's decided...NO TREE.

Fun.

How about a case of 48 hour stomach virus? or better yet a case of nocrapola on christmas bug? lol. What does your DH say about it all?

 

[indimom]

My only vent is about my MIL. She is the sole caretaker of her aging father who is paralyzed on his entire right side and completely speechless (had a stroke a few years ago). She is just awful to that poor man. She claims everything is his fault....her own ailing health, her lack of a social life, and on and on. She blamed our lousy Thanksgiving dinner (at Golden Corral) on him. She actually said if it weren't for him, we could've gone someplace nice, but who wants to drag him in his wheelchair someplace nice?

I was floored!

Now I have to deal with her again on Christmas eve and Christmas Day. She cooks terribly, but won't allow me and DH to cook or host the day at our house (she'd have to "lug" her dad out to our farm). She refuses to turn lights on in the house, so it's essentially the 4 of us squinting in her dark hovel of a home with her one lamp (on a dimmer) to see each other. And this year she's decided...NO TREE.

Fun.

Ahhhhh... I think you should take grandpa for a drive to see the Christmas lights, then out for a nice dinner, and leave cranky MIL to her own devices in the dark hovel.

 

[hereyago]

Ahhhhh... I think you should take grandpa for a drive to see the Christmas lights, then out for a nice dinner, and leave cranky MIL to her own devices in the dark hovel.

 

[pilesoflaundry]

Ahhhhh... I think you should take grandpa for a drive to see the Christmas lights, then out for a nice dinner, and leave cranky MIL to her own devices in the dark hovel.

I agree. Please take him out for a bit. I pray she doesn't say such awful things where he can hear .

 

[Debbie7452]

I have PLENTY of drama to pass around this Christmas! My DSis and I have always been close. She has, however, a history of being somewhat flaky. I overlook a lot of things at the Holidays which seem to get her especially stressed out. She doesn't manage to do any christmas shopping and scrambles to buy gift cards, which she will then forget to bring with her to my house. This does not upset me,Christmas is NOT about the presents, I'm just trying to describe her. Sometimes I have to go out and actually buy the gift cards and she reimburses me! She is a mess, but I love her.

I host the annual family dinner/gift exchange every year. One year I made prime rib with yorkshire pudding. It was ready to go on time and I worked all day. My DSis and her family were two hours late! She didn't call or offer an explanation. The dinner was not the greatest from being kept warm so long. I also had a toddler who got very cranky being up late to open the gifts after dinner, etc...I tried to be cheerful and make the evening nice anyway.

This year, Dsis has left her DH and become "very serious" in a new relationship with a girlfriend. I have not met the girlfriend, yet. Dsis has issued an ultimatum that the girlfriend must be welcome at our dinner or she will boycott Christmas with us. She told me in this is in the same phone call that she initially revealed the lesbian relationship. I asked her for more time during that phone call, but now she won't take my calls. My Dnephew(17) thinks he is coming to my house for the traditional Christmas meal, but Dsis told other family members she doesn't think she is coming.

Soooo, anyone want a nice big helping of my family drama?

 

[bballmom56]

I'm on the s*** list because I am remaining open on whether or not we go to DH parents house ( always by 9 a.m. Christmas morning)
My dad passed away last year on Christms Day and quite frankly I have no idea if my family is going to all be together, if I want to be just us, I would just relaly like to keep it open. I had to move my mom up here form Fl so that is in the mix as well and she cannot travel very far and would not work ofr her to go with to the In-Laws. They are including her, but with her ailments it does not work out for her to spend the mornig/day there. I am catching grief since we didn't attend last year ...I was a little busy saying goodbye to my dad. I feel bad enough without the guilt trip of "could be our last Christmas too".

I'm so sorry. What a difficult situation. I can't believe they gave you grief over not being there last year. How sad. I hope your family can be together especially this year. That first year after a loss is so tough. It is wonderful that your mom can live with you now.

 

[ChiCat]

My only vent is about my MIL. She is the sole caretaker of her aging father who is paralyzed on his entire right side and completely speechless (had a stroke a few years ago). She is just awful to that poor man. She claims everything is his fault....her own ailing health, her lack of a social life, and on and on. She blamed our lousy Thanksgiving dinner (at Golden Corral) on him. She actually said if it weren't for him, we could've gone someplace nice, but who wants to drag him in his wheelchair someplace nice?

I was floored!

Now I have to deal with her again on Christmas eve and Christmas Day. She cooks terribly, but won't allow me and DH to cook or host the day at our house (she'd have to "lug" her dad out to our farm). She refuses to turn lights on in the house, so it's essentially the 4 of us squinting in her dark hovel of a home with her one lamp (on a dimmer) to see each other. And this year she's decided...NO TREE.

Fun.

Wow out of everybody in this scenario I feel most sorry for her. She sounds like a miserable, unhappy person... how sad.