I am so sorry. I just lost my Mom a month ago and I dreaded the wake, but I have to tell you that the outpouring of love and wonderful stories that filled the room really helped get us through it. It helped hold me up. Allow your self to cry, scream, whatever it takes. This is what we are putting on her headstone---Those we love never go away, they walk beside us every day--And I have to believe that, it's the only thing getting me through the day. Remember to take care of yourself too. The rest of your family needs you to, Now more than ever. God Bless.