And don't call me sweetie

[Liberty Belle]

That is what I don't like to see/hear. I don't like being talked to or see someone else talked to in that almost baby-talk-like manner as if they're a pet, especially where it's the younger person talking to the older person in that tone. It's not usually a sarcasm issue for me. It almost never is about sarcasm for me, UNLESS it is in that "Bless Your Heart" tone! The main reason I don't like "sweetie" talk from a young person to an older person (even just 20 vs. 40 years old) is because it sounds like someone is being thought of as if they aren't very bright or capable or are being pitied or something.

If an older waitress in IHOP wants to call me honey or sweetie, then that's fine. Or a hairdresser or something where it just kind of "fits" (I'm thinking Dolly Parton or Kathy Bates types here). But not a young waitress anywhere. And definitely not some young medical assistant who is tending to my healthcare issues.

I am an RN, and I used to work with a young medical assistant whom I adored. But she would call elderly (to her!) patients "sweetie", and it made me cringe inside. I really should have said something to her, but I wasn't in the position of authority over her. I should have just said something to her as her friend.

Exactly. I think "strangers" should be given, at least initially, the same respect you'd give your teacher or professor and many on here said it would be wrong to call them Sweetie or Honey.

 

[Bluestars]

I call every single man I meet Brosef, Champion or Sport's Fan. I refer to every single women as Senorita.

I've been doing this for years and I have gifted children. But I may be on the spectrum.

You must have been bottle-fed and educated in the public school system. That would explain it.



I don't get bent out of shape when a person calls me sweetie. It's just annoying. But I also get annoyed when I hear coupon (koo-pawn) pronounced Q-pon. I think most people just go with the flow. There is no way we can control how other people speak, so it's easier to just take it in stride.

 

[mhsjax]

The majority of people that seem to be 'offended' by the friendly greetings that some of us use seem to be mostly from the north areas, or those that are not considered from the 'deep south' (where these greetings are mostly at). Or if from there have lived elsewhere mostly.

Everyone can have there opinions, but just don't expect things to change anytime soon down south. Sorry if these things offend you, but they are not meant that way. We have lived in a few states that we consider north (no matter they are south of the mason dixon) and for the most part people in general are more reserved than we were used to, but we understood that was a regional thing, and we sure didn't expect to change them (or get offended), 'but' we were glad to get back down south .

We're not going to change, y'all aren't going to change, and that's ok by me. Have a great day.

So I guess that no matter where you are from in the south, unless you are from LA you aren't southern.

I hate to tell you, that I have relatives in SC that are so southern, they make Scarlett Ohara seem like a yankee and for the most part I agree with you, I do take exception and have never heard, including my friends from LA, use terms of endearment to an elder. If you say it isn't meant in a bad way, I will believe you, I do know that people hate the word Ma'am and I agree that it is meant with respect. But I can't wrap my brain around a kid saying "sweetie" to an adult.

 

[JennaDeeDooDah]

You must have been bottle-fed and educated in the public school system. That would explain it.



I don't get bent out of shape when a person calls me sweetie. It's just annoying. But I also get annoyed when I hear coupon (koo-pawn) pronounced Q-pon. I think most people just go with the flow. There is no way we can control how other people speak, so it's easier to just take it in stride.

And I hate when it is pronounced koo-pawn.




Oh, and don't get me started on supposably instead of supposedly, real-a-tor instead of realtor, and lie-berry instead of library.

 

[bunkkinsmom]

And I hate when it is pronounced koo-pawn.




Oh, and don't get me started on supposably instead of supposedly, real-a-tor instead of realtor, and lie-berry instead of library.

Did you know there is a Spacific ocean?

 

[mhsjax]

Did you know there is a Spacific ocean?

Only in pacific areas of the world is it pronounce specific ocean. lol

I have one for you and this is real and I was shocked. Watched a show on TV, it was about language and words used and not used in certain areas of the country. They started talking about "aint" and how it is considered low class and uneducated and used by people in the south. Well they had this language professor( he was not southern at all) on and he said actually it started in England and was used by the very upper crust blue blood aristocrats. So I guess it "aint" so bad to say "aint". I seriously had no idea.

 

[disney11fan]

I hate when servers refer to you as honey, sweetie, darlin, etc. I had one at lunch today and I wanted to slap her. (It probably didn't help that I was on a 45 minute hold with the IRS. )

But in all seriousness, why do they do that? I know I can't be the only one that hates it. It's not endearing, its annoying!

they don't know your name. do you want mrs. or ms. or hey you.... making a mountain out of a molehill