An update- the fallout

[Teejay32]

I know a couple of people who still provide health insurance for the ex-wife per divorce agreement. The children wouldn't be cut off from his policy no matter what goes on between you two, and since he may be paying the 'family plan' rate anyway, it wouldn't make a difference in cost whether you're on it or not. I guess it depends on the type of insurance he has.

The idea of coming to an agreement w/him and then legalizing it sounds like a much nicer way to do things. Best of luck to you.

 

[snoopy]

My brother and his ex-wife have a very amicable divorce, thank goodness. He attended her wedding to her new husband, and they all often have dinner together, and once even vacationed together. The kids as a result are very well rounded and settled. I think they were able to have this good relationship because like you said, although they weren't still in love with each another, they did still love and care about each other, and above all, they wanted what was best for their kids.

Better that than a bitter mommy and daddy, Serena. Your girls will appreciate the fact that their parents weren't at each others throats all the time.

 

[Leota]

Serena, you guys are not strange at all - That's how divorced parents SHOULD act. My parents were seperated for 5-6 years & they remained friendly & civil to each other. My Dad paid all our bills so Mom could keep us in the house & living the way we were used to. It really helped us kids out tremendously.
I was naive enough to think that that was how my own divorce would work. But, with my ex, that wasn't possible at all. I see the scars it has left on Max & it breaks my heart that he has to go thru it. My ex has remained just as bitter 13 years after the divorce as he did the day I left...That is NOT in Max's best interest & I'm ashamed to say it is so bad, but it is.
I applaud you & your ex (just on this part tho, not the rest) for keeping your kids best interests in mind.
Good Luck - you know I'm always sending you Love, Peace & Joy

 

[Serena]

Thank you. Like always, you make me feel better.

 

[December99]

Laurie...he is right about the insurance but you can go for getting what he is giving you monetarily. Just talk to you lawyer and she will be able to tell you what is best in that sense. Most important is him helping with the kids...keeping them on his insurance (which he can be obliged to do).