An evening update on my mom- i feel guilty!

[mudnuri]

I didnt go see my mom today in the hospital.

I had to go through her things and find her bills, pay them, get groceries for my uncle (that she normally does, he's disabled) study for 2 exams- 1 make up for friday since I was at the hospital, and try to find my house as well. I hadnt studyied at all for either of the exams, as she fell at 7pm thursday- which was suppose to be my study night for friday's exam...

My brother/wife/son went and my grandparents went

But I still feel guilty. I called her 6 times throughout the day- the last time just a few minutes ago, and she said she was tired and going to sleep...

She's doing much better- the anti-depressent is back in her system, which is making things better. She was up in the recliner again for 4 hours- transfered as well as yesterday- with her doing the majority of the work, nurses just there for support, and to make her feel safer. She ate well, I spoke with her nurses and she seems to be doing better....

Hopefully tomorrow or Tuesday at the latest, she will be transfered down here to a rehab center- about 1/2 hour away instead of the 3

why do I feel so damn guilty that I didnt go today, even though I know she had people with her for the majority of the day, and I had stuff that I HAD to do.....

ugh

off to shower, then study some more.......

Brandy

 

[holycow]

Don't beat yourself up! She had other family with her and is doing well. You were helping her by taking care of things she normally would take care of. Did she express to you that she missed having you there? You sound like you care very much and you will be able to visit her soon when she is transferred right?

hugs and good thoughts sent to you and your DM....

Holycow

 

[Tinkbell]

I know how you are feeling. Don't feel guilty. If you can't take good care of yourself, you are of no use to anyone else. Mom knows you love her.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

It is that thing that women have....take care of others before ourselves. Tends to be a little tough to focus sometimes.

You have done nothing wrong, so get rid of that guilt and take care of yourself!

 

[mudnuri]

Don't beat yourself up! She had other family with her and is doing well. You were helping her by taking care of things she normally would take care of. Did she express to you that she missed having you there? You sound like you care very much and you will be able to visit her soon when she is transferred right?

hugs and good thoughts sent to you and your DM....

Holycow

oh yeah, and I've been there since the night she was sent via ambulance. Matter of fact, I'm the only one to have gone Thurs/Fri/Sat, so I feel Crappy not going on Sunday

She asked this morning if I was coming, I said if I did it would be late, she said not too, to take care of what I needed to take care of etc.. but I still feel like crap.

I just called now at 9, and spoke to her nurse who said she's been sleeping since i called last, so thats good news.

now lets just pray they transfer her tomorrow- or I'll feel even worse if I cant get there today, AND tomorrow...with halloween and all, I cant make the 3 hour trek tomorrow....Tuesday- yes...Monday no...ugh

Brandy

 

[Chris2597]

Brandy
I must have missed your OP....What happened? I hope everything is ok.
chris

 

[Sparx]

 

[mudnuri]

Brandy
I must have missed your OP....What happened? I hope everything is ok.
chris

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=946316

she's doing better.........thankfully but still almost 3 hours away

Brandy

 

[Mysteria]

Please don't beat yourself up. You are doing everything you can. I hope she continues to improve and gets moved closer to you quickly.

Myst

 

[minniecarousel]

Brandy - I guess I haven't been on the boards at the right times this weekend to see your posts - I'm all caught up now!

First of all - I will keep your Mom in my prayers. Secondly, DO NOT FEEL GUILTY! (sorry for the shouting) There were people to be with her and you had to get other things done. I remember when my Mom was in the hosp for her triple by-pass. Several of my siblings were going to the hosp on the Fourth of July to see her and I said I'd stay away (I'd been with her every day since she'd been admitted). I ended up going by to see her - but it's only a fifteen minute drive. Just letting you know that I know how you feel!

Hang in there! (I hope she gets transferred close-by soon.)