American Girl Doll

[stczt]

I am sooo mad at my daughter, I went into her room today while she was at school, the dog was on her bed so I went in to pet her anyways, I see Elizabeth on her floor so I picked her up and was going to put her on the shelf. I thought she looked odd, so I asked my dh if it was just me or was her hair shorter. He said I wasn't crazy. So I grabbed her other doll and put them in my room. When she got home I asked her about it. she said she didn't cut her hair. I gave her 3 chances to tell me the truth, then I called her out. She said her hair was uneven. She did do a good job and it looks cute, she left it midback.I found the dolls hair in a small american girl bag not even hiding. And have been looking for my scissors which I found under her bed.
I am so upset at her for lying. And the dolls I want to have them re-headed and sell them. I just don't get it. I am just so glad I didn't get her one for Christmas. I feel like she just don't appreciate it.
Thank you for letting me vent.


She is 11. I came to the conclusion that they are her dolls and if she wants to shave it bald and write on it with sharpies that's her business. I wont buy one for her anytime soon. I did put it into perspective that Dad or grandpa would have to work so many hours to buy another one. I just dont want her to not appreciate what she has, they are not cheap dolls and if I fixed it would only make it worse. As for lying... I'm thinking no tv or cell phone.

 

[freckles and boo]

Vent away. I understand the anger, but that is what girls do. They do it with $8 Barbies and overpriced American Girl dolls. They do it to each other. They know they shouldn't but I have never met a girl who hasn't. Plus, it belongs to her and she gets to deal with the fact that her doll now has short hair. I think reselling it is extreme. Punish her for lying but get over the haircut.

 

[handinpocket]

It is just a doll. Kids do these kinds of things. Wait until she is older to buy her expensive dolls that you want her to keep in pristine condition.

 

[crz4mm2]

Better than her own hair

 

[NikitaZee]

I am sooo mad at my daughter, I went into her room today while she was at school, the dog was on her bed so I went in to pet her anyways, I see Elizabeth on her floor so I picked her up and was going to put her on the shelf. I thought she looked odd, so I asked my dh if it was just me or was her hair shorter. He said I wasn't crazy. So I grabbed her other doll and put them in my room. When she got home I asked her about it. she said she didn't cut her hair. I gave her 3 chances to tell me the truth, then I called her out. She said her hair was uneven. She did do a good job and it looks cute, she left it midback.I found the dolls hair in a small american girl bag not even hiding. And have been looking for my scissors which I found under her bed.
I am so upset at her for lying. And the dolls I want to have them re-headed and sell them. I just don't get it. I am just so glad I didn't get her one for Christmas. I feel like she just don't appreciate it.
Thank you for letting me vent.

How old is she? I'd put the scissors someplace where she can't get to them and possibly do more damage than to a doll's hair.

I agree with PP - I wouldn't be too upset over it. Talk with her about lying, but don't get rid of her dolls.

 

[BellePrincessBelle]

IMO AG dolls are meant to be played with. No she shouldn't have cut the hair but really big deal . We've had arms and legs put back on in the doll hospital and I give them right back. I'd rather spend the money & know they're loved/played with then keep them on a shelf for looking.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

Vent away. I understand the anger, but that is what girls do. They do it with $8 Barbies and overpriced American Girl dolls. They do it to each other. They know they shouldn't but I have never met a girl who hasn't. Plus, it belongs to her and she gets to deal with the fact that her doll now has short hair. I think reselling it is extreme. Punish her for lying but get over the haircut.

Nope sorry not all girls do it. If my DD cut her $100.00 AG doll's hair there would be serious consequences.

DD (6) just got her first AG doll for Christmas. Julie We had a long talk about the hair, clothes and taking care of them. She had a Target fake AG doll for a year for a trial run and didn't take care of it, so it delayed her getting the real thing.

She ended up losing a boot to one of the outfits and was punished. Harsh maybe , but those outfits aren't cheap, She ended up finding it and believe me those clothes are put away perfectly now and that doll is immaculate. She plays with Julie constantly. A kid can play with a doll and still take care of it.

I wouldn't sell them , but I would think of one heck of a punishment. How old is she?

 

[BellePrincessBelle]

Nope sorry not all girls do it. If my DD cut her $100.00 AG doll's hair there would be serious consequences.

DD (6) just got her first AG doll for Christmas. Julie We had a long talk about the hair, clothes and taking care of them. She had a Target fake AG doll for a year for a trial run and didn't take care of it, so it delayed her getting the real thing.

She ended up losing a boot to one of the outfits and was punished. Harsh maybe , but those outfits aren't cheap, She ended up finding it and believe me those clothes are put away perfectly now and that doll is immaculate. She plays with Julie constantly. A kid can play with a doll and still take care of it.

I wouldn't sell them , but I would think of one heck of a punishment. How old is she?

She's 6 so never say never. My kids have never cut doll hair but it's not their thing. I know I sure did. You punished a 6 yo for losing a boot? That is way harsh IMO I save my battles for bigger issues.

 

[dislaney]

I'm grateful mine only cut her Barbie doll's hair. By the time she got AG dolls she was old enough to know better. Sorry OP but I don't think I would sell the dolls. Hopefully your just venting about that. And I would be madder about the lying myself and yes she would get some sort of punishment for that for sure.

 

[freckles and boo]

Nope sorry not all girls do it. If my DD cut her $100.00 AG doll's hair there would be serious consequences.

DD (6) just got her first AG doll for Christmas. Julie We had a long talk about the hair, clothes and taking care of them. She had a Target fake AG doll for a year for a trial run and didn't take care of it, so it delayed her getting the real thing.

She ended up losing a boot to one of the outfits and was punished. Harsh maybe , but those outfits aren't cheap, She ended up finding it and believe me those clothes are put away perfectly now and that doll is immaculate. She plays with Julie constantly. A kid can play with a doll and still take care of it.

I wouldn't sell them , but I would think of one heck of a punishment. How old is she?

Different strokes. If my kids lose something they value they either are out of luck or they have to use their own funds to replace it. We decided against getting sucked into the American Girl doll vortex for that very reason. I would hate to get stressed out about something as inconsequential as a doll shoe. And I stand by my original statement. I have never met a little girl who hasn't tried to cut a doll's hair. Your daughter has had her doll exactly one month. Let us know in a year if she can find every accessory and hasn't taken a snip.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

She's 6 so never say never. My kids have never cut doll hair but it's not their thing. I know I sure did. You punished a 6 yo for losing a boot? That is way harsh IMO I save my battles for bigger issues.

Thats right your opinion . A boot on a $30.00 outfit. Sorry maybe you can just go out and buy new outfits and dolls everytime your kids destroy them, but I can't. Either she takes care of what she has, or there are consequences. She knows this, but chose to ignore my warnings because she thought I wouldn't follow through. She also got a case for Christmas that fits all the clothes she just didn't feel like putting the outfit away, it got thrown somewhere and 2 weeks later it was found. Now she knows I'll follow through and takes care of what AG stuff she has.

Kids need to learn to care of stuff. I'm sick of friends coming over and trashing things of my kids because they can do it at home.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

Different strokes. If my kids lose something they value they either are out of luck or they have to use their own funds to replace it. We decided against getting sucked into the American Girl doll vortex for that very reason. I would hate to get stressed out about something as inconsequential as a doll shoe. And I stand by my original statement. I have never met a little girl who hasn't tried to cut a doll's hair. Your daughter has had her doll exactly one month. Let us know in a year if she can find every accessory and hasn't taken a snip.

I will. But she really doesn't have that personality. My DD loves loves loves long hair. She has very slow growing hair and envies every kid with long hair. I just trimmed my DD's hair last night , you know just to get off the split ends and she cried for 20 minutes. Julie has blonde waist length hair.

I do agree with you about this AG crap. It does stress me out. All her friends have them and she begged and begged. Mom succumbed to peer pressure.

 

[mjkacmom]

Thats right your opinion . A boot on a $30.00 outfit. Sorry maybe you can just go out and buy new outfits and dolls everytime your kids destroy them, but I can't. Either she takes care of what she has, or there are consequences. She knows this, but chose to ignore my warnings because she thought I wouldn't follow through. She also got a case for Christmas that fits all the clothes she just didn't feel like putting the outfit away, it got thrown somewhere and 2 weeks later it was found. Now she knows I'll follow through and takes care of what AG stuff she has.

Kids need to learn to care of stuff. I'm sick of friends coming over and trashing things of my kids because they can do it at home.

I'd be surprised if we had two matching pieces of footwear for the American Girl dolls! I can't even keep track of what stuff is from dd13, who handed the dolls down to dd6 and dd8. Who care if the doll is missing a boot - they don't actually walk. All of the clothes are in bins in their room (or under the bed, under the dresser, in the living room toy bin, under the coach...). I gave up organization 4 kids ago, and we just get by. However, if you lose it, I'm certainly not replacing it. I can't even tell you how many childrens' shoes are hiding in this home...

 

[scottishduffy]

I did this to a Samantha doll when i was about 7 or 8. I cut her hair shoulder length.

My mom just let me live with the dolls short hair, and when I eventually wanted her normal again my allowance payed to have the doll re-headed at AG hospital. I don't recall being punished. She just let me decide when I cared enough to fix her. It was the only one of my dolls I did that to, I got felicity a short while later and never cut her hair.

I played with that doll almost every day and as a natural consequence I lost a few outfit pieces and occassionally was rough with her.

 

[belle&sebastiansmom]

She ended up losing a boot to one of the outfits and was punished. Harsh maybe , but those outfits aren't cheap,

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

I'm sorry all of you think that me punishing my daughter for losing a boot is harsh. I said it was. If you don't agree with my decision, then so be it. My kid, my rules...period. Not like I beat her. She got a TV for Christmas and wasn't aloud to watch it until she found the boot. Its not like I sent her to juvie, gees people. I can do it too.

 

[BellePrincessBelle]

Thats right your opinion . A boot on a $30.00 outfit. Sorry maybe you can just go out and buy new outfits and dolls everytime your kids destroy them, but I can't. Either she takes care of what she has, or there are consequences. She knows this, but chose to ignore my warnings because she thought I wouldn't follow through. She also got a case for Christmas that fits all the clothes she just didn't feel like putting the outfit away, it got thrown somewhere and 2 weeks later it was found. Now she knows I'll follow through and takes care of what AG stuff she has.

Kids need to learn to care of stuff. I'm sick of friends coming over and trashing things of my kids because they can do it at home.

1st of all my kids don't destroy the AG outfits and they have every AG doll made. 2nd shoes get lost, they get found, they're in the house somewhere. I don't replace. You're right your child your rules however some of us don't think losing a DOLL shoe is a punishable crime. No offense but I find it a little silly. My kids know if they lose it they're without it thats all no other consequence and you know what? They're good kids, the never trash anything at a friends house (wish I could say the same for guests that come here) and they're respectful so it works for me.

 

[overlyspoiled4sure]

Yup, your house, your rules. The child's age was never mentioned; it should be remembered the 18" AG stuff is for children 8 years old & up. Bitty baby is for children 3 years old & up.

If the children in question in this thread are over 8 years old, then, yes, they should know better & have consequences. If under 8, maybe they shouldn't have had the dolls or accessories in the first place.

I'd have hit the roof if my DGD would have treated her dolls that way--cutting the hair I mean. As for losing stuff, well, I can't be a hypocrite because I couldn't keep track of my own doll accessories when I was that age.

DGD was taught in the beginning to take care of her AG stuff & she did. The things were played with lots of times & they're still in wonderful condition, ready for her to hand down to her own child when the time comes.

 

[SaraJayne]

When my DD wants her AG hair cut, she brings it to me and I cut it.

Anyone that's played with them knows the hair gets scraggly on the ends when brushed and needs to be trimmed.

My DD took her AG to the AG store and had her hair fixed in the salon, and the lady that fixed the AG hair told DD very seriously "you are only allowed to cut your doll's hair if you are over 18."

My DD totally believed her and now brings the doll to me when her hair needs to be trimmed.

As far as punishing about losting AG things, if DD loses a piece, her punishment is she doesn't have it to play with. Like another poster said, I'll save my battles for important things.

 

[Dancemom03]

As far as punishing about losting AG things, if DD loses a piece, her punishment is she doesn't have it to play with. Like another poster said, I'll save my battles for important things.

Even if I carry the doll, occassionally we'll end up somewhere with only 1 shoe. Many of the AG shoe styles fall off really easily so I sure wouldn't get stressed about one that was missing in the house for just two weeks.

I totally understand teaching responsibility but I just don't get buying a toy for a child, and then, getting upset that it is treated like a toy. Yes, it can be a pricey toy, but it's also a durable toy with quality construction made to last for years despite being owned by a child and all that entails.

As far as hair goes... neither of my DDs has ever been a budding stylist and cut any hair... unless you count their own but we won't go there right now... even so, I still assume whenever we buy a new doll that we'll likely replace the head eventually b/c brushing makes the hair very dry. IMO, if DD cut it, then DD would be playing with the doll as-is until we were ready to replace the head a few years down the road. It doesn't appear to bother the children nearly as much as the parents and who is the doll really for anyway??

We'd be discussing the dishonesty much more than the haircut in our house...