Am I wrong to do this?

[MistressOfAllEvil]

...and neither do any of my friends with children. I'm having an escape wedding in February (disney received my deposit yesterday ) and I'm having my 7yo niece in attendence, however most of our guest are coming without their children AND their significant others. Only one guest on DF's side is hesitant about coming w/o her fiance, but she's thinking he'll come to FL w/her and just not attend the wedding events. Although, we may have room for him when the dust settles. I don't have a problem with this and none of our friends have expressed any displeasure. Every single person in my life has said that it's my day and I should be able to have who I want with me; ditto for DF and his friends.

I love my peeps.

I also agree with Jil... you are entitled to your decision. And guests are entitled to theirs. So if a guest chooses not to attend, leave them be.

 

[misscmac]

I think I tend to agree with the majority that if you're having a destination wedding (especially in Disney) and families are traveling, many wouldn't feel comfortable leaving their kids with a babysitting service, especially when there are a few other kids attending the wedding. What I would like to know is a slight variation of the OP's question: What is it is an at-home (local) wedding and reception? If it wrong to invite a few kids (such close family members and their children) but not others (distant relatives, friends, ect)?

 

[BubMunkeyBles]

I guess I'm with the majority. If I was supposed to fly and spend money on a hotel I would be a little upset that I couldn't bring my kids. There are special programs that you can put them in that are Disney themed that I think would be at least a little more respectable than saying you just want to provide a babysittter.

I also don't think you should have the kids from the bridal party there at the reception. For one thing, they will get bored, especially if its supposed to be adults only, and its rude to all the parents who paid for childcare or left their kids in the room... My sister had kids in her wedding, she also had a one year old.... they all went straight home after the ceremony... Its no children or all children I think.

 

[baby1disney]

OK, I can see that's there a big confusion here. Maybe I did it. I know on my ticker I have it as a Disney/Beachy themed wedding but my wedding is here at HOME!!! LOL!! Sorry if I had you thinking it's at Disney, but it's not. Too many people that I would want to be at my wedding won't be able to make it(already asked 75% of them)that far. So that's why we're having it here at home.

Oh, believe me, if I was having a Disney wedding, I'd be more than happy to have all of the kids in the world come!!! I know alot of them in my family would never make it to Disney unless it was for that reason.

I would never have something planned at WDW and tell parents that they couldn't bring their kids unless it was an adult type vacation or something like that.

Also, I've checked into the place we're having the wedding and it's just too expensive to have a seperate party for the kids. Plus, I would have to pay per child for all of the extra stuff and some kind of insurance in case anything breaks.

Sorry for all of the confusion, but my wedding is NOT going to be at Disney. We're just going to incorporate alot of Disney at our wedding here at home.
Hope this clears up some things but if you still feel the same way, I understand. You guys have been great and please keep them coming!!!

 

[Beep]

Hi, I can fully understand how you feel.

We are planning a Disney wedding (hopefully September 2009) and it will be adults only. We are not 'children' people at all and it would make us uncomfortable to have them at our wedding. We are lucky that the people we will be inviting don't have kids, but if everything goes to plan for my friendand her husband this year than that will change!

If it does go to plan, the child will be less than 2 years old so they wouldn't want to come anyway which solves that problem.

It may sound very selfish but it is our day.

I think you need to decide whether it is a total 'kid-free' zone or not as I think parents who didn't bring their kids at your request wouldn't be very happy if there were kids there, even if they were part of the wedding party.

Good luck in whatever you decide - someone somewhere won't be happy but go with what you want.

 

[Lynn5700]

OK, I can see that's there a big confusion here. Maybe I did it. I know on my ticker I have it as a Disney/Beachy themed wedding but my wedding is here at HOME!!! LOL!! Sorry if I had you thinking it's at Disney, but it's not. Too many people that I would want to be at my wedding won't be able to make it(already asked 75% of them)that far. So that's why we're having it here at home.

Oh, believe me, if I was having a Disney wedding, I'd be more than happy to have all of the kids in the world come!!! I know alot of them in my family would never make it to Disney unless it was for that reason.

I would never have something planned at WDW and tell parents that they couldn't bring their kids unless it was an adult type vacation or something like that.

Also, I've checked into the place we're having the wedding and it's just too expensive to have a seperate party for the kids. Plus, I would have to pay per child for all of the extra stuff and some kind of insurance in case anything breaks.

Sorry for all of the confusion, but my wedding is NOT going to be at Disney. We're just going to incorporate alot of Disney at our wedding here at home.
Hope this clears up some things but if you still feel the same way, I understand. You guys have been great and please keep them coming!!!

OK if its in your home town then I think it is ok. It is your personal preference on this one. I personally would still invite the kids only because I love all my little cousins and they are all well behaved and to be honest I was in a lot of weddings when I was younger and went to them and we all sat at the kids table and we all did our own thing, behaved and had fun.

Good luck with your decision

 

[Kae]

I had an Adults only Wedding, do not regret it at all. At the time I had 1 nephew & he was 10 & 1 2nd cousin who was 6 they were both in and at the wedding & most of Mine & DH's close family were 16 & older. Yes we had some people who got mad & did not come. But over 1/2 of them we did not even know their kids. DH & I do not mind when our kids do not get invited to weddings.

Kae

 

[DisneyFairy19]

I SOOOOO AGREE WITH YOU... I am doing the same thing... The only kids are my ring bearers and flower girl... I want the adults to enjoy themselves at the wedding. So I dont think that you are doing anything wrong....

 

[NJtoATL]

I did not have a Disney wedding but I did have an adult only wedding reception. I've been to far too many weddings were the children were crying and throwing fits. I was at one wedding were I saw the children playing in the wedding cake. Yuck!!! Needless to say I didn't eat any cake that night or any other night. I refuse to eat cake a large functions were children are in attendance.

I say it's your special day , your money, your reception, do it the way you want. Good luck with your decision. Congratulations and be blessed.

 

[Lynn5700]

I did not have a Disney wedding but I did have an adult only wedding reception. I've been to far too many weddings were the children were crying and throwing fits. I was at one wedding were I saw the children playing in the wedding cake. Yuck!!! Needless to say I didn't eat any cake that night or any other night. I refuse to eat cake a large functions were children are in attendance.

I say it's your special day , your money, your reception, do it the way you want. Good luck with your decision. Congratulations and be blessed.

Oh my gosh I would freak out if that happened to my cake

 

[zeltoo]

Peoples opinion tends to be based on whether they have kids or not. If it is your choice to have an adult reception (and you are more than entitled to do what you want, it is your day!) please keep in mind that there are parent's who also make sacrifices to enjoy your day with you.

I personally invited all the kids in the world to ours. One of my guests brought coloring books and paper dolls and the kids had a party of they're own. But again, I'm a parent and we had our wedding at disney to make it more of a family occasion.

Having a plan for guests' childcare or taking advantage of Disney's offering for a separate "party" for the kids is most helpful. It doesn't mean you have to "foot the bill" though.

 

[Maddiesmum03]

I feel that is totally fine with the exception of the children from the bridal party attending. I think if someone went through a lot of trouble to hire a sitter or make arrangements to not bring their child and then there was children there, even if only a handful, that would cause some issues. I think having a separate kids party is a great idea or kids night out will watch them in a room. If you don't have a kids party then you shoudl research the options for child care and include it in a slip with your invites. Good luck

as everyone has said, to have children at the reception or not is your choice,BUT I totally agree with Skylar. It isn't fair on the parents that have left their children with someone else to then find other peoples kids running around!
This actually happened to me when my son was small. It wasnt a wedding, but a 40th birthday party, and I paid for a babysitter as he wasn't invited. He was quite a clingy child and this was never easy! When I got there there were lots of other children, I spent most of the night "dancing" with someone elses 5 year old! To say I was a bit miffed is an understatement.

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

i can recall several times my parents went "out" without me & my sis & left us with a babysitter.
Infact me & DH went on a cruise last year w/out DD
& what about company parties....mine doesnt allow kids, but its a "family practice"

So its not uncommon for parents to go to an event or even vacation minus kids.

Sure some people will be like "what the heck", but you can NEVER please everyone.

Dont let anyone sway you into doing what you dont want...kids or no kids

 

[Moonpie]

Kids don't always detract from the relaxation of the event. In fact they add a lot of charm, and create some memorable moments during important "adult" events. Sometimes having to schedule a baby sitter, and check on your kids during the event might add to the stress for some parents.

But...on the other hand...my cousin's 13 year old kid threw candy at my back during my reception. ...it created a not so charming memory for me.

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

Kids don't always detract from the relaxation of the event. In fact they add a lot of charm, and create some memorable moments during important "adult" events. Sometimes having to schedule a baby sitter, and check on your kids during the event might add to the stress for some parents.

But...on the other hand...my cousin's 13 year old kid threw candy at my back during my reception. ...it created a not so charming memory for me.

im sure it wasnt funny at the time,,,,,,but at least you can laugh about it now

 

[Moonpie]

im sure it wasnt funny at the time,,,,,,but at least you can laugh about it now

I'm not laughing. My husband's from New Jersey...he's got connections...let's just say they'll never find the body!

 

[figmentfan814]

We are also not having children under the age of 13 at our wedding or reception. Later that evening for our dessert party, kids are invited to attend. There are lots of great childcare options available on Disney property, so we are providing all of our guests with these options such as the in-room babysitters or The Neverland Club at the Polynesian. Luckily, out of 65 guests there are only around 6 kids.

I have been to several adult-only receptions at home and to me it isn't any different than our wedding at WDW. Any wedding will no doubt have guests that have traveled great distances to attend, so the fact that they are coming to Disney doesn't seem that different to us. Go with what you want and don't worry about what anyone else has to say about it.