Am I weird?

[james'mommy]

Okay so I have this little crush on one of the instructors at my son's taekwondo school. He's very sweet and quite cute. Except he's 18. I guess it's a little creepy but old men do it all the time. I called him my "precious boy" this weekend and DH gave me a "look".

 

[lovemygoofy]

I would have gotten more than a look from my husband if I called some other guy my precious boy.

What would you do if your husband called some other girl his precious girl?

I don't think it is weird to have a crush though. I just wouldn't be vocal about it.

 

[minkydog]

Yeah, I don't think I'd call him "my precious boy" anymore. I think it's not unusual for women to be attracted to men who are much younger--I mean, men do it all the time.You're a healthy woman who is attracted to good-looking men. The fact that he is barely an adult would be a little icky, but it wouldn't necessarily stop the fantasy. I think I'd advise that you limit your contact with this young man and keep the relationship very professional. You don't want to toy with him. And keep your fantasies to yourself--don't share them with your DH. That's not fair to him. You don't want to bring trouble home, ya know?

BTW--gird your loins. I posted something recently about having a dream about the 23yo young man who lives with us. I was crucified. Just saying...

 

[smkiya]

There's going to be a lot of eye rolling at my house on November 20th, when my precious Edward hits the big screen again!

He had Baywatch...

But really, I think maybe I'd keep that one quiet. A character is one thing...

 

[james'mommy]

DH was the one who started it. We were at belt testing for DS and Patrick was helping out. DH was like "oooh look there's your man" and "you luuuuuv Patrick". He's been teasing me for years about liking the kid. All the mom's love him. I think he's got his eye on one of the mamas.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Okay so I have this little crush on one of the instructors at my son's taekwondo school. He's very sweet and quite cute. Except he's 18. I guess it's a little creepy but old men do it all the time. I called him my "precious boy" this weekend and DH gave me a "look".

"precious boy" is a little freaky

 

[AlexWyattMommy]

Not weird.

I do agree with keeping it to yourself though. I'm not so sure I would appreciate my DH calling some cute young thing "his precious" anything. Actually, a skillet would come to mind.

It's much easier to have crushes on people you won't ever see in real life, like characters or actors/singers/musicians. You don't ever have to worry that it will come out and make the other person uncomfortable.

Keep your crush, just keep it to yourself.

 

[MizTink]

Yeah, I don't think I'd call him "my precious boy" anymore. I think it's not unusual for women to be attracted to men who are much younger--I mean, men do it all the time.You're a healthy woman who is attracted to good-looking men. The fact that he is barely an adult would be a little icky, but it wouldn't necessarily stop the fantasy. I think I'd advise that you limit your contact with this young man and keep the relationship very professional. You don't want to toy with him. And keep your fantasies to yourself--don't share them with your DH. That's not fair to him. You don't want to bring trouble home, ya know?

BTW--gird your loins. I posted something recently about having a dream about the 23yo young man who lives with us. I was crucified. Just saying...

i remember that!!!! it was going through my head before i got to your post! i knew what was coming for the op!!!

 

[Magic Mom]

Having a crush is normal. Calling an 18 YO your "precious boy" is a little wierd. Saying it outloud is a little more wierd.

 

[lifenthetropics]

Was this you? Because if it was, you are just asking for a divorce. If not, I apologize.


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09-11-2009, 10:03 AM #1
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I am so ashamed that I am not even bothering to post under another name. A few years ago I started an email relationship with an ex boyfriend. A year and a half ago when I was back home because my dad was in the hospital I met up with the guy. One thing led to another and I ended up cheating on my husband. I was ready to leave my husband. I ended up staying and we worked things out. Eventually he was able to start trusting me again. I promised that I would never contact him again. Yesterday I was stupid and sent the man a message through facebook. My husband found out last night. He told me to leave. I refused and he said he would leave. We talked and he said he would not leave last night. Today he said he would be home after work. But that doesn't mean he won't leave tomorrow or the next day. I've begged for my husband's forgiveness. Promised I would never do it again. Swore that he means the whole world to me. Begged him not to leave. I made an emergency appointment with our marriage counselor. I promised to go into individual counseling. I called this morning and left a message to set up an appointment. I've promised to never lie to him again. I need suggestion for what else I can do to try and make this better. I'm at a loss. Please help.
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[MizTink]

me and my sister have been noticing some of our son's friends.......creepy to see them grow up into hot young things!!! she jokingly calls one boy named Rob, "Hot Rob"!!! LOL all the girls like him and he loves working out and walking around without a shirt.
i will say that when we say something about any of the boys in our sons' group we usually say that you can tell they WILL be hot in a few more years. just turning 18 is just icky!! maybe since we know them.
if i see a cute boy that we don't know i'll say IF i was 18 again he'd be in trouble!!!!

 

[a1tinkfans]

Having a crush is normal. Calling an 18 YO your "precious boy" is a little wierd. Saying it outloud is a little more wierd.

Gotta LOVE the DIS, just say it like ya see it!

 

[a1tinkfans]

Was this you? Because if it was, you are just asking for a divorce. If not, I apologize.


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james'mommy
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I am so ashamed that I am not even bothering to post under another name. A few years ago I started an email relationship with an ex boyfriend. A year and a half ago when I was back home because my dad was in the hospital I met up with the guy. One thing led to another and I ended up cheating on my husband. I was ready to leave my husband. I ended up staying and we worked things out. Eventually he was able to start trusting me again. I promised that I would never contact him again. Yesterday I was stupid and sent the man a message through facebook. My husband found out last night. He told me to leave. I refused and he said he would leave. We talked and he said he would not leave last night. Today he said he would be home after work. But that doesn't mean he won't leave tomorrow or the next day. I've begged for my husband's forgiveness. Promised I would never do it again. Swore that he means the whole world to me. Begged him not to leave. I made an emergency appointment with our marriage counselor. I promised to go into individual counseling. I called this morning and left a message to set up an appointment. I've promised to never lie to him again. I need suggestion for what else I can do to try and make this better. I'm at a loss. Please help.
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[DisneyBrideToni]

I think it's weird. I can't even imagine what my husband would think if I called an 18 year old or any guy for that matter my "precious boy". I think I would be having a "precious" seperation.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

okay--thought it was okay if you were single (and if a basic crush, no biggie if you weren't), thought "precious boy" was very very weird, then found out you had a DH and you said this to him.

My answer to your question is YES.

 

[Magic Mom]

Gotta LOVE the DIS, just say it like ya see it!

Well ...she asked.
Maybe I shouldn't have been so blunt.

 

[AshleyW]

DH was the one who started it. We were at belt testing for DS and Patrick was helping out. DH was like "oooh look there's your man" and "you luuuuuv Patrick". He's been teasing me for years about liking the kid. All the mom's love him. I think he's got his eye on one of the mamas.

He's been teasing you for years about an 18 year old.. so since the boy was like 14/15/16-ish I didn't think the original scenario was all that weird.. but that definitely made it cross wayyyyy into weirdo land, with no chance at coming back.

 

[alexandria674]

Umm, calling someone precious boy in front of your husband? Yeah thats a bit off.

The fact that he is 18 years old now and you liked him for a while is even more kooky.

 

[Mermaid02]

If you can't say anything nice............. no comment.

 

[3jsmommy]

Yes, I think it's wierd that you've had a crush on a teenager for years, actually maybe wierd isn't the right word!
My younger brother is 18, if I ever heard one of my friends call him her "precious boy" I'd tell her she needed some help.