Am I crazy or is she?

[ilisao]

For your poor sons's sakes, please get some help to get over these issues you have with boys/men.

I would have my children run far away from anyone who harbored such resentment against the gender of a child.

Agreed.

 

[Mkrop]

Sorry Becca, I guess I did forget to answer the question.

1. I have known an incidence where someone's child died in a housefire during a sleepover.

2. I know someone who was molested by an older brother of her best friend while at a sleepover

3. I know an instance where a twin shot and killed his brother while playing with guns.

4. I have had an experience where my son was invited to a kindergarden friend's birthday and when I took him all the adults/chaperones were DRUNK.


So therefore my rules have been adapted from life experiences. I know that you can't protect your children from everything (wouldn't it be great if we could). But I do try my best to keep them from being placed in "sticky" situations. Like most parents we do have discussion about what to do in case this happens.

Like I said, I didn't mean to start a grand debate. Sorry to the original poster for getting the thread so off topic. I simply was trying to share my opinion that each parent has different rules and anxieties about sleepovers. I'm sure that the mother in question will feel most reassured to see that everything will be fine for her daughter to spend the night and maybe it'll be a good time to remind your family about what to do in case of ......... Good luck and I hope the girls have a great time!

I am sorry your life experinces have tainted your views on ALL males.

So do your kids NOT got to bday parties anymore bc a group of parents were drunk, do you hold that against all bday throwing parents.

I am sorry but your logic doesnt make sense.

Molestation can happen anywhere, I agree we have to prepare our kids to get themselves out of a sticky siutation and I dont want to put my kids in questionable situations but we cant assume that every person is doing it esp all the brothers of the world.

Unforutnately while you are protecting from the brothers, the youth pastor or the basketball coach could be just as dangerous.

 

[ilisao]

Molestation can happen anywhere, I agree we have to prepare our kids to get themselves out of a sticky siutation and I dont want to put my kids in questionable situations but we cant assume that every person is doing it esp all the brothers of the world.

Unforutnately while you are protecting from the brothers, the youth pastor or the basketball coach could be just as dangerous.

Yep. And most instances of molestation are by people the victim knows.

 

[PatsGirl]

Back to the OP: I think I'd welcome her over and squash her fears. Yeah, it seems a bit overboard but we don't have any idea why. I think it's odd that she didn't extend an explanation but she must have her reasons.

Now, as to the topic at hand: While I understand everyone's differing opinions on what is okay and not okay with sleepovers (or not allowing them at all), I think at some age, and 3rd grade or age 9 seems relatively appropriate, you need to assume you've taught your children some basic safety rules. While DD does not have her own cell phone and I don't insist that she call home before going to bed a sleepovers (this is a pet peeve with me but that's for another thread, lol), I do my best to trust her instincts and those things that I have taught her, one of those being that she can call home at ANY time and should never feel uncomfortable asking the parents/friend to use their phone, any time day or night.

I see that many of you would not let your children sleep at my house because you most likely will find me on the deck having a beer while the kids are watching Spongebob (Oh, sorry, wrong thread ) and we don't have a posted escape route. Of course, most of our rooms have windows, I know my safety route, DD and most other kids have been taught stop,drop,roll, and I only consume alcohol when I'm pretty sure I won't have to drive, the pretty much leaving a margin for emergencies that don't require an ambulance. Oh, and lest we forget, I have DS18 and a few of his friends hanging around trying to stay AWAY from the irritating, pre-adolescent 11 year old gigglers!

No offense please, just a stab at funnin

In all seriousness, I have an issue with single mothers who have men staying over that they haven't been with for a long period of time. I find this is not that uncommon. I am single but I would not have a boyfriend spend the night or left with your child (or mine for that matter) until I was VERY serious with him. It just gives me goosebumps to think what might happen and I know this is done quite commonly, a single mom trusting their kids to the guy they think is "all that" ~~ not in my house.

 

[Beth76]

So therefore my rules have been adapted from life experiences. I know that you can't protect your children from everything (wouldn't it be great if we could). But I do try my best to keep them from being placed in "sticky" situations.

Well then it seems, from your experience, that the best thing to do would be not allow sleepovers at all. But your specific choosing is what's offensive. And again, you still haven't answered about dads.

BTW, I know someone who was killed in a car accident while it was raining. I still take my kids out in the rain.