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[chrissyk]

I'd totally dump him. Would he have mentioned his "drunken lapse of judgement" if he hadn't gotten caught in the act I wouldn't trust someone who had cheated even once.

 

[Microcell]

From this guys perspective, she's got to ose this guy. As foolishmortal said, he's ony sorry because he got caught. I am a firm believe that one a cheater always a cheater. And seeing that sort of thing, you don't forget and it can cause problems later.
My question is why were these two bums hanging out with other women in the poo to begin with....dumb. Dump him

Cheers -
Jungle Josh

Men willing to put themselves in tempting situations opens them up to doing tempting things. Not worth her time.

 

[vettechick99]

I do not believe "once a cheater, always a cheater", however, to do something like that when the GF is just a few feet away? Sorry, the relationship has been over for a while. She should be glad they never got married or had kids.

 

[MICKEY88]

It's guys like him that make it hard for some women to trust men,

why was he in a HOT TUB with another woman in the first place ? if he wanted some female company he should have gone and crawled in bed with his girlfriend..

if he's bold enough to do this when his girl friend is so close what will he do if they're in separate towns..


alcohol is no excuse, if he can't control his behavior while drinking he should never drink again if he wants to be in a relationship

 

[coliebird]

Is there some reason why they have been together for 5 years and they haven't married?

I say dump him.....kissing girls and hot tubbing while the gal was asleep No Way!

My husband and I were together 7 years before we got married so I don't think you can use that as an indication of what their relationship is like.

As for your friend, if I was her I would probably end it.

 

[Disney Doll]

I hate when people use the excuse "It's because of this that I did that". Quite frankly, if BF knows he loses self-control when he gets drunk, then DON"T GET DRUNK!!!!! That kind of solves the problem. I had a friend whose husband cheated on her because his father was dying of cancer. His lame excuse "It's because my father is sick, I couldn't cope & was under a lot of stress, so went out and had an affair". Hello???!!!!!!! As i said to her at the time "So, every time there is something "stressful" going on in his life, he's going to go and have an affair??"

Stupid move on BF's part, to get drunk and stupid with his GF close by. But, as another poster pointed out...kind of interesting that they have a 5 year relationship, 2 of those years live-in, and no talk of marriage. I'd also like to imagine (or perhaps I wouldn't ) what he does when his GF isn't around.

I'd lose him and advise him not to drink anymore. It makes him stupid.

 

[Patty3]

I agree with the others that said to "dump him". She was with him on this trip and if he wanted to kiss someone, she was right in their room. I would not trust this guy, drink is not an excuse.

 

[WeirdEyes]

He's been a "live in" boyfriend for 2 years (5 total).

No wedding plans mentioned?

Is it possible he's not ready for commitment anytime soon? Hot tub action on the side. (What's going on underwater?)

Run, Jesse, run.

ITA!!

 

[Poohgirl]

Is there some reason why they have been together for 5 years and they haven't married?

Actually they do want to be married, but she was married before which didn't work out so good and is gun shy. So they are holding off.

 

[DannyBoston]

I think she needs to ask herself...... she can forgive and forget ? or forgive and not forget ??
I couldn't !
Can she continue the relationship and not worry every time he goes out for a few drinks ??
He did what he did and she wasn't very far away (sleeping in the hotel room) what could happen if he (or she) goes out of town for business ???

 

[Tasha+Scott]

I'm no expert but I do have a great marriage!

My opinion? Her boyfriend obviously doesn't respect her too much if he's willing to do that in open view where his girlfriend could easily see him as she did. They aren't married and have no kids so they have no major ties to eachother. I say dump him. My dh would say the same thing and he would have dumped me had he caught me kissing another guy while we were dating. It's better that she get rid of him before they end up getting married or having kids or she may have a bitter divorce and fight for custody in her future. JMO.

 

[Poohgirl]

Right now the "dump hims" are ahead of the "stay put's" tough crowd.

 

[MICKEY88]

Right now the "dump hims" are ahead of the "stay put's" tough crowd.

I would call that a SMART crowd

 

[bananiem]

I agree with everything the other "dump him" posters said. She deserves better.

 

[MICKEY88]

Actually they do want to be married, but she was married before which didn't work out so good and is gun shy. So they are holding off.

all the more reason to dump him...if he uses alcohol as an excuse for jumping in a hot tub as his girlfriend sleeps, odds are it won't work out any better than her first marriage..

 

[dadtoagirl]

Perhaps the young ladies lips were very dry from the heat of the jacuzzi and he simply was trying to reinject some moisture to her dry chapped lips.

Or maybe he was trying to get .

Hard to say

 

[MICKEY88]

Perhaps the young ladies lips were very dry from the heat of the jacuzzi and he simply was trying to reinject some moisture to her dry chapped lips.

Or maybe he was trying to get .

Hard to say

odd are he was trying to give ..

not get

 

[Wishing on a star]

Kissing complete strangers...drunk These are friends I've known for 13 years. I am in complete shock they would do something like this...I don't even know what to say.

I totally agree!!!!!

If my BF/Husband ended up hot-tubbing and smooching with other women just cause he was having a beer with a buddy, and the opportunity arose....

Definately NOT a forgivable mistake. And, your friends BF did this right there under her nose!!!! Right along with a mutual 'married' friend!!!! While he left her ALONE when he and your friend were supposed to be on a getaway spending time TOGETHER!!! Your friend, and her feelings, are NOT very high on this BF's list.

Nope, not a 'mistake'... No way, no how!!! Nothing but complete emotional and moral bankruptcy. Pure and simple.

And, poohgirl, this friend has NO ring on her finger. NO marriage certificate. Therefore, NO nothing to begin with!!!! Sorry, but she is getting just what she bargained for.

NOW, how you deal with your DH's defense of this incidence... Is he not smart enought to at least PRETEND to agree that this behavior is not acceptable, to you, his wife????

 

[Wishing on a star]

odd are he was trying to give ..

not get

This thread needs a good laugh!!!!

 

[Skywalker]

Yuck! If I ever saw my husband plant a full-fledged kiss on another woman then those lips would not touch me again. Double yuck.

This guy made a series of decisions which led him there. The drinking, the hot tubbing with these women in the first place, the obvious flirtation there probably was during this whole time leading up to "the kiss".

I don't know how she could ever trust him to be so much as alone in the next room with anyone ever again.

If your friend has had a bad experience before, then she does not need someone like this - tell her that being "gun shy" has paid off. Find someone with a good head on their shoulders and their good judgement intact. Life's better with someone like that.