All packed and ready to go....but....

[snookhams]

All packed and ready to go, but I am having a really big guilt trip now that DH and I are off on our own early tomorrow morning - I have even said to DH should we go They have known for a year now that we are going on our own and I think on the whole they are fine with it, its just me, our first hol without the boys to celebrate our silver wedding anniversary - I really hope that my guilt does not spoil the holiday. I am not at all worried about them being home alone as we are blessed with two really sensible boys and my parents only live a three minute walk away . If I feel like this now how will I feel tomorrow when we arrive at Heathrow!

 

[zippy99]

Aww don't feel guilty - but I know where you are coming from. I long for the day when myself and DH can go just the two of us - although I can't see that being anytime soon - DD will reach 30 and still want to come with us.

Have a wonderful time - this is your special trip xx

 

[flortlebap]

Don't feel guilty.

We just got back from a week long trip as our four kids went away with their grandparents. We managed to keep the fact we were in Disney a secret though and told them we were in Europe.

Yes we felt a little bad, but it was a once in a lifetime chance and its SO different going as a couple than going as a large family. You can do what you want for a change without worrying about keeping everyone else happy and forgetting to focus on yourself!

It's your anniversary so don't feel bad about it. There's plenty of years left if you want to go back as a family. Enjoy the couple time.

PS - once we got there we enjoyed every minute. You will miss them but it shouldn't stop you from enjoying your anniversary and a trip that's been planned for a year!

 

[Tony Toon]

Last year was the first time we had ever gone without DS or DD and like you I had reservations when we booked and then as the time came to go these multiplied somewhat. However I really had to face the fact that our children are grown up and didn't really need their Mum there all the time and that DH and I would be fine once we got there. We kept in touch regularly with Skype, Facebook etc and had a fantastic holiday. Went on our own again this year and had an even better time! I'm sure you'll be fine once you get there. Enjoy!

Mrs TT

 

[wilma-bride]

No need to feel guilty at all (although it's completely understandable). At least you have been honest with them, they should be happy for you (and it sounds as though they probably are) that you are getting to enjoy some precious 'couple' time together. I always feel guilty when we go to WDW without our kids (even in recent years when DD has chosen not to come with us) but our kids are great about it - and they know they'll get plenty of 'guilt gifts' when we get home

Have a fab time

 

[tinks_1989]

I'm 24 (on Friday) and still going with mum and dad this year lol. We have been with out them though and they have been with out us.

 

[PJB71]

Your bound to feel like that, I'm sure you will have a fantastic time

Think of it the other way, would they worry & feel guilty about going away with there pals

 

[crabbie1]

Iv just read this and I feel really bad for not taking DD11 next year with us. I feel a bit panicky actually when I think this is the first time without her in 9 years. Have 13 months to go so could all change.
You must not feel guilty your kids are grown up. Have some well deserved you time and enjoy yourselves xx

 

[Squidgyness]

M parents never went on a trip without us "kids" till I was 18, so you could have it worse. Of course that was because they didn't want to, I'd have been fine on my own years earlier, but I digress...

I did joke with them about going away on their own for their first time, but all in good taste. They enjoyed every minute of it! I'm sure you will too. Just remember, enjoying yourself doesn't stop you thinking about people you care about. You can do both!

As a matter of fact my parents are away right now, and I'm totally not jealous at all that I'm sat here house sitting for them. The fact that the last words my mother spoke before they left for the airport were "don't forget to research that disney trip!" May have had something to do with that of course

I'm sure you will be fine.

 

[snookhams]

Thank you all so much for your kind words, we are sitting at costa coffee at heathrow, I have already emailed the boys , I feel better about the trip this morning, I think that the excitement has kicked in!

 

[Lei]

Awwww don't feel guily. You'll be happier and probably more energized when you get home, and remember that saying "happy parents, happy kids"?

I understand where you're coming from, tho. I'm currently planning a Disney trip with my girl friend, leaving DH and my toddler son at home!!

I miss Disney too much, but DH simply won't go (he doesnt get Disney), and DS would be too young to appreciate the vacation. It doesn't make sense to bring him since I'd be flying from another continent.

DH is very nice and supportive, but i would probably cry myself to sleep every other night, missing DS, LOL.

Have fun and happy anniversary!