Ah, young love...

[minkydog]

DD16s boyfriend called her and asked her to go to dinner tonight. She was busily prepping and looking good. This is a newish BF; they started dating at Christmas. Her last one *the Spanish/Greek guy* stepped out on her and she cut him off cold. This boy is a little Chinese guy, very sweet, rather shy. He's been hanging out with her and her friends and he's had goo-goo eyes for her for years.Finally got the nerve to ask her out. DD is clearly crazy about him. She's going to be like me and go for the exotic guys. Tonight BF showed up with nicely styled hair,cologne, and nice jeans, a big ol' white bear, box of candy, and 1 dozen roses. This is in addition to the 1 dozen carnations he gave her Friday. He's taking her to Olive Garden(her favorite) and a movie. So sweet.

And Eric came home with his new GF today. Poor thing, he has been looking and looking for a nice girl and every one he dates is just awful. Eric is a very smart, very well-read guy who has a romantic spirit and he wants so badly to give his heart to the right girl. He just met this girl a week or so ago and it seems to be a good match--she is smart, pretty, well-mannered, accepting, a little exotic (Japanese/Black/Irish--we're just a little United Nations around here). He introduced me to her as "my adopted mother." Bless his heart, I wish his own mother was here to see how great he has turned out.

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

How sweet! Thanks for sharing your own experiences on Valentine's day.

 

[Briarmom]

DD16s boyfriend called her and asked her to go to dinner tonight. She was busily prepping and looking good. This is a newish BF; they started dating at Christmas. Her last one *the Spanish/Greek guy* stepped out on her and she cut him off cold. This boy is a little Chinese guy, very sweet, rather shy. He's been hanging out with her and her friends and he's had goo-goo eyes for her for years.Finally got the nerve to ask her out. DD is clearly crazy about him. She's going to be like me and go for the exotic guys. Tonight BF showed up with nicely styled hair,cologne, and nice jeans, a big ol' white bear, box of candy, and 1 dozen roses. This is in addition to the 1 dozen carnations he gave her Friday. He's taking her to Olive Garden(her favorite) and a movie. So sweet.

And Eric came home with his new GF today. Poor thing, he has been looking and looking for a nice girl and every one he dates is just awful. Eric is a very smart, very well-read guy who has a romantic spirit and he wants so badly to give his heart to the right girl. He just met this girl a week or so ago and it seems to be a good match--she is smart, pretty, well-mannered, accepting, a little exotic (Japanese/Black/Irish--we're just a little United Nations around here). He introduced me to her as "my adopted mother." Bless his heart, I wish his own mother was here to see how great he has turned out.

Why in the hell do you need to tell us their ethnicities?

Who cares?

 

[Rafiki31]

Why in the hell do you need to tell us their ethnicities?

Who cares?

DO you need a hug or something? Here you go

 

[acejka]

DO you need a hug or something? Here you go

I was thinking that myself, obviously that poster cared enough to post about it...

OP, I'm glad the kids had a good Valentine's Day.

 

[Pakey]

DO you need a hug or something? Here you go

Perhaps she found it as offensive as I did?

 

[minkydog]

Why in the hell do you need to tell us their ethnicities?

Who cares?

Sorry, didn't mean to offend. I just thought it was interesting. We're pretty mixed ourselves, Welsh & Greek. DD doesn't go for good ol' boys(in abundance here) and John & Eric don't go for supermodel types. They all three are more interested in someone who is ethnically different and a littl bit exotic. We have never tried to sway the kids one way or another when it comes to picking a love match. I was/am the same way and I just find it interesting that they are too.

 

[Jennasis]

Clearly this whole "exotic" thing fasinates you. To me it comes off..I dunno...off-putting. Ethnicity or "exoticness" just seems like a weird thing to keep mentioning.

However, I think it's adorable that the young man is so into your daughter.

 

[cuethemusic]

Sorry, didn't mean to offend. I just thought it was interesting. We're pretty mixed ourselves, Welsh & Greek. DD doesn't go for good ol' boys(in abundance here) and John & Eric don't go for supermodel types. They all three are more interested in someone who is ethnically different and a littl bit exotic. We have never tried to sway the kids one way or another when it comes to picking a love match. I was/am the same way and I just find it interesting that they are too.

do you put an emphasis on basing their love matches on physical appearances? Your explanation kind of comes off that way.

 

[JessicaR]

I was wondering more about the $ that BF was able to spend at 16 on Valentines Day. Lucky kid!

a big ol' white bear, box of candy, and 1 dozen roses. This is in addition to the 1 dozen carnations he gave her Friday. He's taking her to Olive Garden

 

[handinpocket]

I couldn't get past the "little chinese guy". Such a rude and snotty way to refer to someone of Asian descent.

 

[jjarman]

Wow. Y'all are really sensitive aren't you. I didn't find anything wrong about her mentioning the ethnicities. It actually helped me get a mental picture of the sweet little chinese guy with all the gifts. I loved it. Describing him as Asian American or the girlfriend as African American and Anglo-Saxon would not have described them as vividly.

But what a nice guy. Being from the south we have very little in the way of ethnicity. We are all pretty much white or black. Go ahead. Slam me for using the "B" word. I also used the "W" word too.

I am proud of your daughter for dropping the loser who stepped out on her and your son for finding a nice girl, no matter what color or ethnicity they happen to be.

 

[minkydog]

However, I think it's adorable that the young man is so into your daughter.

He really seems to adore her. They are so cute together. I would have never put them together but it turns out they have a lot in common. They're both musicians--she's show choir, he's drum & bugle corps. Prom is coming up. I wonder if she's going to invite him?

do you put an emphasis on basing their love matches on physical appearances? Your explanation kind of comes off that way.

Not really. Simply afternoon musings, talking off the top of my head...

I couldn't get past the "little chinese guy". Such a rude and snotty way to refer to someone of Asian descent.

Not meant to be rude and snotty. This young man(a very nice young man,I might add) is about 1" taller than my short daughter. They are so cute together. DD *is* fascinated by his culture and he has taken her home several times to meet his aunts and grandma.

We live in an ethnically diverse area so we have opportunities to experience some things of other cultures. DD and her friends routinely have "International Week" where they go to a different home each day and eat dinner with the parents. We all have different backgrounds and we love to share our heritage with them as they share their heritage with us.

 

[minkydog]

Wow. Y'all are really sensitive aren't you. I didn't find anything wrong about her mentioning the ethnicities. It actually helped me get a mental picture of the sweet little chinese guy with all the gifts. I loved it. Describing him as Asian American or the girlfriend as African American and Anglo-Saxon would not have described them as vividly.

But what a nice guy. Being from the south we have very little in the way of ethnicity. We are all pretty much white or black. Go ahead. Slam me for using the "B" word. I also used the "W" word too.

I am proud of your daughter for dropping the loser who stepped out on her and your son for finding a nice girl, no matter what color or ethnicity they happen to be.

Thank you. I wish you could have seen the boy standing on my porch carrying all this stuff. Too cute. I grew up in a black & white world where there was no need to learn another language because there wasn't a soul who came from another country except Costas, who owned the Chevron station. As a result of this the people had a very narrow view of the world around them. I am thrilled that my kids have the chance to broaden their experiences by having friends of all colors and ethnicities.

 

[Tuffcookie]

Minkydog,

I think your DD is lucky to have such a young man obviously "smitten" with her! He must have a good job or rich parents!

TC

 

[pigletgirl]

How nice!

As for everyone else, get over it. She wasn't being racial at all.

When *most* people describe someone it usually entails their ethnicity/heritage. Whats such a big deal over that?

 

[loveWDWalways]

Minkydog,

I bet your kids are so excited and had a memorable Valentine's with those nice friends of theirs!

I loved hearing about the ethnicities you mentioned. It seems that you take an interest in the world around you and really appreciate and learn from different cultures. I say this because I've been disappointed about and couldn't believe the lack of knowledge/interest some of the people I've just gone to college with have about the world. I could give you examples but I don't mean to be OT. I love cultures and spend a lot of time researching them, from the most common to the lesser known.

 

[bumbershoot]

Why in the hell do you need to tell us their ethnicities?

Who cares?

My husband cared; he's half Korean and didn't want to date in his own culture, and dated mostly women very opposite of his mom.

I never had any sort of preference, but I'm married to a guy who is Korean, Portuguese, and Welsh, and we talk about all sorts of ethnicities!

Growing up, my mom always pointed out the cute guys that weren't white for me to date...in fact, DH has the same unusual name in his heritage as the main guy my mom adored for me...kind of funny, and I didn't even realize it until one of my oldest friends reminded me about my mom's thing about Eugene!

So many people care. It's interesting. And when you date someone that you might marry, you then have images of the kids you might have, and that's interesting too! Our son matched nothing in our heads, he was a recessive gened surprise, but maybe the next one will look more like DH?

I couldn't get past the "little chinese guy". Such a rude and snotty way to refer to someone of Asian descent.

How? I imagine he's a small guy, since she used the word "little". I imagine he's either from China or of Chinese descent, because she, you know, used the word "Chinese", and since he's a he, that's why she used the word guy.

Not everything that mentions race is a slam. Not everyone who mentions race is doing so because they don't like other races (many of us, like DH when he talks about a certain women of Irish descent that he married, mention race because they looooooooove other races).


Y'all wouldn't have lasted a moment on our couch as we noticed the descent of most of the speed skaters in the race where Apolo took second! Let alone as we giggled over wording about the "threat" from the Korean skaters... DH told me that felt threatened by himself after hearing what a "threat" the skaters were! Fun fun fun in our house.




Minky, it sounds very lovely in your home right now. I wish everyone luck!

 

[McQuack]

Why in the hell do you need to tell us their ethnicities?

Who cares?

Because she's so freakin' exotic and accepting and deserves our highest praise.

 

[McQuack]

How? I imagine he's a small guy, since she used the word "little". I imagine he's either from China or of Chinese descent, because she, you know, used the word "Chinese", and since he's a he, that's why she used the word guy.

LOL you haven't even seen him?